I just don't understand, it's the only thing I've ever ever wanted in my whole life was to find one person and stick with him forever, relationships never work out for me and I don't understand why. When I am with a man I treat him good, I do basically anything he asks. I'm pretty. The only thing I won't put up with is fighting, I won't fight, I don't believe in it. I'm faithful, yet I continually get dumped, why? Why can't I find somebody to love me and stick with me?
2006-09-23 16:12:23 · 34 answers · asked by Tammy C 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to a counselor . . maybe you have some patterns in your choices of men.
You can't really force true love . . you just have to be centered in yourself and ready for it to come into your life.
2006-09-23 16:14:51 · answer #1 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all if disagreeing on a subject your idea of fighting, there's your answer, just because you have a difference of opinion, doesn't mean there has to be a fight.
Maybe doing anything he asks, is not what most guys are looking for or you just haven't meant the one that is meant for you yet. Hang in there, but if you expect to have a permanent relationship with anyone,even friends without disagreements you are asking too much out of a relationship and you have to be a bit more realistic.
If you constantly think that the relationship is over because you had a fight (not fist fight) then that is your problem area, its really ok to have your own views on things and he has the same right you see, its ok to agree to disagree and be honest about it.
2006-09-23 16:18:15 · answer #2 · answered by Neptune2bsure 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would pray. I felt the same way! I prayed to God and about a year later I locked my keys in the house and I hadn't realized untill I had otten back home. I started walking down the road to my mom's house who had my extra key and a car pulls up next to me. I exchanged numberswiththe guy who didn't seem to diffrent from the rest.
As I patiently got to know him and his values and morals I realized that every single quality I had asked God for, was in him. Now we've been together for 3 years and are trying to have a baby!
So to answer ur question the first thing I would do is pray and the second thing I would do is be patient.
Fill ur life up with building up ur relationship with god, consume urself with eating right, exercising, going out with friends, working some over time. These are the same things I did. I hope they work for you as well and I will keep you i my prayers.
God Bless!!!
2006-09-23 16:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by lamikashi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it may not be the guys fault. Stop and think what type of guy are you dating? Is it someone who seems stable? Or somone who is more of an exciting bad boy type.
My sisters all dated and married the wrong men because we came from disfunctional family with an abusive alcoholic father. With that as a role model for the men in there lives- things have been pretty much been doomed for them. One sister divorced 4 times the other once with a lot of wrong guys dated.
I think that the saying nice guys finish last applies to dating because of this. Women talk about wanting to meet a nice guy but ignore them for the obviously wrong guy.
Good luck,
2006-09-23 16:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same thing right now my life. But I have learned that patience is a virtue. Being a male and single, I used to beat myself up when my relationships don't go right. But now that I have grown, I have learned that waiting is the hardest, yet the most rewarding thing.
Because I have learned the best ones, are worth waiting for...
Don't give up, but be patient, your prince will come...
2006-09-23 16:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quit trying!
Relax enjoy the moment. If you do that you may get what you want. Don't hover. You say you don't fight. No one wants some one that always agrees with them or will not offer their opinion just to avoid a fight. You have to be willing to stand up for your beliefs.
2006-09-23 16:17:15 · answer #6 · answered by BUPPY'S MEME 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to make (or break) a relationship. Hang in there, and hopefully you will find him.
In the meantime, work on loving you! Relationships are really the icing on the cake when you already are comfortable and like who you are.
2006-09-23 16:16:18 · answer #7 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit looking. Lead your own life, do what you want to do, achieve what you want to achieve, enjoy the things you enjoy. The right guy will be attracted to *you*, not the jello mould who will "do basically anything he asks", and it'll be a much better fit for both of you.
2006-09-23 16:16:17 · answer #8 · answered by ralfg33k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will never have a life with someone you never fight with. However, nobody should hit or abuse the other. You do not want a husband. You want someone who is perfect.
2006-09-23 16:14:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know you sound just like me homegirl, but one thing I realized is true love is something that is sent to you, not something you can go out and find. Just continue being you and ask God to send you that special someone who is just for you, and please don't settle for what nothing less.
2006-09-23 16:17:47 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. Educated 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋