I'm not trying to rag on anyone, but I most of the time keep feeling like "If I don;t do it, it wot get done" This is what I hear when I see a pile of laundry that has been there for two days, or when I see the sink so full of dishes. Also when I see the trash stacked up about 4 feet above the rim. " If I dont do it, it wont get done........"(same with vacumning,and just picking up in general. If I leave it and see how long it takes for some one to pick up after themselves, it will be there for ever.!!!! I'm so confused about this. I love my family but why dont they care if roaches carry them off?
2006-09-23 16:08:38 · 13 answers · asked by lookinfomoney 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow…
You have probably got 90% of married women jumping up and saying they totally agree !!!
I’m sure my wife feels that way a lot of the time too !
Wives and mothers are miracle workers in more ways than one…
They are certainly worth a lot more than what people give them credit for !!!
Look, all I can really suggest to you is that if you think you are being taken for granted, and that your efforts are not appreciated, you should just sit back and relax for a few days, and if nothing gets done, then so be it.
It won’t take long before your family realises just how much you do for them, and they will come to appreciate you a lot more.
Put your foot down, and tell them you are not their slave, and unless they start pulling their weight to help you, you will stop doing stuff for them.
Good luck !!!
2006-09-23 16:11:13 · answer #1 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom is the same way. But i've gotten better about it. My take on it is that moms want it done NOW and won't wait a few minutes for it to be done. Like if my mother told me to do the dishes and i wait half an hour sometimes she'll have half of them done....she didn't need to start them i would have done them all but my guess is she was sick of what was there.
Our biggest problem is replacing the toliet paper. I'm really better about it now but my brothers don't seem to get it.
2006-09-23 16:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we are the nurturers and care takers of the home and family. However, there is absolutely nothing wrong with everyone pitching in and helping out. Make a poster and assign everyone chores to do. If your kids do not do their chores take away a priviledge.
Good luck!
2006-09-23 16:11:44 · answer #3 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's common. Tell your husband to get off his lazy butt and choose a chore like dishes or sorting or cleaning the living room(if he likes the tv so much). Maybe have him do it once or three times a week. Get your kids to helping you at an early age that'll help a lot.
Mothers are known to do 'everything' even in ancient times.
2006-09-23 16:11:58 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids and Husbands don't see things, the way that you see things.Make out a chores chart. If the chores are done, privileges are awarded, but not until the chores are done. My sister, told me that I don't like to ask others for help, but we have to raise our kids to be productive adults. As far a s Hubby, as long as you do it all, he will probably let you, because you must like doing it, or you wouldn't do it right?
2006-09-23 16:15:24 · answer #5 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a sergeant major to come in and help square your family away.
If your children have got to the teens, maybe it's time you sent them off to boarding school, or the military. If your husband isn't helping, give him the choice to help you organize your family so everyone shares in chores, or leave him.
2006-09-23 16:13:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a stay at home dad that does everything,, i get a retirement from the marines,, i raise the kids,, pay for the house ,the food,, everything,, my wife is out with her friends right now and as usual i am home with the kids,,i did however quit doing her laundry because she yelled at me for putting the shirts in the wrong drawer,, her pile is pretty big
2006-09-23 16:13:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you always do it. you have to start assigning chores to the kids and make them do it. if they don't, start taking away privileges (computer, cell phone, car, etc). eventually they will take you seriously and do their part to help out. but you have to stick to your guns and not feel guilty about making them do it. that's part of how they learn to become productive responsible adults.
2006-09-23 16:13:55 · answer #8 · answered by fungirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are trying to be super mom. But, I don't have the answers. Make yourself happy. If moma ain't happy ain't nobody happy
2006-09-23 16:24:05 · answer #9 · answered by teacher1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exemplary models.
2006-09-23 16:10:44 · answer #10 · answered by eugene65ca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋