i had a bf that just wasnt in to me and i would like to know why. im not ugly. i cook good . i know how to please a man very well. im open minded i dont argue all the time. i take very good care of my home. so what is it. he ignored my feelings and treated me as if i was second. why????????
2006-09-23 15:46:25 · 37 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can see two reasons for this:
1) He cannot see the beauty of what he has and instead has the lust of what he doesn't. If this is the case, you should move on to someone who will appreciate you. There are plenty of men out there who want a woman like you.
2) He has an unfulfilled ambition and he wants to be with you, but his work is important too. I doubt this is the case, but if he is trying to finish school, has a demanding career, or is working on a project on the side you should give him the space to do those things because in the end you both benefit.
2006-09-23 15:57:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not trying to assume anything, but must ask if you had sex with him. If that is the case, he got what he wanted, and then moved on. If this is the case, he is showing you that he has no respect for any female, and he will never be anything other than a boy. He gives all us guys a bad rap. If sex was involved, I suggest that you wait for a man to marry you before going that route any more.
If sex was not involved in this relationship, he is still the type of guy who has no respect for females, and he will end up a lonely boy in the long run. He might have relationships once in a while, but never a long time relationship.
2006-09-23 15:53:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you living together? That sometimes is a big step to take and takes time to adjust to. He could have had some personal issues that he was struggling with or something like that. Either way if he treated you 2nd and ignored you then left you hes probably not for you.
2006-09-23 15:51:01 · answer #3 · answered by Michael H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm scratching my chin...there is a lot more to a relationship than the monetary things like cleaning, cooking, etc. You may need to see why were you attracted to him. What did you get outta the relationship. There are always two sides to a story and only he could answer that. Maybe it's just the connection.
2006-09-23 15:55:45 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. Inquisitive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he was just looking for fun and things got too serious. Son instead of being a man and say: Look, I have NO BALLS to carry out a real relationship anymore, I just wanted sex and now I need to move on, he treated you like trash hoping you would leave.
Move one, you dont need that kinda guy in your life. You seem to have lots of qualities.
Good luck!
2006-09-23 15:49:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're looking for a Simple answer to a complex question. "Chemistry" between people is NOT simple. I have dated girls that I thought were wonderful but in the end they didn't want to be with me and I have also dated girls who had Very good qualities except they just Didn't lite my fire.
What can I tell you? Someday you Will meet someone and you Both will "click"!
2006-09-23 15:52:41 · answer #6 · answered by thart090 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U just need to know that you didn't do anything wrong sometimes people feelings change you cannot control what the heart feels no worries someday you'll meet a guy that will love you for you and appreicate all that you can give him what is this guy loss is your gain to a better person
2006-09-23 15:49:52 · answer #7 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you stay with this guy if he treated you this way? I would say the ignored your feelings and treated you as if you were second because he could. If you tolerated his poor behavior and lack of respect, can you really expect him to treat you well?
2006-09-23 15:52:35 · answer #8 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That guy is one of the type that likes to conquer then move on. Don't fret about jerks like that and find a guy like me who actually cares about a ladies feelings and wants nothing more than to love her to death.
2006-09-23 15:50:34 · answer #9 · answered by Sentinel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the chemistry just isn't there. Always assume it's the other person with the issues.
Good luck
2006-09-23 15:50:23 · answer #10 · answered by mickeyg1958 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋