My boyfriend is studying to take the mcats which i realize takes alot of his time. However when he does talk to me I feel like a chore he needs to take care of, i try to send him cute texts and he doesnt respond. I live 2 hours away and i was in his town for my job and he couldnt even take 20 mins to see me because he was studying but he is out now drinking with his friends. He doesn't say I love you anymore and he tells me that I say that I miss him too much. Is he just stressed or I am mixing those signs for him not wanting to be with me?
2006-09-23 16:35:37 · 27 answers · asked by ques&answers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is not wanting to be with your clingy, needy a22.
P.S. ALL men hate cute little text msgs.
2006-09-23 16:37:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel about feeling like a chore. Been there before. My advice would be to take it easy and try to socialize with your friends nearby more. Try to keep your mind off him. If after he takes his MCATS, he is still distant- perhaps staying in this relationship would not be best for you. Some people can't handle long distance relationships, he may be one of those people. Whatever you do though, make sure you follow your heart and not just what some of us say on here. However, by following your heart, try not to let it get broken in the process.
Good luck!
2006-09-23 23:40:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The quickest way to turn a guy off is to crowd him. If he's studying for MCATS, he really doesn't have time to respond to cute texts. Or to drive two hours to see you. Or sometimes even to take 20 mins. away. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you anymore, it just means that his focus for now is on something that is vital to his future -- and to yours, if you play it right.
Give him room, knock off the cute texts, and just relax a little until he gets through his exams.
2006-09-23 23:40:52 · answer #3 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the same to him. Ignore him for two weeks, completely!!! and if after those two weeks he hasnt even email you, then move on.
Why is it that anytime a man needs his space because of a real priority, women dont get it?
If you cant stand this lifestyle, then move on, but its not like he is wasting time or preparing to enter a mino golf tournament or a Lawn mown race.
If I am back in town and I want to have fun, I would see my friends first, because I dont want to have a discusion about why we dont spend time anymore, I want to have fun before I go back to hitting the books again.
You are too needy. Get a friend or a hobbie. Seriously. Or better yet, get a guy who likes attention around the clock, like a mama's boy. That will fit you well.
2006-09-23 23:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe hes feelin' lik that long distance thing isnt workin,hes doesnt say he love u anymore?THIS IS A PROBLEM there might be another women involved and r u sure hes drinkin out with tha guys??And when ur away do u kno' wat hes doin, if this happens u hav 2 keep up with him girl!Help him study; and if hes really cheatin on u break his heart,i kno it might hurt but u hav 2 do it be4 he does it 2 u.U says he study and drink with tha "guys" u talk 2 him sometimes but hes not interested in u wats happening is that hes slowly kickin u out of hes life and its almost time for break-up and talk 2 him (that means not textin him) really talk 2 him.And if u break-up with him dont b friends THATS JUST ASKIN FOR TROUBLE!!! if u break up with him there might b another women involved and u still hav feelings for him its seems that ur more stressed of him while hes partyin with hes "friends" ur home worryin' 'bout him and u dont need that much stress for u.and it seems that he rather go out drinkin with his "friends" than spend time with u. u dont need him, move on ull find som1 very intersted in u and that really cares and love u.
2006-09-24 00:06:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he is stressed due to studying, but I think at the same time he is trying to let you know that he is taking a step back from the relationship.
2006-09-23 23:37:52 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long you have been with him cause it's kind of hard to just get up and leave someone you've been with for a period of time. But if you fell like you relationship is going no where don't waste anymore of your precious time boo boo just leave tell him to go you know what with his friends now.
2006-09-23 23:44:20 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. Goose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont want to go with my first intinct here but if i was you i would make a list of pros and cons and see your results
talk to him about whats goin on if he doesnt wan to talk to u then what does that tell u?
u can also sit down and think hard about what you want to do.
i think we both kno what u need to do here.
<3
2006-09-23 23:43:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
woww.. thats harsh.. let it be for now.. let him taste some of it.. try to keep yourself occupied somehow and let it go for a while he will start to miss you if you text him in like a week or two and ask him if he missed you and he doesnt respond go straight down there you should be more important than studying
2006-09-23 23:39:46 · answer #9 · answered by 0311GettinSum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, i hate to tell you, but this relationship has ended!
The time/distance continuum got too much; he needed company, and found someone else. he doesn't want you telling him that you love him; it makes him feel guilty for not being able to tell you it's over, himself.
Sorry, I had to tell you. The signs have been there. You didn't' read them right. it happens.
best wishes
2006-09-23 23:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋