This morning my ex texted me with we need to talk and invited me over to her and her boyfriend/fiance(of 2 months) apt. we talked and she said she wanted to apoligize for the way our relationship ended and she still wanted to be friends. She wanted to tell me that before she gets married next month. Was she just looking for redempiton from me or do you think she is second guessing her whole relationship with him? either way I've moved on and don't want her back but why would she just call me up and want to talk to me like that out of the blue?
2006-09-23 16:50:49 · 12 answers · asked by peacefulwreck 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she said she heard a song of the radio that sparked all this. sorry I forgot to mention that.
2006-09-23 16:54:40 · update #1
You don't need her. It seems like she was just trying to have a clear state of mind and clean slate before she got married. She's being selfish and trying to free herself from guilt.
I dunno if being friends with her is good cuz it seems like u still have feelings for her. Either way you know her better than I do, but do what is least harmful for you. I mean maybe it would be less trouble and better for u to not be friends with her. But you can keep in contact every once in awhile, maybe that is what she meant by "friends".
You deserve much better, and although she may still care for you, she's not the one for you. You sound like a great guy so I'm sure lots of wonderful gals would wanna meet you. Get out there and enjoy life and don't think about your selfish ex.
Good luck and God bless:)
2006-09-23 17:00:52 · answer #1 · answered by sweet kisses 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows what she wanted. You were right, it could be either. I wouldn't stress about it, you don't want her. She, for whatever reason, needed to have that talk with you. Just consider it a good deed and carry on without her. If she calls up, just be polite but firm. Sounds like you had a much better ending to the relationship than she would have liked. Maybe, her call was just to see if she could get you back. I hope that she doesn't try further contact.
2006-09-24 00:00:33 · answer #2 · answered by Colleen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means she's thinking of you and regrets how your relationship ended, silly! Well, okay, I know girls can have all sorts of double meanings, but she has a FIANCE, and is getting married NEXT MONTH. But yeah, every girl hates having enemies and exes. It's a strange feeling to know someone out there that you've been intimate with hates you, so she really wouldn't want to have that once she's married. Marriage makes you feel all sorts of things, looking back on your single life beforehand and so on. So she really just wants a friend once she's trapped to only one guy, and wants to be reassured.
2006-09-23 23:57:09 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying to close a pg in life. I tried to do the same when i got married. But my pg was different and I'm glad I didn't get to finish the maliced idea I had in my head at the time. Mostlikely it the pg thing or might be the finial fling before the plunge. Who knows but you should just keep walking away.
2006-09-23 23:56:19 · answer #4 · answered by jell77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure but it sounds like she's feeling guilty. It could be that she regrets ending the relationship (Don't know who ended it, you or her) and she wants to remain on a friendly basis OR she just wants to be able to let it all out and somewhat leave the no hard feelings type of thing.
2006-09-23 23:58:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, she probably wanted to tie up loose ends on her past relationships before she entered a life long one with this new guy. She probably feels legitimately wrong for the way your relationship ended and its bothering her. She doesn't want to enter a new relationship with the old one still on her mind, understandably. Id just forgive her and, if she wants to be friends, if it doesn't matter to you, by all means, be friends.
Whatever happens, good luck!
2006-09-23 23:56:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants her marriage to start with a 'clean slate'. It was nice of you to go :) Now she has a clear conscience and you have some closure.
2006-09-23 23:56:51 · answer #7 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To see if you still want her. Make's woman feel good even if she is with someone else. Just to know if you are pineing over her.
2006-09-23 23:55:54 · answer #8 · answered by Rebecca B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be that she realizes that she values you as a person, and felt she needed to talk to you.
2006-09-23 23:54:34 · answer #9 · answered by kayboff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget her. She don't love you and you will find, someone special to love.
Kisses.
Deni Gomes
São Paulo
Brazil
2006-09-23 23:55:31 · answer #10 · answered by Deni Gomes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋