Real Advice Please , How Do I Get his attention?

Question

If you were in my shoes "you are a discreet gay man and you have a crush on a guy that you think is gay but your not sure what would you do to get his attention? If you work at the same place with him everyday, but not side by side, and he gives off body language as if he were gay, how would you let him know you were interested? Without asking him if he is gay. Seriously, please help.

Answer 1

Not good to have relationships with people you work with. Some companies have policies against that. And, with being Gay....well, the problems from that are obvious.

Answer 2

OMG, I just wrote a whole long paragraph to you and the spell check wouldn't complete so I hit refresh and the whole thing went away!!
So, here it goes again. First please be careful, this could turn ugly very quickly if you say or do something at work and he files sexual harassment charges against you. Also, I suggest you consider what it will be like if you two do get together and then still work in the same place, or worse, what it will be like if you two get into a relationship and then break up, or even just have a romp and then have to see each other at work. Having said all of that, if the two of you have any mutual friends at work, invite that person and the crush to lunch, or for coffee or a drink after work one day. You could also just ask him if he wants to go out for coffee or a beer or whatever after work one day, or if you read you might suggest a book you have read and see if he has read it too, depending on if you want to lay out some money, you could ask him if he wants to go to a concert with you if you have a common music interest. This is all if you are interested in more than a romp, if it is just sex, be careful because it may not be worth the trouble it may bring you. Good luck and be careful!

Answer 3

Why don't you suggest going out for a beer or a cup of coffee, just on a casual friendship basis, like, "Hey Joe, let's go have a tall one after work. What do you say?" Then see how he responds to the offer. If he takes you up on it, you'll probably get to know him better and you'll recognize the signs of interest or pick it up through the conversation. If no such signs appear, then he probably isn't who you think he is. No harm done -- just two guys having a drink after work. Since you say you're discreet, you won't pursue the matter. If on the other hand, he does meet your expectations -- well, the rest is up to you. But to sum it all up, use your discretion to the best advantage by not coming on too strong. If he declines your offer, just be gracious and maybe try again at another time. If he declines the second time, he may be straight and on to you, so don't ask again. Better luck with someone else. Hope it works out for you, though.

Answer 4

Wink at him or jus send a note or someting.
why not jus be bold ask him for his number or email address so that u two cud talk.
If ur 2 shy c if u can get his number from someone. U kno. do some back ground check on him and make sure he's really gay before u try anything.

Answer 5

let him make the first movve it all comes back to sexuall haresment in the work area even though you didnt ask anything at work. But also remeber if you are good looking its fine to do it. Good looking people never get acused of sexuall harasment.

Answer 6

Well, first of all, if you look at all like your avatar....it probably won't matter.

Ask him what church he attends. if he is a member of Fred Phelps Gay-hating church in Topeka, KS....well chances are you are not going to get anywhere with this fellow.

Good luck, though....

Answer 7

Send him a discreet note inviting him to a movie. What could it hurt.

Answer 8

touch, feel and go. o.k.