I have not been back to her house since then my question is should I start going back becasue she recently called me and ask me to start coming over again should I.
2006-09-23 17:17:01 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I guess she lied because she did not want me to come over that day...
2006-09-23 17:21:25 · update #1
Screw her will Brando has used her money on drugs
NEVER GO BACK ... She lied to you that she was not going to have thanksgiving at her house and she did not want to see you!
WHY DO YOU HAVE TO FORGIVE HER??? You don't want to see her anyway
2006-09-23 17:21:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Was there someone that you were fighting with at the time or some other extenuating circumstances? Has your grandma been secretive or excluded anyone from family activities before? Most grandmas would have to have a really good reason to do something like this. Before I went back to grandma's, I would call her and ask her point blank why she had excluded me before. She may not be comfortable explaining, but I think she owes you.
2006-09-23 17:24:35 · answer #2 · answered by mama29 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So...what you're saying is that she didn't want you to be there for thanksgiving for the last 7 years and now she wants you to come?
Was there some issue in the past that you're not telling us about? If there was some reason that she didn't want you there and you two have reconsiled, then yes, you should try to join your family this year and see how it goes.
If there was no issue and she was merely rejecting you and now she suddenly wants you around, then I'd understand your reluctance.
I chose to disassociate myself from family that don't make me feel good about myself. If this will bring up bad feelings for either of you, then I'd find another place to go for thanksgiving.
2006-09-23 17:25:08 · answer #3 · answered by Chellebelle78 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all I totally understand your situation. I have experienced a similar situation with my grandmother. I haven't seen her in years either. Ask yourself this question. Do you miss your grandmother? If the answer is yes then I say go see her. Think about your decision. You don't want to end up thinking about what "might have been". If you think that you two can move past it, then go see her.
2006-09-23 17:29:56 · answer #4 · answered by chastonn b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did she lie?
Were you going through a phase in your life that you were unpleasant to be around? Adults do lie, they are only human. Maybe she wanted to have her Church lady friends over and didn't want to risk you cursing in front of them. Or maybe she just used bad judgment when lying to you.
She is your Granny, just talk to her. Tell her your feelings are hurt. Family is hard to come by, don't throw it away to easily.
2006-09-23 17:18:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you never told a lie?
She may have had a reason.....I'm not saying lies are good...They are not!
But 7yrs...for a lie?...wow, thats pretty unforgiving.......
Your just lucky, and I mean this....that she has not passed away,
and you never forgave her...and fixed the problem.
If it were me! I would be 'runnin to grandma's house!!!" and ask her 'why'.And if no answer...just let it be.....and forgive her.But, you may have to also re-think...and first ask for her to forgive your hard heart!......and learn from this.
2006-09-23 17:30:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seven years is a long time to carry a resentment around and the only one it hurts is you. Forget the past and go see her
2006-09-23 17:22:28 · answer #7 · answered by mjdp 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, sometimes we have to be the bigger person when we know someone has wronged us. Your blessed to have a family regardless of the disfunction. Perhaps you are going to be her God wink? God Winks is a great book to read, may want to read it. It talks about coincidence and how coincidences in life work together. Your in my prayers, andrea
2006-09-23 17:22:01 · answer #8 · answered by Corp. Customer S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well she s family However whoever heard of a grandma lieing heck no
2006-09-23 17:41:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That all depends...was there a good reason why she lied?...and why would it matter 7 years later. Family is very important, no matter how strange their queries or complaints
2006-09-23 17:23:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋