My 10 year old cousin likes this guy. There both ten and in middle school. They sit next to eack other in home room, guidence, gym, and music. Her best friend told her that he likes a girl that is smart(she's smart) funny (she made him laugh once or twice in class the second day) and nice (she is really nice) . She likes him A LOT!! He also choose to play with her in gym. She dosen't know what to do and she looks up to me. HELP!!!!!!
2006-09-23 15:15:52 · 20 answers · asked by <3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
isnt she a bit young to be concerned with boys at 10 she might want to keep her head in her books and just be his friend
2006-09-23 15:18:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your 10 year old cousin that it is OK to like a boy but that is all it can be. Let her know that she is still too young to be thinking of them as boyfriend and girlfriend. She can even go to the movies with him, with a chaperon, but never alone. Explain to her that feelings such as she is feeling are natural, but not to expand on them until she gets older. They can play together, do things together just as friends. Let her know she will have plenty of time for other things later on. Also you might tell her that girls that start having boyfriends as young as she is get a bad reputation, because boys will be boys, and they sometimes exaggerate on hings that they do with a girl when they are alone. Let her know that her virtue is the most important thing to her and that the other girls will respect her even if she doesn't have a boyfriend at this time. Put yourself as an example and maybe she will understand since she looks up to you. Good luck with this problem, I know it isn't easy, I have a 12 year old and I explained it to her and she understand what I told her because I explained it to the same way. It excellent that she trust you and can talk to you. You are a very understanding and caring cousin.
2006-09-23 22:42:46 · answer #2 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are tough to crack sometimes...
He'll look at you, until you turn around, then boom, he's looking the other way.
You may 'feel' like he's watching you - but he's hard to catch at it
He may do something physical - like grab you in a play way, poke you, play with your hair...
(Remember when you were really young and the guy you liked punched you or tackled you?)
He may be working really hard to pay attention to you, but doesn't quite know how...
He may ask a friend of yours about you - he'll say it's just for "friend of mine" that wants to know about you.
He talks to everybody else - but when you're around he turns silent, or chokes up.
You seem to accidentally bump into him a lot of different places.
He may not say a word to you, but he shows up in the same line, at the same movie, etc.
He'll give you a little smile from across the room, but if you get near, he won't look up.
Basically - the BIG clue is that his behavior changes when you're around (compared to when he's around his buds or other girls).
DEAD Giveaway - when you talk to him he turns red.
(Bingo - you can pack that puppy up and take him home...)
Tell her these tips and see how it works out........she's only 10 though.. I don't know what will happen......
2006-09-23 22:19:55 · answer #3 · answered by IamabrownE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that they should wait because they are too young and even though they hang out with eachother, it doesnt mean they should be dating, tell her that it is too soon and tell her it's ok to not have a boyfriend and if u dont have a boyfriend either, then tell her that it is completely normal and she is still growing so there will be more boys and tell her not to worry and tell her that they just should stay friends and play with each other and stuff but since they are both 10, a relationship isn't a good thing for them especially when they are young like 10. i hope this helps! good luck
2006-09-23 22:29:02 · answer #4 · answered by Cecilia ♡ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are only 10. I would suggest for them to stay with puppy love and the close friendship for now. The better they know each other as they get older will be the better relationship they have WHEN they have a true and respecting love together. Of course I would suggest you put it in your own words so she would understand it. Good luck.
2006-09-23 22:21:10 · answer #5 · answered by Liome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her its okay to talk to him and to ask him to walk her home, or to go to the park for a common interest in looking at the fall foliage, just tell her its okay for her to make the first move to let him know that she's also interested in him, help her think of things they could do together after school, like riding bikes, walking dogs, etc...
2006-09-23 22:19:40 · answer #6 · answered by odafintutuola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are kids! tell her that she's too young for a boyfriend and that will put the pressure off of her to find one....if she didn't feel stressed to get a boyfriend like other girls in school then she wouldn't b making a big deal about it...i didn't get my first boyfriend until highschool and i am happy i did because i was able to be a kid when i was a kid.........she's WAY too young to experience this kind of ordeal.....dont u think?
raise her selfesteem and tell her she is too young for a boyfriend and that she should just be his friend until the time is right...to not sweat it :o)
2006-09-23 22:20:54 · answer #7 · answered by mholt_86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here i will do tell her to write a note to him that she like him, this happen to me when i was in middle school, it was long time but if he answer back she can know if he like or not tell her write is do you like me and write it down yes or no
some of the boys are shy, so like me when i was in middle school hope this help
have a wonderful day
2006-09-23 22:20:05 · answer #8 · answered by mike2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to enjoy the confusion of not knowing what to do...let her figure it out from there...At 10 Boys should still be full of "cooties" but loosing their mysterious "boy"
2006-09-23 22:18:50 · answer #9 · answered by e_guanajuato 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, 1st thing 1st....tell her not to chase after him and give him a chance to chase after her, think about it if a boy knows you like him and hes not interested then hell use you b-cuz he knows he can but if he liked you and you were so pressed over him den he will be turned off, so tell her to act cool and just relax, and wait for him to tell her how he feels for her....besides shes very young she has alot more boy problems ahead of her....trust me on this
2006-09-23 22:19:18 · answer #10 · answered by Crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋