2006-09-23 13:44:57 · 18 answers · asked by wwwdotshhhh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah. And while you're waiting be a really good friend. She will eventually start seeing those individual trees again, instead of the forest.
2006-09-23 14:21:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not.
When someone needs time after a relationship, it's because they need to take the time to become self dependent again. If they know someone is waiting for them, the waiting person can become a crutch and keep them from their needed self discovery. Then if the two people in question do hook up there will be dependence issues.
The sentiment is super sweet, but it's not fair. Be friends and if it's meant to happen, it will happen eventually. Just don't expect anything to happen.
2006-09-23 20:51:31 · answer #2 · answered by Kikka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES and NO...
You can get VERY HURT in this situation: If you are spending a lot of time with this girl, that is for a reason: Because you like her a lot. There will be an automatic imbalance in your feelings for each other: You want to be in a proper relationship with each other but those feelings are not mutually shared until she has made a commitment to you...Like a kiss!
This can get very difficult for you as time goes on if nothing happens.
For now, you have to let her know you like her: Say something like..."I have not liked a girl as much as I like you for sometime now, I think you're fantastic, but I do need to know how you feel about me". If she answers with something sweet, that is fine for the moment...
However...
You will need a KISS, HOLDING OF HANDS or STRONG VERBAL indication she likes you at some point.
Do be prepared to ask her down the road: "Before I totally fall for you, I'd like to know you are feeling the same way about me...Its difficult, but it might be hard for me to be around you so much if you don't feel the same way".
Then you KISS or know where you stand.
Try to not get too attached until you are attached!!!
If you are already quite attached to her, depending on the girl, you are open to being used and hurt.
The "Just Friends" line kills, especially after a long period of time! Of course her friendship is lovely, but you want more and its difficult to settle for that alone. That's why you need to make it clear, without expecting anything from her right away that you like her loads.
Also...
A lot depends on you: Do you have other women chasing you/women you can chase, are you dead happy with your own life and have lots of stuff to keep you occupied besides her?
Things could work out wonderfully. But you may have to stand a lot of pain in the meantime which is not healthy for you.
Difficult question, the answer is YES and NO.
There are lots of women out there who will love you right now, even if nobody else is immediately available to you, remember that there are other girls who'll take your breath away!
Be careful, it can be painful!!!
2006-09-23 21:44:43 · answer #3 · answered by mayiask 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I did it and although I got the guy eventually, I had to endure some real bullsh*t in order to get him. I ended up being hurt a lot and it was my own fault since he told me he wasn't ready. You will be too. She will continue to do whatever she wants to do and you will long for her to love you the way you love her but she never will. And if by some chance she does become your girlfriend, it will be hard to just dismiss all the stuff she put you through before she became 'officially' yours. If its going to happen, walk away and let it happen on its own. Don't wait for her, hopefully shell come around, if not its her loss.
2006-09-23 20:51:13 · answer #4 · answered by Queen J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it okay to wait, especially if she has said that she likes this guy but is not quite ready to move on. Just be there as a friend, be supportive and show her that she can trust you, the rest will follow. I think thats really sweet that a guy would care enough to wait.
2006-09-23 20:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by CHIMP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. if you think that she is worth it then yes just wait and be her friend. Take her out for dinner but don't go for the kiss or holding hands or hugging. let her initiate anything when she is ready. She will appritiate the fact that you were pacient and a true friend. Good Luck
2006-09-23 20:50:12 · answer #6 · answered by weldergooroo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, if there is one thing I've learned from my experience with dating is that that is just an excuse. The best remedy for a bad breakup is a new love, if she isn't interested, no amount of time will make it better. Move on. The worst that can happen is you find someone who is genuinely interested in you, the best is, you make her jealous and you get the girl...but don't count on that. Sorry.
2006-09-23 20:51:12 · answer #7 · answered by Sandy S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the guy wants to wait for that girl then sure it's fine. But does the girl like him and want him to wait for her?
2006-09-23 20:47:19 · answer #8 · answered by michelleee♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a matter of if it's ok. Ok by whose standards? That is entirely up to the guy. If he's willing to wait.
2006-09-23 20:48:11 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that says alot about you it says you really like her and that l you care about her to wait until shes ready hopefully she wont take long and you guys can go out
2006-09-23 20:49:38 · answer #10 · answered by Ana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋