I am a Muslim who you believe is oppressed. May be poorer muslim women are oppressed. But If The Men treat their women so well then why is their such a high divorce rate. 50% or more. I think the system over here is good for women. I do not think their husbands are so great. How else do u explain the big Divorce number. I specially encourage divorced women to answer this.
2006-09-23 13:55:05 · 29 answers · asked by observer 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Are you kidding me. The murder rate of the women in the hands of their lovers and husbands is pretty high. I remember when my Mexican cleaner used to come to my house all black and blue. I was so scred of her husband, I had to let her go. I have never seen my dad mistreat my mom, she did not appreciate him that much because she was so spoiled but now she does.
2006-09-23 14:08:46 · update #1
By the way if i thought divorce was a choice, I would have divorced him, that would have been a bad mistake.
2006-09-23 14:15:49 · update #2
A lot of my women friends make a lot more money than their husbands(because they are physicians) and they live in this country, they have the freedom but their only has been 1% divorce. The new westernised generation, women are divorcing too.
2006-09-23 14:19:19 · update #3
Thank you Noble Angel and I hope Godwill take care of u and your loved ones.
2006-09-23 14:23:27 · update #4
Yes David T you are right, I should have helped her, I was scared of him because of my children not because of me. This was so many years ago, I would do differently now. You are totally right. I am helping a muslim woman out with my friend the social worker, who is mentally abusive so I have matured more.
2006-09-23 14:30:53 · update #5
Yes the muslim family structure is degrading because of westernization and the newer generation sometimes divorces within matter of days. I think its best to make your marriage work. Everyone has faults. I agree if u followed your religion, it would be a better family structure.
2006-09-23 14:46:21 · update #6
I am neither a woman, nor am I of age to be married (17), but I am Muslim, and I know very well that Muslim women are treated with respect in the household. In fact, as our faith dictates, the mother/father are given the utmost obediance and respect, not to mention that the husband and wife also honor one another, unlike the American culture, which seems to encourage people to divorce, or at the very least, to be "free" and either not get married, or just to lie around with other people (which is terrible).
I completely agree.
2006-09-23 13:59:29 · answer #1 · answered by Link 5 · 3⤊ 6⤋
It can only come down to an abuse of American freedoms. Take the freedom of speech...it is a great and liberating law that some use to spread a message of hate just because they can. Divorce is the simplest way to back out of something when times get too hard. "For better or worst" has to really mean something other than words you repeat to each other at the altar. Some marry too quickly, riding that "so in love" feeling that's at the beginning of relationships, they later find out that that wears off and that true love actually takes work and sacrifice. Some don't want to go through all the trouble, some offset it by adultry (trying to recapture that "so in love" feeling), and some just exist in their marriages, feeling hollow and empty. Man or woman, it makes no difference, the divorce rate is high because people put a limit on their vows to one another, "For better or worse...to a certain extent".
2006-09-23 14:11:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anthony L 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
High divorce rate by itself does not mean anything. If your implication is that divorce rate is low in Muslim societies because women are not oppressed, you are wrong. The divorce rate in Muslim societies is lower because in these societies only men have the right to divorce. If they are not happy with their wife they can divorce her by just saying "talaq", three times. Case closed.
But they do not do that because they need not do it. If they are unhappy with a wife they can just shop around for one more wife( up to four wives).
On the other hand if the wife wants a divorce she does not have the right to divorce. Whether she like the guy or not, she has to continue to sleep with him.
Now do you understand why the divorce rate in Muslim societies is lower even if the women are oppressed?
2006-09-23 14:20:59 · answer #3 · answered by curious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The women I know who are divorced didn't choose to divorce their husbands because they were treated badly. They simply couldn't get along with their spouse. I think too many people choose marriage for the wrong reasons or marry too quickly. I know a lot of people who have been married more than 40 years (my parents for example). They believed in one marriage - a bond that should last a lifetime. When they had problems, they worked things out. It's just too easy for young couples today to decide the "fell" out of love and get a divorce.
2006-09-23 14:05:42 · answer #4 · answered by TJMiler 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first, you did not specify where are you from and which is this "this country" you are referring to, but in general, Western countries differ from Muslim cultures mostly in that the role of religion is much higher in Muslim countries, and most religions discourage divorce, also, in several places there's also a social stigma against it, also, according to Muslim law the father gets the children after a divorce and women do not want to lose their children.
I don't know about the divorce rate in the most religious Western countries but I bet those are lower than in the not-so-religious ones. (try checking Italy, Poland, Ireland, and the South American ones, these come to my mind right now.)
2006-09-25 03:52:32 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your Mexican cleaner came to your house all black and blue, and you were so scared of her husband, you had to let her go.
You told us all about yourself right there, my gal.
You are more spoiled than any American girl I've ever known...most of the girls I know would at least have tried to help this woman.
But that is the way your culture is, isn't it? Selfish and cruel.
By the way, I tend to agree...if divorce were available to Muslim women, I'd bet your divorce rate would quadruple ours in a flat minute. How many women would rather divorce their husbands than murder their own children?
Agreed...nice try, Mrs. Muslim.....
you poor kid.....
2006-09-23 14:24:37 · answer #6 · answered by David T 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am disguised by the bigots who set a double standard to those who are different form them. I no longer see religion, race, or nationality, I just see a person heart. Because of this, I have elevated to a new level of love and acceptance free of hate.
But I believe when any society becomes progressive and capitalist it is bound to happen because both partners want to rule the marriage and control cash flow. And also the pop culture of America that exploits fornication, infedility, and marriage drama has put some Americans in a role for failure. We simply have lost the value for the women's and men's role in the household. Women see it as oppresive, and demending when really it is the role that shapes and keeps the family happy and running.
2006-09-23 14:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by Muse 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
selfish people, only caring about what they want. that being said If this country were run like a Christian nation there would not be a divorce rate like it is. But we do not function that way we put our ideas with every thing... Heck in our country we try to sell women and men a bill of goods.. we actually have people on this site that think that marriage is 50/50hahahaha anyone that has been married for longer than two days knows that it is each one giving 100% each day... day in and day out or you don't make it...
2006-09-23 14:03:49 · answer #8 · answered by 57chevy 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's nothing to do with how men treat us, it is rushing in to marriage too soon, believing that it is supposed to be perfect and brilliant all the time so when a problem does arise it is unexpected so someone in the marriage bails because they don't wanna deal with it. It is more a generation thing, we see movies where love is this amazing passionate thing and that's not true, real love is boring and tedious most of the time so boredom is a big factor as well.
2006-09-23 14:01:43 · answer #9 · answered by bobatemydog 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Women in America are spoiled. They ae high maintenance. I feel so sorry for some men in this country, because they have been mis-treated and then the court systems, stick up for the women wheather they are right or wrong. Please don't downgrade the husbands in this country. Many have been dragged head first through the mud. Some women and men, just are not satified until they are old and then no one else wants them. The poor women in this country, have severe difficulty to take care of their children and provide for them. To be poor is awful. I am not divorced, but I have witnessed many men, who were done wrong.
2006-09-23 14:05:41 · answer #10 · answered by Norskeyenta 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Basically, because the women here are not afraid of calling the police when they're beaten by their husbands, and they're not afraid to leave a cruel husband. We have the freedom to mess up, which we do on a regular basis, but we also have the freedom to not be stuck in a loveless, miserable marriage. Now, I don't agree with all the divorces, but I would rather the women here divorce than to be victimized throughout their lives or to be stuck with a man who cheats on her.
2006-09-23 14:01:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋