He pulled in front of another car and died because he was not wearing his seatbelt but they feel it is still your fault.
2006-09-23 14:34:59 · 25 answers · asked by Peppy 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sorry for confusing those that already answered. Yes, I was the other driver. and he pulled in front of me and I struck his car and he died. the family says it was my fault because they said I was driving to fast which was proven to be false.
2006-09-23 15:06:28 · update #1
All I'm going to say is the faimly has my condolenses, and my deepest sympathies. I'm so very sorry for their loss.
2006-09-23 15:22:07 · answer #1 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK first of all i disagree with sumthin sumone else said about they will move on...yea you'll move on but it takes time and it hurts a lot and you'll never forget! but yes i lost my brother when he was 20 almost 5 years ago and it still hurts when i really think about it! so i kinda heard basically everything from family and friends get a nice mass card or a sympathy card telling the family how you feel and if ur close to the family its always nice to know that you'll be there if they ever need anyone or n e thing and my brother died in a car accident 2 bc he wasnt wearing a seat belt, and what do you mean its still your fault? were u driving? but if thts the case thts a little tougher,emotionally mainly show your truely sorry bc it counts idk i cant really say they'll forgive you right away bc i havent forgave the guy tht was driving the car when my brother died so yea... sorry if this didnt help
2006-09-23 14:45:52 · answer #2 · answered by Samantha G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At first I thought you were wondering what words of sympathy to say to this family. Then you describe the car accident that killed him and apparently you were the one involved. Do I have that correct? Okay... regardless of who was at fault, whether it was the unfortunate young man or the other driver, the fact remains that a young life was lost. It was clearly an accident that could and should have been prevented. It was tragic. But this is not a time for blame -- not the boy and not the other driver. All you can do is express your condolences and try not to feel guilty. If you were the other driver, you did not purposely kill this young man, and yes, he should have been wearing his seat belt, but he wasn't. Still, no one deserves to die like that, and the other party doesn't need to bear the guilt. I really feel sorry for both of you, but I am not the one to give absolution. Try God. He is the best judge of the situation, and if you are sincere, He will forgive you and help you to forgive yourself.
2006-09-23 14:44:52 · answer #3 · answered by gldjns 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What was your relationship to the deceased, to his family and were you involved in the accident? Why did you say "they feel it is still your fault"? Do they blame you? I'd need to know these things because what you'd say or don't say depends entirely on this. It might even be that you should leave the family alone. Sorry, but you haven't given enough detail to help me out, not the details that tell the real story.
Who is this joker who's obviously not anyone's parent and who says "they'll get over it eventually"??? You have no idea what you're talking about.
2006-09-23 14:43:17 · answer #4 · answered by TweetyBird 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said "they feel it is still your fault." Was your car the one he pulled out in front of? Could you add more details?
If that is the case, or any case, actually, all you can really say is that you are sorry. Nothing can bring him back, and sometimes all they need to know is that people are feeling for them. The worst thing you could say in any terrible situation is "I know how you feel." Trust me on that.
2006-09-23 14:39:50 · answer #5 · answered by class act 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would they think it's your fault? Were you the other driver? If so, maybe you could make a donation to a charity in his name. Give them some time and then try to contact them.
If not, just call them or send a card and tell them you are sorry for their loss.
2006-09-23 14:40:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said earlier that you were driving 20 mph over the speed limit. You were wrong. It's not much you can say, but it would behoove of you to apology sincerely. Send flowers or whatever you can. Check on them often and make sure if there is anything they need to contact you (only if you truly want to).
2006-09-23 14:39:29 · answer #7 · answered by ♥michele♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are no correct words to say in a situation like that. The only best thing to say that I know of is, "I'm praying for you." And pray for them if you can or have someone else do pray. Only God knows how they are feeling and He knows the best way to comfort them during this time of loss. If I have not experience the same exact pain of what others are going through than it is really challenging to make up words that you have no true understanding of. But praying is the best thing to do in this situation.
2006-09-23 14:42:38 · answer #8 · answered by wonderwoman 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry my dear friend.Condole yourself.After all every relation is a Maya (illusion). Any relation is bound to go.We have come to this world alone. We are going to leave this world alone.All the relation we have here are only temporary.This impermanence in the nature is only permanent. Understand this truth and go ahead in life.See what is in reserve for you in future.
May God give you strength to take up life as it is.
2006-09-23 14:53:04 · answer #9 · answered by idsalex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"still your fault"....i'm assuming that you were the driver of the other car...only thing I can think of is to offer condolenses.....give them time and if you can financially afford it even maybe help pay for part of the funeral if if you were not at fault....get permission from the city to plant a tree in his name....anything that will show the family that you truly are sorry
2006-09-23 14:41:21 · answer #10 · answered by echoedwhispers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋