I am 22 Female and live with my boyfriend in York of whom I have known and loved since I was about 14. We live very happily and have plently of money. My boyfriend (Phill, 21) owns and operates several businesses with his father. They have I think 2 nightclubs, a shipping yard and a Fitness centre and also investments and shares. It's all a bit complicated to me.
Recently I have notices changes in my boyfriend, he seems to have no energy and I also found some pills. I dont know what they are but says (tricyclic antidepressants) on the back. He doesnt know I have found them. He doesnt like talking about any of this and it starts arguments if I bring my concerns up.
He is only 21 and because he has not been handed any of his businesses on a plate and has done a lot of work himself, he refuses to let others do things and instists on dealing with everything when his father is not there. His father is going to retire next year so God only knows what will happen then.
2006-09-23 16:16:42 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I got bored after the first paragraph. Sorry I can't help but thanks for the 2 pts!
2006-09-23 16:20:06 · answer #1 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would write your boyfriend letters of support. Right now it seems like he is going through hard times and needs your support. And talking to him or confronting him doesn't seem to be what he likes or needs. I would also buy some books on psychology and relationships that could build his self-esteem and give him some input. Also you could help him work on a very nice put together resume that he could give to his dad including a letter with all the accomplishments he has made in the years he's been helping his father. If his father does not respond as he should in a supportive way then your boyfriend definitely can use that experience to put feelers out for better job opportunities. Also point out to him that he is very blessed to have you for a girlfriend that loves so much and is so supportive. It is rare nowadays to find true and unconditional love which is what it sounds you have for him. I am sure that with your love and support your boyfriend will keep succeeding in life and you too will continue to be richly blessed.
2006-09-23 16:26:35 · answer #2 · answered by pc93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off, sweetie or you will be finding yourself on the the poor side of town. You are snooping into his personal business. Perhaps he has a chemical imbalance and wants to deal with it in his own way. Stop butting into the business between he and his father. Also, when you first start on the antidepressants it takes while to kick in and there is signs of tiredness in the beginning. Grow up and start giving this guys respect to his personal boundaries.
2006-09-23 16:26:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MMMMMM. This is tough a situation to give advice and for you to be in. I would suggest trying talk to him but approach the subject a little different. Maybe plan an evening out on the town, trying talking with friends and family. You want to keep the line of communication open or you will lose him for ever.... Take care and God bless...
2006-09-23 16:23:38 · answer #4 · answered by eliz5970 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have known this man since age 14 communication between the two should be better.
Ask if you can help out, he will have to learn how to delegate work if he is going to run an efficient company, or he will drive himself crazy and lose everything. Things always look worse before they get better,so good luck.
2006-09-23 16:23:00 · answer #5 · answered by Neptune2bsure 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to his parents about counselling for him and tell him you will go with him.
2006-09-23 16:19:21 · answer #6 · answered by eugene65ca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your boy friend....
Can you talk to his father?
Pills/drugs: DANGER!!!
Talk to someone you TRUST as a wise individual......
Good luck! :-)
2006-09-23 16:23:31 · answer #7 · answered by ThomasR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO TELL HIM THAT IT IS OKAY TO TALK TO YOU, THAT IS THE REASON YOUR TOGETHER (FOR YOU TO BE THERE FOR HIM) ( AND FOR HIM TO BE THERE FOR YOU )
SWEETIE THAT IS WHAT LOVE IS.
GOD BLESS BOTH OF YOU !!!
2006-09-23 16:21:14 · answer #8 · answered by Babygirl86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is the question? he is a work-aholic. simple
2006-09-23 16:18:30 · answer #9 · answered by phnx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋