i was dating this guy that always said he was with me for who i am not for what i dont have. why would he say that? all the other guys ive dated said they were with me for me . they never added on that little bit like he did. he also treated me like crap./ we are not together now but i was just curious why he always said that. we would never be talking about what someone has or dont have so why would he always add that little bit on the end. it was like he was reminding me that i dont have sh.t what do you think?
2006-09-23 16:38:56 · 15 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm glad you quit him. He told you that because he was trying to instill in you a sense of being inferior to him, whether it was money, IQ, or whatever. He was starting to try and manipulate you and you would be his slave. Eventually, he probably would have begun to abuse you physically. You are the one to determine what you have or whether or not you have pride or accept and like yourself. I'm glad you were strong.
2006-09-23 16:44:03 · answer #1 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a put-down artist trying to play on your insecurities. If he was secure within himself and had good self-esteem, he wouldn't do that. You said that he "treated me like crap." So be glad your rid of him. Let him treat some other girl like crap until she figures out that he's an a**hole.
2006-09-23 23:46:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must have been one little thing that he personally (not all men) like a girl to have that you didn't have. It could be ANYTHING. Don't worry about it, different guys like different things about a girl, & since he treated you like crap, who cares what he thinks anyways.
2006-09-23 23:42:54 · answer #3 · answered by tanner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first thought it that he was out of his mind. A relationship in not based on what you have, it is based on being loved, cherished and respected. I don't believe he even had a right to even tell you of what you don't have.
I am glad that relationship is over and hope you do find someone who will treat you with respect.
2006-09-23 23:46:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's a great thing you not being together. He probably would have been an emotional abuser. Trying to make you feel like your lacking something... even though you don't. Good riddance
2006-09-23 23:41:59 · answer #5 · answered by sabbycat76 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you small breasted? I'm not saying it to be mean, but I dated a guy once that was like this guy you dated. (I had dated this guy off and on for a few years 'cause I was an idiot. lol). He was obsessed with breasts and even suggested I get implants, so I told him to f'k off.
2006-09-23 23:41:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was saying the same thing, he was just adding more because he wanted you to be sure to know he wasn't materialistic, which he might have also thought meant ambitious, which he obvioulsly was. That's my guess.
2006-09-23 23:42:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like this man was an a****le so did you dump him or vise versa?! cause you should have have dumped him long back!! no guy is worth it if they are going to add dumb remarks to something that is supposed to meant as sweet`!
2006-09-23 23:42:37 · answer #8 · answered by Stefani M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might be right. on the other hand it might have had an entirely different meaning. dont worry just dont date him again.
2006-09-23 23:41:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
b/c he was probely trying to get you to think that he'll never do anything to hurt you and if you would've felt for that he probely wanted to have sex with you if you trusted or somthing like that
2006-09-23 23:45:07 · answer #10 · answered by Brittnee R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋