what am i to do i'm not even a teenager yet 2 yrs away
2006-09-23 16:13:00 · 19 answers · asked by beautychic45 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Find something to do.
2006-09-23 16:21:02 · answer #1 · answered by TXBLKGRL 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ack. I'm sorry sweetie. Honestly, your dad is being a jerk. At some point in your life you'll realize how consuming it can be to be in love with someone in certain ways. It is my opinion, however, that your father should realize that he's a father FIRST AND FOREMOST.
Since he's clearly not going to do that, try to distract yourself. Understand that he loves you, he's just infatuated with a different relationship right now that takes a lot of time and energy.
The only sort of boring and probably useless advice I can give you, is try not to do BAD things in order to get attention. I'm 36 and even at my age I know that these things can haunt you later.
If you seek affection and attention from someone else, BE COOL and BE SMART. I just mean that this seems like a normal reaction, but it can be dangerous. You know, make sure you take care of you in every way. Be safe sexually...trust no one, even if they're completely trustworthy. Be safe emotionally...there's no reason to become cold and closed off, but keep in mind that people might hurt you, might not understand, and might have their own agendas.
Good luck! I hope you make it through this well.
2006-09-23 16:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by CuteWriter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honey, adults tend to do that when we get into new relationships. We tend to spend a lot of time with the girlfriend or boyfriend because it is so new and we are excited to be with that new person. Not just for children but other friends as well. This doesn't mean that our children or friends mean any less to us than they did before. We don't forget how much we
love our kids or our friends, and most of the time we don't realize that we are neglecting those that we love the most.
Don't feel that your Dad doesn't care about you as much as he used to, he's still the same Dad you know and love. He loves you just as much if not more. He has someone new that he loves and wants to share her with you too. He probably doesn't even realize he's making you feel left out.
Tell him...you have to let him know how you feel. Most likely, he doesn't know you feel this way. Tell him you miss him and want to make sure you stay the most important thing in his life, which I'm sure that he will reassure you that you are.
If it is hard to talk about your feelings, my Mom always said to write it down in a letter. That way you can make sure you said everything you have to say. Just don't make him feel that you don't like her or anything. That could hurt his feelings.
2006-09-23 16:31:44 · answer #3 · answered by LadyMagick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oops! I almost answered you wrong. You must be 11years old. OK then try to understand that daddy needs a bit of a life. You can help him by allowing time with his new love. If he is a good dad then he won't forget you baby girl.
In a few years you'll be wanting for him to pay you less attention so that you can feel more mature. It's time to do a little growing. Maybe you can reach out to his new lady for some female answers. Good luck!
2006-09-23 16:26:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are several aspects to address here. Number one, try to understand that your dad is in need of a relationship with someone age appropriate. He also must feel that you are mature enough that he can offer a little more of his time to her. Sit down with dad and say,
"Daddy, I really like her, and I'm glad that you two are together. I was hoping you and I could spend a little more time together before you get married, because I know you will have to devote a lot of your time to your new wife and I don't want to feel left out. Can we do some Daddy daughter stuff before you guys get married?"
Maybe the zoo, disneyland whatever.
Good Luck.
2006-09-23 16:21:42 · answer #5 · answered by Ice 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The same situation happen to me and I wasnt to thrilled about it either. You have two choices talk to your dad about and try to a set up time where you and him spend time together alone so you will get to be with him more before he gets married. Or you can ignore it and try to keep busy and ignore it. I was 20 when my dad got married adn mood out and it has taken me a year to accept his new wife. But my situation may be different my mother passed a few years ago. But try not to act immature about it. Cause that just makes things worse. Try to keep an open mind and dont say anything to her or your dad that you might regret in the future.
2006-09-25 02:52:38 · answer #6 · answered by Victoria H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will at first but this doesn't mean that he doesn't love you. He loves you more than anything probably. Step's are hard. You just pray it will be okay. Nobody is trying to take your moms place she apparently just loves your dad. Give her a chance and hopefully she will give you one too. It'll be fine. Be as supportive as you can. And if you need to talk to your dad about it do it. Adults can usually reason things out with children. I am a step parent and it is hard. But, I am also a child who's parents are still together and I know that it would be hard to accept a new person in either one of my parents lives. Good luck!
2006-09-23 16:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by teacher1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad got remarried when I was 12 and my whole world changed, so I can totally relate. I wish now that I had talked to him honestly about my feelings, I bet he doesn't even have a clue as to how you are feeling. Talk to your dad, and be honest. Tell him how you feel and what you want from him. I know it is hard to share your dad with another female, but it happens all the time. Don't forget you are still Daddys little girl, first and foremost.
2006-09-23 16:24:40 · answer #8 · answered by amalia372005 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your Dad is not a jerk as someone has stated. To understand everything, have a one on one talk with your Dad. Tell him exactly how you feel and that you would like to spend time with him also. Explain to your Dad that lately you have been feeling as if he's not paying you much of attention. Try to help your Dad sat up a schedule where you all can spend time together. Please understand that your Dad has to spend time with his soon-to-wife also.
2006-09-24 07:16:02 · answer #9 · answered by Who me? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he's going to marry her that's why he's paying a lot of attention to her. Talk to him. He's just your dad. He's always going to love you. But let him know your feeling lonely. Don't make this a competition.
2006-09-24 18:50:13 · answer #10 · answered by Kim B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your dad and tell him that you are a little jealous of a new woman taking up his time. Ask him if he would set aside some time just to be with you on a regular basis. It is going to take time for you to adjust to sharing your dad but you will make it.
2006-09-23 16:26:15 · answer #11 · answered by older woman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋