well i saw them by his locker and uhh. they were kissing. and i couldnt tell what happened ! my boyfriend says he tried to stop her and my friend says he was all over her. who should i trust ? and why ? i have known my friend for about 3 years now and i have been dating Jeff for a year and 3 months, but we tell eachother everything and we dont keep secrets from eachother.. or so he tells me ? ughhh. i dont know what to do ! advice pleasee ?
2006-09-23 15:16:55 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd kick her, spit on her, and throw her off a freakin building.
I'd set your boyfriend on fire and cook marshmellows over him.
2006-09-23 15:54:06 · answer #1 · answered by Cassie G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be mad at both of them. Because the "he came on to me" thing is 99% crap most of the time. but you gotta think of how the kiss was when you saw them. Were they touching eachother, was it like a 2 sec kiss. Either way you still should be mad but if they were really into it when you saw them I'd suggest leaving the guy because he'll do it again.
2006-09-23 15:21:37 · answer #2 · answered by PB&J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be mad at both of them... They both knew that this would hurt you so why would either of them step over the line if they cared about you. With friends like that, who needs enemies?
Jeff obviously does keep secrets from you if he didn't have the balls to tell you about his feelings for your friend before he acted on them....You are worth more than that, girl... I say drop them both and move on...
2006-09-23 15:21:21 · answer #3 · answered by HSK's mama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's quite obvious that niether of them respect you as a person, friend nor gf. Ditch them, tell them you don't need friends like that, and find yourself some friends who do respect you and value your friendship a lot better than that.
You shouldn't ever have to doubt the word of a friend and much less that of someone you have given your heart and trust to. They should have been in the situation in the first place.
Don't be one of "those"girls you see on the Springer, man!
2006-09-23 15:22:58 · answer #4 · answered by The Dude... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of both of them. How can you be so Nieve to believe either of them. You don't need a friend that you can't have your boyfriend around no matter if he was hitting on her or not, if that was the case she didn't need to kiss him. And you definately don't need a boy that cheats. It may hurt at first but don't ever settle for a man that cheats on you, have some self esteem and dump his butt
2006-09-23 15:20:06 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Shortie♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be mad at no one. It does no good. But, for the record, she is not your friend. And apparently he is not your exclusive boyfriend. So, you have seen that you can't trust either of them, and the only logical next step is to remove yourself from both relationships -- and find better friends and a better boyfriend. You don't deserve that kind of treatment from either.
2006-09-23 15:26:25 · answer #6 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put both of them in a time out! Nah, but you don't have to be mad at either of them, just dump them both. You now know that you can't trust either of them. If he started it, then she could've ducked away, slapped him, cussed him out, etc... If it was her that started it, then either he's a wimp that can't push a girl off of him, or he liked it and allowed it to happen. Either way, now you know and you should just move on and be thankful that you found out now rather than on your wedding night or something serious like that.
2006-09-23 15:20:36 · answer #7 · answered by The Meksikan Couple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of them, you can't make out with someone if they aren't at least helping you along. Break up with the guy, he's a jerk for doing that to you; tell her you don't want to hang out with her, she's not worth trusting if she did that to you.
They are both liars. Friends don't do stuff like that to each oher.
2006-09-23 15:23:57 · answer #8 · answered by SalesGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother being mad at either one of them - just use this as a learning experience. They're really young, and so are you. You can use this to learn how to let go of people who don't treat you right and only hold on to people who treat you the way you'd like to be treated.
2006-09-23 15:44:44 · answer #9 · answered by farmgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you must have felt awful. I had this happen to me in highschool. Your boyfriend would be the first one to be mad at then your I would lose the friend or find another one. I wouldn't trust her around one of my guy friends again unless she really proved remorse.
2006-09-23 15:23:10 · answer #10 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to find out, just tell them both that you don't want them in your life and maybe the truthful one will be really upset and keep calling you to apologize or something. Or just tell your boyfriend to prove to you that he still wants you in his life or you will break up with him. Good Luck!
2006-09-23 15:19:33 · answer #11 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋