I'm not necessarily talking about a much needed asswhooping either, I'm talking about reprimanding a kid who needs to firmly be jolted back into reality for attempting to eat a piece of candy in the store, back talking, and horseplay that endangers others. Even most strict parents succumb to the Dr.Sears-ish status quo of punk'd parenting when in public. Where they would normally swat Jr.'s rear for almost knocking a grandmotherly lady down from horseplay, now she resorts to a "No, Tommy. No running get over here." Then the issue is forgotten, and on the spot punishment is no longer enforcable later on.
Why is this bogus crap so mainstream that it has otherwise discipline enforcing parents afraid to correct their kids? I'll admit, I have submitted to the bunny fluff before in public, but it was mainly because my son had pissed me off so bad from throwing a all out fit over some candy I said no to, that I knew I was going to catch evil eyes for spanking his tail.
Why?
2006-09-23 16:42:46 · 26 answers · asked by Goddess of Nuts PBUH 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I agree with you, BUT i have to say society now a days is soooo cruel. I have heard sooo many stories of peopel calling social services, because they didnt like seeing a child be punished in public. I try not to punish in public for that reason.... i will how ever, take them out of the store, and deal with them in the car, or at home. They will not get away with it i guarentee... but i am scared of the self righteous peopel out there, who do call, and you spend the next 5 years trying to prove to the courts that your not a bad mom!!!
2006-09-23 16:48:33 · answer #1 · answered by bangbanks72 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I notice this and had a hard time disciplining my daughter in public because I know I'll get the stares. Then I spoke with a police officer and a social worker once about it and what was "against the law". It is NOT against the law to spank. It is however, against the law to leave a mark more than just a little redness.
If it is "uncalled for", and is all out BEATING the child, yes, that is an offence. Spanking, light slaps on the hand, etc etc is not unlawful and actually officials encourage it as they know how undisciplined children grow up to become....
2006-09-23 23:53:08 · answer #2 · answered by J M 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Like a lot of folks have said, I'm afraid of a cop and social worker showing up at my door. I demand that my 22-mo son respect boundaries, mine and other people's alike, and normally do not hesitate a sharp little slap on the thigh or hand. But in the middle of Wal-Mart? I prefer that low, hissing Knock It Off with the cold hard "mommy" stare, and as a last resort, walk out to the car, b/c 1 I don't want to make an even bigger scene, and 2 b/c I don't want the CPS calling me...
2006-09-23 23:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by Angela M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I make my five year old sit in a cart still. I told her it's the rules. She belives me--for now. The other day this little girl was yelling a screaming at the top of her lungs. My daughter looked at me and said, "she needs a swift kick in the butt." Parents today are to busy with their own lives to discipline and raise their own children. It's easier to let their kids run around then to pull the reigns and tell them to stop. I will take my kids to the car if they do not behave in a restaurant. But, I have never had to because from the time they were infants, I took them out. I would also go to stores and tell them no to something so they got used to leaving the store without something. I never did the "if you behave I'll buy you something".
2006-09-23 23:53:12 · answer #4 · answered by Lissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to the A.L.C.U. and the Child Safety Act,and the Department of Human Services and Health Department, No child under the age of 18 may be,Slapped,Spanked,Hit,Punched,Scolded,Yelled At,Screamed At,Beaten,or struck by a Foreign Object with force in any public place. That includes,Flogging,Tar & Feathering,and being tied to a post in sun all day long,or locked in the bacement for a week. Now you know what is wrong with todays youth.And they are the future leaders of our country.What a great bunch of people.
2006-09-24 00:16:34 · answer #5 · answered by krusty_blue_spaz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, parents who do use any type of discipline have CPS called on them. It sucks. I was told by a lady in a store that she was going to call on me becasue I spanked my daughter on the butt for running into the street in a busy shopping center. (She is old enough to know better, and it was only one swat. I by no means beat my children. Infact, this is the second time in her life that she has ever been spanked.) Children are allowed to run all over the place because parents are to scared that thier babies will be taken away from them.
2006-09-23 23:50:28 · answer #6 · answered by cailincox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great question!
I ask myself this question all the time, but I can say that I have never had any qualms about disciplining my daughter in public. My mother disciplined me in public, on the spot, and without hesitation, so I learned which lines could not be crossed early enough in life and I find myself doing the same with my daughter. Believe me, I'm a better person today because of mother's discipline and I'm also a firm believer in disciplining your child, regardless of where you are or who's around.
Far too many parents feel pressured to appear as "Romper Room" or "Leave It to Beaver" parents when in public and they fail to realize that their child(ren) is(are) taking a mental note of what they can get away with in public. If a child is disciplined in public the way they are at home, they will be well mannered most of the time (hey, they are kids!) and will not need as much discipline as a child who feels their parent(s) is(are) "softies". I also believe that many parents are afraid they will get in trouble for disciplining children, especially since the so-called child-rearing "experts" claim that physical discipline can be classified as abuse and does more harm than good for the child. One thing I do know is that children were more disciplined 20 years ago than they are today and that's a result of mitigated disciplined and "textbook" versions of discipline. As far as I'm concerned, the methods of raising and disciplining a child cannot be compacted in neat little books written by some authors who are not even parents themselves. Children don't come with instructions and I don't think instructions on how to raise them should outlined or chosen, especially by the government.
A couple of years ago, my daughter tried to embarrass me at a popular mall. She wanted to go into the toy store and I told her we would visit it before leaving. She was holding my hand at the time, but quickly snatched it away when I told her this. I calmly told her to give me her hand, but she said, "No!". I repeated myself one more time and she gave the same answer. Looking at my situation as though I was an outsider, I took her by the arm, found the nearest bench and proceeded to spank her on her behind. Once that was done, I stood her up and explained why she had received the spanking and warned her that she would receive another one if she didn't behave. She cried, I think, more out of embarrassment than pain and didn't repeat that behavior again.
I constantly remind my daughter, even today, that the opinion of others mean nothing to me when it comes to disciplining her and she understands that I won't hesitate to administer discipline in public. She is a well-rounded, respectful, thoughtful, and sweet child who speaks her mind, but knows the boundaries. I'm confident she'll grow up to become a wonderful person.
P.S. I thanked my mother for her love and discipline because I could have taken another path in life and not be where I am today.
2006-09-24 00:29:50 · answer #7 · answered by Mazzy 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
because the liberals have made it so hard for us to do anything about it... they feel their way of making time outs is the right way and all others are wrong... too many people cannot mind their own business... I have a friend who told his kids to get in the car... he was puting the youngest into the car while the other two were horseplaying... the older child slammed the car door on the middle child hand.... he had began to spank his kid... was interfered with by some bystander who saw nothing except him grabbing up his eldest son... end result... he was arrested.... that is why...
2006-09-23 23:52:36 · answer #8 · answered by curious dad 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You can thank interfering social workers( and Oprah) for that one.Today s parent's can't even raise their eyebrows funny at their kids without some recovering victim of child abuse breathing down their necks. It really sucks.When the government thinks it's ok to to investigate families at the drop of a hat based on someones "suspicions" you know society is going in a wrong direction.If kids are being properly disciplined at home hopefully in theory they shouldn't act like brats in public.But I do know exactly what you mean about the evil eye from on lookers.Gee,thanks Oprah!I'll tell you another thing too. One of the reasons that I refuse to shop at Kohls dept store is because they called DCF on a woman who disciplined her daughter when she was sitting in the back seat of her car.They viewed her doing this on their so called security tape and reported it. Big Brother IS watching you 24/7 and looking out for your welfare whether you want it or not.Marvelous isn't it.
2006-09-23 23:51:38 · answer #9 · answered by Yahooanswerssux 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
..When I was a kid Life was different..There was more respect going on, and we were actually afraid of being bad ,acting out, talking back, at home, or in public ,and if we did any of this in public, watch out ,you'd better run for your life when you get home... But because of some people who went way over board ,and would hit and beat their kids over any thing,,They had to change the laws,,On one hand it is understandable,,,,But on the other hand the World has Gone completely CRAZY...I have had kids swear at me,,I was floored..when I was a kid we would have been scared to even look at an adult funny..Even if a stranger said, hey stop that..We would have immediately.! My son came home from school one day and told me that if I ever hit him he would report me (the school told him this,)..I told him if he ever pushed me into hitting him..that I will, and then I will pick up the phone and call on myself, and then, they will take him away and I will be in peace.!!..Children today do not show respect because they are not scared..Some Fear is good, I am not talking about beating our kids, but they should Fear us SOME....
2006-09-24 00:27:52 · answer #10 · answered by *Glowing* *Wings* 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋