Do you think the age difference between a 16 year old (almost 17 yr old) and a 22 year old is too big for a succesful relationship? List the pros and cons...I'm just curious to see people's opinions on this one. They met through an ex boyfriend, and he's one of her best guy friends...he knows she likes him...and he told her that she'd be "the perfect girl for him if she were 19". Do you think those two years really make the difference?
2006-09-23 13:38:21 · 17 answers · asked by hazeleyedbambi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I live in Mass, the age of consent is 16, so nothing's illegal just to set a few of the people straight here. And I'm the girl haha...and we're very compatible...and we tell each other everything, we talk about sex...not in a dirty way...just what it means to each of us. I know his dating history, he knows mine. I asked him straight out if the sex thing made him cautious with me and he said that sex is not the most important thing in a relationship and that he's gone without it in the past. He's such a great guy and we both just got out of relationships where we got hurt (like 6 mths ago) and we both deserve to find someone!
2006-09-23 13:46:44 · update #1
Like I know a bunch of you think he'd pressure me, but he's not like that...I trust him so much, he's one of my best friends. He calls me almost every night and we talk for at least an hour...we make each other happy and we tell each other stuff we can't tell other people. I'm really falling for him and I know it's bad...but so far I've had no luck with guys closer to my age. My last boyfriend was around 2 years older than me and treated me horribly. He's the first guy in a long time that I can see being in a sucessful relationship with (besides the age difference).
2006-09-23 13:56:50 · update #2
Not really. I was 18 and dating a 23 year old. It's not that wierd. And I'm 24 and my husband is 30. It might sound wierd now. But later on down the road it's not that wierd. Just be careful, because s/he is jail bait. I might also ask who's the oldest? Male or Female. Woman are more mature, so this would work better if the Female was the youngest, but if the male's the youngest, might not be a good idea.
Just be careful, because they are so young, they won't have experienced everything you have. Prom, homecomming, graduating high school, going to college and turning 21! There will probably be a need for going out "partying" with friends and such. I might suggest backing off this until they are slightly older.
2006-09-23 13:43:45 · answer #1 · answered by Aubrey's mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is a big difference. Later in life a difference of say, 5 or 6 years is no big deal. But for you, and where you are now, there is a huge difference between where your lives, bodies, and heads are at. First, as far as I know, it is not even legal for you and this guy to be romantically involved. If he was 41 and you were 35, this would be a lot different. My advise to you is to just let this one go. Young people always tend to want to grow up so fast... your time will come and you should start by learning about life and relationships with boys your own age. The man you mention is old enough to drink... you are a long way off from that, not that everyone drinks, but it is a good barometer to use for you to understand that there are lots of other issues that just don't match up in this case. I mean would it be cool if the boy was 16, almost 17, and your were 13? Really, there is not much of a difference between the two cases. Don't let this get serious for you. Move on and stick with high school... you want to date college boys? Wait until you are in college too :) good luck to you.
2006-09-23 20:55:40 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the state!
Alot of people that don't know what they're talking about will tell you that any sexual relations with a girl under 18 is illegal--not always so! In some states, the age of consent is 16. In such a case, a 16 yo can have sex with a guy of any age.
2006-09-23 20:41:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do. At sixteen you are probably beginning to feel like you are an adult, at least I did, and you are not. At 22 he is an adult and he is going to expect you to do grown up things. I am sure at twenty-two he is sexually active. Can you honestly say you are ready to start having sexual encounters? Sex is for married people. A lot of people today take sex for granted. Another thing you should concern yourself with is his dominance. Most guys in the situation your describing will tend to be bossy and over-controlling because they know you are young, inexperienced and don't know any better. Do those two years make that much of a difference? You better believe it does. Ten years from now will that age difference matter? No. But as for right now you can rest assured that it does. Where I am from we have a name for 22 year olds who date 16 year olds. We call them child molestors. Peace and God bless.
2006-09-23 20:52:39 · answer #4 · answered by cave man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they make a tremendous difference. Not so much if it were 26 and 32, but the difference between a teenager and 22 year old is huge. Aside from the obvious (he's an adult-she's not; he can drink-she cannot; he can vote-she cannot; he's on his own-she's still dependent on her parents), there is a huge maturity difference. Unlike most people believe, I believe that most people become the person they are going to be when they are in their 20's; teenagers are still caught up in trying to be like everyone else or radically not like everyone else. They are wrapped up in what people think about them rather than what they think of themselves.
2006-09-23 20:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by just browsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 19 I started going out with my boyfried when I was 17. he's 24 about to be 25 in dec.
The good thing about the situation is that you two are on the same level. You want the same things. Your sex drive is the same.
The bad thing is if he goes out alot, to 21 and over clubs and you cant go because you are too young. And there's many other places you cant go either because your 2 young.
thats the only problem. But if you love him and he loves you,he wont go to places that you cant go.
2006-09-23 20:52:09 · answer #6 · answered by Strawberry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i dont think they do.. age is just a number.. and that aint to many yrs but it also depends on if the two are mature enough then the relationship should work im also 17.. and i date older guys meaning over 18.. only because some are mature and im a mature.. Well i hope this helps a bit
Brittney
2006-09-23 20:41:22 · answer #7 · answered by angelbaby775509 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if the love is truly there, the age doesn't really matter. But going on they guys point of view, it sounds like he wants someone closer to his own age. I personally don't fine importance in those two years, but maybe this guy does.
Till next time,
Raven
2006-09-23 20:43:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes that is a huge age difference, but you would have to see how it plays out. I have a really good friend that is 16 and likes and older guy right around that age.
2006-09-23 20:42:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, since the 22 yr old can go to JAIL, I would say for her to wait.
And any idiot that says age is just a number is just that... an idiot.
The older person has lived their life. Let the young kid live his/her own.
2006-09-23 20:41:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋