My son wont move out ... all he does is do drugs and take my car what should I do?

Question

I don't know what to do with my out of control thirteen year old ...


I am thinking of kicking him out on to the street with his crack and his Uncle Chuck

Answer 1

You are a sorry parent cant you see it is not him it is the DRUGS you jerk off

Answer 2

if you really worried about him then you will help him get help but he will only get help if he truly wants it. It's going to be ultimate decision to take the drugs or not all you can do is be there to get him to head away from them. Send him to rehab you are the adult you are the legal guardian. Do something just don't sit there and watch it happen. Call the police if you don't think you can handle this on your own. 13 year olds should not be doing drugs there is a lack of something going on and if you truly care about your son then you will do all the neccessary means of helping him. how did you let that get out of control yourself. he is 13 don't you have limits on what he does or do you just not care yourself? I'm sorry to be so harsh but drugs and 13 year old just don't add up correctly. Please get some help.. because if you don't he will probably end up overdosing and dying. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Go down to the district court house...file a CHINS report on him. Child In Need of Services. He'll have to go to court...and will be assigned a probation officer he'll have to report to. Thsi is what a responsible parent must do, unfortunately, but it is your only hope in straightening him out. They may send him to counselling, whatever, he must do it or go to jain or some half way house for "stubborn children." He's only 13, you don't want him like this when he's 18, sporting a beard, 6' tall with an attitude. Stand firm. Good Luck and take it a day at a time.

Answer 4

What type of parent allows this to go on in the first place? I'm not quite so sure your son was the beginning of your problems honey. I think it has more to do with your parenting skills and allowing "uncle Chuck" to be his role model. Get him into rehab, take some parenting classes, tell "uncle Chuck" he's gotta go, and then get some counseling for everyone.

Answer 5

You can't kick him out, you have to call the police. Keep calling them every time you see evidence of drugs or he behaves disruptively or acts in a way that is dangerous to himself or others. In my experience this is the best way to get him help. Depending on how he responds, he could end up on house arrest or a group home or in Juvenal Hall and his behavior will be monitored by authorities. It will be a struggle, but he's your son. Don't go soft on him, it will hurt him in the long term. Do it now while he still has a chance.

Answer 6

Do not allow him to take the car ! Hide the keys. And if he ever lays a hand on you to get them, call the police. If you tell the judge and prosecutors of his drug problem, he will go to a rehab instead of juvee jail.... even juvee jail would clean him up. Call around for health clinics that offer help for minors with drug problems. It's called tough love... if you love him, do all you can to make him see the light, even if it makes him hate you. Do NOT give up on him and send him to his uncle.... Your son is ONLY on the world because YOU and his father brought him here. That means it is your responsibility to do all you can. I agree he should not be in the house, he should be in a place that can help him with the drug problem. And remember, the tendancy to abuse drugs is higher when a family member is an addict. It is to some extreme in his genes. Get him help.

Answer 7

You need to pray and get help for him! This situation is bigger than you. A residential treatment center is better than kicking him out in the streets. He may appear to be nothing to you now but remember when he was born? He's still that same baby, just troubled. He's your troubled son. Help him!

Don't call him a drug addict, tell him how much you love him and seek help for him. That proves your love for him.

My prayers are with you and your son during this very difficult time.

Answer 8

Confront him about it. See if he is willing to enter some type of rehab. If he is not receptive then I would call the police. A time in a juvenile hall will change his view. You can't kick him out because he can report you to the authorities and make you out to be the bad person. Good luck with that!

Answer 9

Most states now have what is known as an unruly child law, where you may have the child arrested and taken in to custody. The Court decides from there as to the disposition of the child.

It would seem you are the point where something such as the above need to be immediately implemented.

Answer 10

Next time he takes the car, report it stolen, go through his room and find his drugs, flush them. Set ground rules and let him know you expect him to abide by them. Give him daily chores such as taking out the trash, etc. I f he does not mind you then you need to ground him. But first and foremost you need to help him get off the drugs, do not take pity on him or let your guard down for one second or he will take advantage of this. Children push their parents as far as they can to find their weaknesses and that is usual your love for the child. He is young, you have to take a stand and be firm with him. If you do not he will never learn values.

Answer 11

You know what... I read a couple of the answer for this very serious and potentially life inhibitting problem... The only one I saw that struck a chord was the one in which somebody had said you were a terrible parent... However, this is not the part I happen to agree with. The only bit of truth in this uncalled for attack on your character was the fact that it is not your son and it is the drugs... What Kind of drugs is he doing? The question is valid, I know at that age any illegal substance is a big No- No, but there are only a few drugs for which this statement above holds true. Only a few substances have been statistically and pharmaceutically proven to have such an affect on a person as to limit their capacity to choose anything other than the substance. In other words, don't blame the pot, blame the pot head. Does an alcoholic pose half the threat to society as a crack addict? Careful how you answer this. If your pre pubescent boy is delving into the depths of dimensia with any kind of man made chemical (i.e. meth, heroine, extc, dmt,) than rehab is your best solution! Get him now! Remember, you are responsible and in control of his fate! Choose for him now what eventually, we hope, he must choose for him self. I am 28 years old and I spent more than a decade on drugs! From the time I was 14 untill just two years ago I did everything from Crystal Meth to Liquid Acid... On my 18th birthday, I dropped 4 hits of Liquid LSD in each eyeball. I stopped snorting dope when I was 16 because it just did not feel nearly as good as shooting it up... Where were my parents? Were they horrible? or, was I a manipulative, under attended, deceitful, dope fueled !@#hole? My mom tried smoking pot with me to "Get in touch with me". Not good. Before long, it was doing lines too. Of course, I loved my mom enough to hide my taste for intravaneous remedies. If you ever want your children to respect your authority in their lives people, DO NOT ENCOURAGE OR ENFORCE ANY THING OTHER THAN WHAT IS LAWFUL AND PRODUCTIVE! Who know's, maybe instead of a couple of vials of LSD on my 18th, I could have had a scholarship to a 4 year school. My mom gave up, kicked me out, called the cops, gave me money, her check book, her car, plane tickets, bus tickets, drugs, clothes, and eventually her sanity. Not necessarily in this order, but the point is... REHAB LADY! you are responsible for the punk! And trust me, he is not going to listen enough to change his life if he is doing meth, I have seen my friends little bro's follow in our footsteps and it is sickening! I try to preach, they call me a hipocrite... I try to lead, they refuse to follow... Well, "they" are not my children! If your son steals a car, the restitution comes oiut of your pocket. If he drops out of school, the system looks to you for the reason why. Uncle Chuck needs to know his role. The only question I could ask your boy if he were in front of me "In 15 years, when you are my age do you want to be comfortable with children, a car, a house, a salary position paying 6 figures a year? or, Do you want to be in my shoes?" Call the cops on uncle chuck and the boy both... Not jail for the kid though, that'll only increase his resentment and emerse him into a large group of young ones who are more than willing to Party! No, your son needs rehab... I apologize for the length of this, but you are in a very serious situation and nothing short of your flesh bloods entire life is at stake...