k the deal is that I'm not aloud to date for a year (by my moms ruling) because last year I dated a guy, dumped him and he turned creepy stalker guy on me. but a few months after we broke up my best guy friend asked me out and I had to tell him that rule so he asked if I'd mind if he waits for me, so he's been waiting for me for about a year now and we've grown really close and he's my absolute best friend, we share everything and anything, it's been going well but..... sometimes we tickle each other and hug is that going to far out of my parents rules? it's only when something really bad happens or if one of us does something that the other appreciats.... I know that a reltionship done by disobeying my parents too much is doomed to be a bad situation, but on the other hand he's a christain too, he understands the rules and is trying to obey them,... if it wasnt for the fact that he's waiting for me I'm pretty sure it would seem we're just normal friends but I wonder if this is too far
2006-09-23 16:03:33 · 8 answers · asked by caitybug10 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
that wasnt suposed to be a question mark at the end of the header
2006-09-23 16:05:13 · update #1
I can not put my real age but I can say that I'm in highschool
2006-09-23 16:42:39 · update #2
ast5792 I wasnt bashing you I have a couple of homsexual friend and I've given them the same answer I gave you and may I also remind u that you posed the question and left your self open for attack (which I realy didn't do it's simply a stament) and I have left my self open for attack by posing this question just as you did. also might I ask what you and your husband did before u declared yourselfs life partners?
2006-09-23 16:47:33 · update #3
also ast5792 I said God dosent like your sin, I did say he loves you & I'm a sinner too. I'm not sure if God approves of my lifestyle so I've tryied talking to friends,my pastor, searching my bible and now finally this. If I knew that this was right or wrong I wouldnt have posed the question.
2006-09-23 16:59:21 · update #4
and I now have a feeling that you just enjoy messing with peoples religons... I looked at your other questions ast5792 and u have isusses
2006-09-23 17:06:22 · update #5
First of all I commend you and this young man for the stance you have taken on your relationship. It is commendable in this day and age for you to take your mothers wishes to heart and also for him to be man enough to respect that.
Secondly I'm going to give you a criteria that may help you with this situation as well as many other types of situations you will face in your life.
When facing a decision about something.... ask yourself these simple questions.
1) Are you about to do something that you would be ashamed for your mother to be present when you do it?
2) Are you about to do something that you would not want the Lord to know your doing? (Because after all.... he does)
3) Can you honestly be thankful to God for providing this thing it is your trying to decide on and give him honest thanks for providing it??
And finally... is this something that you would not want to face God with and admit you made a willing decision to do?
If asking yourself these questions makes you uneasy.... or you feel the action of these questions would make you ashamed or uncomfortable..... be careful..... your about to mess up.
God bless you will be praying for you both :)
2006-09-23 16:21:54 · answer #1 · answered by PreacherTim63(SFECU) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?
I assume your parents are aware of your freindship and are consenting to it. It is better to avoid too much physical intimacy (of any kind) if you are trying to avoid physical intimacy (of a sexual kind) but from a Christian point of view, there is no sin in it.
As long as you are not keeping things hidden from your parents, I think they will let you know if they are displeased with your relationship. It seems the young man is very respectful, to not even attempt to convince you to go against your parents' wishes. That is very mature of him and you should appreciate it.
My sister and her husband are happily married and have two beautiful little girls - after my parents didn't allow them to date for some time. (The young man was also friends with my brother - they just all hung out together.) Parental disapproval does make things difficult, but does not doom a relationship.
2006-09-23 16:09:30 · answer #2 · answered by Smiley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a great relationship that is growing at a pace right for the two of you. If you think you're disobeying your parents, then I understand the guilt, but a relationship like yours is going well. Consider that this kind of development in your relationship may make it the best it could be. Your parents may have done you the best favor ever.
2006-09-23 16:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by NHBaritone 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to obey your parents wishes and don't get physical with your friend or , yes , it could create problems ... Really you know what your parents want... do your best.
2006-09-23 16:09:06 · answer #4 · answered by † PRAY † 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh you bash me for being a gay christian yet you are dating boys and hanging with them OUT OF MARRIAGE?
DO I sence a double standard here?
does god agree with your lifestyle?
You answered my question calling me a sinner and how god dislikes me yet you are commiting adultery.
I love the double standard
2006-09-23 16:26:33 · answer #5 · answered by ast5792 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to do what you feel is best for you, not your mom, not your friend, not Jesus and not God. That's the hardest thing to do, and no parent or supernatural being can do it for you.
2006-09-23 16:07:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Very much, you're probably going to have pre-marital sex with him and be doomed to hell!!!!
JK, you're fine, calm down
2006-09-23 16:08:00 · answer #7 · answered by valkyrie hero 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you doing anything that you wouldn't with another close friend? if not then you are ok.
2006-09-23 16:07:29 · answer #8 · answered by rwl_is_taken 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋