I have a question.....I am 22 and my botfriend is 36. He is having some issues being older. We have excellent commuinication and we have a very healthy relationship. Out personal intimacy is great and so is our sexual intimacy. I am not like most 21 year olds. I have worked full time sicne 18 and have a very succesful career in insuarance. We net at a business course. He has never been married and had no childern. He has an issue making that next step into us being partners. His family loves me and tells him age doesnt matter. They said I am way beyond my years and I am. He is very young at heart as well. We both dont go out and focus on our careers. Basically nothing is chagning...we are dating...boyfriend gorlfirend so to speak....he needs to get over this age issue and feel more ok with making that next step. Please help!
2006-09-23 14:35:00 · 12 answers · asked by Stephanie C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's something he has to work out for himself. He probably needs to really "get it" that you love him and you're not going to dump him for a 26 year old in five years time.
2006-09-23 14:52:55 · answer #1 · answered by Girl Machine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you stopped to wonder if the issue isn't age but just his ability to commit? Experience full intimacy? Because some guys that have commitment issues will only let you get so close and then they fall back on the age issue or the religion issue or the politics issue or whatever.
They only let you so close, not enough to invade their sense of personal space and freedom, then don't let you closer because of some pretext.
If he really, really cared so much about the age issue then he wouldn't have gome out with you in the first place. He's a hypocrite using the issue as an excuse to avoid taking the relationshiop to the next, closer level.
2006-09-23 14:42:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why any guys have an issue like that. If a woman is mature at any age except an underage girl I see no reason not to date. I am 16 years older than my wife and we have been married (happily_ for 34 years.
2006-09-23 14:39:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 19 and my husband is 36 and neither of us have any issues with the age differences. I suggest talking to him and asking him what exactly is it about the age differences it is that is bothering him. Then talk about it and work it out. It may not even be about the age difference it could be about anything really and the age thing is just what he would like you to think its about. It's probably nothing other then he just needs to talk to you or a friend about it and work it out.
2006-09-23 14:40:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine that the genuine aspect is that both human beings in touch are satisfied with the association. If one my sons requested my opinion about such an association for himself, i ought to advice hostile to it. adult males are a lot more advantageous attracted to actual attractiveness than women. An older lady's sexual attractiveness is going to wane lengthy before the more youthful guy is in a position to de-emphasize the sexual portion of the relationship. also, with a lady as previous as you're, toddlers ought to likely be out of the question, or will be quickly. interior the suitable although, it must be for both human beings in touch to go back to a decision this stuff.
2016-11-23 18:14:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a very mature point of view if he is evaluating that right now that 14 years dosn't mean much at this point but other than his love he need s to keep you satisfied sexually all the time whith age his sexual desire is going to decrease probably 14 yaers earlier than yours......its very sad when people don't count this very important factor sadly is not just about love.
2006-09-23 15:36:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a moron to have issues with dating a younger woman. I am 31 and my girlfriend is 20, so what? Dont hate the game baby, thats just how it is, but he seems to be hating on Himself for wanting you. Hes a moron!
2006-09-23 14:37:31 · answer #7 · answered by jamz2277 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are forbidden fruit. I hope that he's taking you seriously.In my thirties, I took out lots of girls in their twenties , but not seriously. yes I eventually married one.
I had to do a lot of rethinking. Maybe he also does too.
2006-09-23 14:47:04 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get over it!!!! As long as you two are compatible (and it would appear that you are).....what's the problem? Age should not be an issue here.
2006-09-23 14:39:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you 100% . Show him what you just typed to us, maybe that will do the trick. Good luck!!
2006-09-23 14:39:00 · answer #10 · answered by Scoop 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋