my girlfriend got rapped by a homeless guy when she was 15. Where both 16 now and whenever i go to touch her she tells me to stop a few seconds after she just told me it was okay. Why is she doing this? She wont trust me with anything and she's constantly studying me and waiting for me to mess something up. I dont push her to do anything physical i always let her decide. I am a guy and i do want some action and I want a girlfriend not a friend.
2006-09-23 16:02:24 · 10 answers · asked by mattman70 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Your girlfriend possibly is suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
If you truly want to know why she is doing this (and you're not just whining cause your a horny little ramrod), then look it up on Wikipedia and elsewhere so you can know the torment she is going through.
If you push it too far, you're likely to be told "No." and if you continue to push it, you're going to re-traumatize her.
Let go of the selfishness, guy. You could do some real damage.
2006-09-23 16:13:32 · answer #1 · answered by NHBaritone 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude , I'm a guy and this has got to be the most ****** question I have ever read. She needs her space right now because she did not ask for what happened. They took something from her , and it will take a long time for her to find it.
I really doubt you two are in love. And maybe right now all she needs is a friend. If you can't be just friends you should just part ways. When you get a little older than maybe you will ready for a relationship, because right now you aren't.
2006-09-23 16:17:21 · answer #2 · answered by snowteller 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are asking this in the Religion and Spirituality section because???? Surely you do not think that God approves of unmarried individuals having sex--that is fornication and he says anyone commiting this sin will not inherit God's Kingdom. Not that he wouldn't forgive you if you made a mistake, but your question sounds more like a PLAN to sin.
2006-09-23 17:38:19 · answer #3 · answered by Sparkle1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, 16 is TOO YOUNG!
If she isn't looking for the same thing in a relationship as you are, it might be time to let go. She has been traumatized and needs time to recover. If you decide this is the way to go, be honest with her about your reasons, but let her down gently.
2006-09-23 16:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by Smiley 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Do you actually think the damage done to her mentally disappears in a year. Do you really think it is right to engage like that at 16? How could you POSSIBLY think this way after what she has been through. You are truly misguided.
2006-09-23 16:14:25 · answer #5 · answered by Mike 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you love her be more understanding sex is just 2% of a relationship it will happen if you don't push her show her you love her and understand don't you know the longer you wait with some one the better it is
2006-09-23 16:23:04 · answer #6 · answered by jim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
grow up skip the fornicabuggery
2006-09-23 16:07:16 · answer #7 · answered by Bushit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love her, don't pressure or push yourself on her, you'll regret it later on.
2006-09-23 16:17:05 · answer #8 · answered by B"Quotes 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
your girlfriend got raped, no ******* wonder. And you're worrying about action, jackass.
2006-09-23 16:10:49 · answer #9 · answered by valkyrie hero 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
has she gotten counseling for it? if not then she needs to and you definatly need to talk with her
2006-09-23 16:10:52 · answer #10 · answered by caitybug10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋