I've tried to explain to him that it bothers me, but it does no good. He always signs out on me while we're in the middle of a conversation! It makes me feel rejected and hurt. It's also very rude and if there's one thing I can't stand it's poor manners. I've told him just how hurt it makes me feel when he does that but he continues to ignore me.
What should I do?
2006-09-23 14:40:43 · 19 answers · asked by mannersaremygoal 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
This is on Instant Messenger. Thank you very much for any help!
2006-09-23 14:41:04 · update #1
Stop talking to him. Duh!
2006-09-23 14:42:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would question what type of "friend" this is! In this era of call waiting, and taking cell phone calls in the middle of conversation and at restaurants and the like, is it any wonder? The problem is that your friend doesn't think he's doing anything wrong. He's so wrapped up in himself, he can't consider what his rude behavior is doing to you. The next time he does that...simply sign off yourself. If he wants to communicate with you, he'll contact you. At the very beginning of the conversation, tell him that if he signs out mid-chat on you, you will simply do the same, move on to communicating with someone else, and do what he does to you....ignore him. Then follow through on your promise. That will earn the respect that he's thus far failed to give you. Stay strong!
2006-09-23 18:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by Tony G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This seems pretty rude...why are you talking to this guy in the first place. Be polite, and only stick to the converstion basics (Hey, what's up, nothing much, see you later, etc.) so that you're not telling him all about your day or how much the person you're dating is annoying you right now, or something lengthy and then he signs off and makes you feel rejected. Just keep it to the basics.
2006-09-23 14:53:04 · answer #3 · answered by answers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to have the same problem in real life, not on instant messenger. But you have it easier I see. But I would just interupt him back or say sorry I have to go now. if he keep's doing that he is not a real friend. Especially since they want all the control. A true friend will let you finish what you are saying and not boss you around.
2006-09-23 15:25:33 · answer #4 · answered by jrealitytv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop talking to him. What's the point of having a conversation with someone who does stupid things just to annoy you. Take him off your messenger list and find a new friend.
2006-09-23 15:20:17 · answer #5 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not contact him again. If he wants to talk to you, he will contact you and you will have the choice to respond or not. He is either self-centered and rude with his own agenda -- he disconnects as soon as he gets what he wants or finds out what he needs to know; or he is trying to tell you that you are boring him or he does not want to discuss whatever is being said.
I do not know what your situation is, but I do know people like this and I have no desire to call them a friend or to spend quality time with them. Life is too short. Find someone you have more in common with, do not complain when chatting with someone, and discuss (two-way conversation) items that of are interest to the both of you.
2006-09-23 14:53:03 · answer #6 · answered by joyann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new friend. He obviously has no respect for you and is not a true friend. Selfish and rude sums him up. Put him on your ignore list and stop talking to him.
2006-09-24 04:43:20 · answer #7 · answered by purrfectsandcastle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just online chat. It is not designed to replace a real life conversation. Get outside and get some fresh air!!!!
2006-09-23 15:34:35 · answer #8 · answered by Dave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe something is wrong with his computer, or maybe he is just bored with talking to you after a certain time.. id ask him the next time right in the beginning of the convo, then if he says something rude..STOP talking to to him... if not.. be understanding
2006-09-23 14:44:20 · answer #9 · answered by ms_ladylove_24_7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really dont think you should take it personally. But if it really bothers you find someone else to chat with. He obviously isn't going to change.
2006-09-27 06:53:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go on-line in invisible mode or take him off my messenger list.
2006-09-23 14:49:47 · answer #11 · answered by Ivyvine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋