My girlfriend and i found out that WE were pregnant . I have allways wanted a daughter . and that is the ways the birth is ,(ultra) . The problem is , that she said; . she wants more from me , eg.. more work . $, car , house . IM only 37 ,i have a great job ( $ ok) , I try my best but would should i do ?
2006-09-23 17:09:07 · 13 answers · asked by COSMO 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
In my opinion, you are human. Try your best to do what you can. She needs to understand that raising a child takes a lot of money. A house, yes, SAVING money, yes, a car, within reason. Your not working for her, your working for your child that you are going to have together. My husband passed away when I was four months pregnant. My daughter is now three. I have gone to college full time and worked full time to support my daughter and its still not enough. I have gotten a car, and I rent a two bedroom appartment and most of the time I am flat broke after all expenses (diapers, food, all the ness.) Fact is, you can only do what you can do. Work hard to support your child. Being 37 doesnt mean that much, I am 23 now. It doesnt matter what your age is. If you need to find a better job then do so now, before the baby arrives. Make sure that you sacrifice what you can (such as eating out a lot) to save money for the baby because like i said, it's really expensive. I hope you the best of luck.
2006-09-23 17:20:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, what do you mean, you're ""Only 37"" ?? At 37 you should have your act together!
Second, despite that remark you made, if you are working then I assume you DO have your act together to some degree....you girlfriend is panicing... it is normal when expecting a baby... all kinds of things are hitting her brain.......she is scared the 2 of you will not be able to give the baby the life she deserves.
Give your girlfriend reassurance... make up a budget for money and show it to her... to show her there IS enough money. If there is NOT enough, try to get a part time 2nd job. (Your baby is worth it, right?).
And, perhaps, you should think about marrying her??? Maybe that is the reassurance she is looking for... .for the father of her baby to love her enough to want to be a real family.
2006-09-24 00:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! Your girlfriend just wants to know that you can provide for her and the baby. You're a grown man, baby is on the way, it's time to settle down, be responsible, & do what's best for the child. You should buy a house, you guys need to live together as a family - it's time for you to grow up (37 is the age of a family man, you're not that young, party is over, you're not a teenager anymore, learn to enjoy the family life, it's not so bad). You should try your best to do what's best, provide for your family. Your girlfriend should help to do her part as well though, everything is not all up to you, she needs to help out as well, but she needs to have your support too.
2006-09-24 00:21:23 · answer #3 · answered by tanner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean ONLY 37! If you can, become an adult and take on the responsibility of the new life you have created! I can't believe you're asking what you should do?? You have to have complete strangers tell you what to do??? OMG give the child up for adoption. Hopefully she'll have a better chance at life with a father who has brains and a spine!
2006-09-24 00:15:10 · answer #4 · answered by APT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm, what do you mean you are "only" 37? doesnt that mean that you should be capable of supporting your family? i'm not saying that she should be able to stay at home eternally, some families require at least 2 incomes just for "ends meat" but she will have substantial time off of work due to having the baby.
2006-09-24 00:49:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a good job & make good money do you think she got pg to trap you? A lot of women do that.
If you love her marry her. If you don't want to marry her then provide for your child. Make sure you pay your child support & anything else you have to pay. But also buy her things she wants & needs on top of the child support.
But more importantly than money, spend time with her, love her, teach her.... be a father to her.
2006-09-24 00:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only 37 last time i checked that was a full grown man. I'd say you made you bed now lye in it or if you prefer Made your baby now look after it.
2006-09-24 00:15:01 · answer #7 · answered by blue_eyed_brat78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only 37! baby you are having a baby too late.behave like a grown up & provide your gf and your child with best you can provide.
2006-09-24 01:02:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
start being a MAN and take responsibility for your child..provide him/her with a home and a stable enviroment when its here.
babys need Money,house over there head, mom will need a bigger car. its the mans job to provide for the family in my opinion. provde a better life for mom and baby
2006-09-24 00:12:22 · answer #9 · answered by mommy2savannah51405 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she wants to be married before the baby is born and stay home and take care of it, which is the way it should be.
2006-09-24 00:54:09 · answer #10 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋