Well I never done this before... I am in a relationship of 3 months and I trust my bf and he trusts me. I have been out with another guy for about a week and the days are interesting, nothing major but interesting. He knows that I have a boyfriend and I made sure of this in the beginning. I'm freaking out because they both are so awesome. I hardly see my bf cause he is in San Diego and I am here 2 states away and I am afraid that I am seeking comfort in another person. The new guy trusts me with so much and though I talk to my bf I am afraid that I am going to have to decide between the two... HELP!!!
2006-09-23 13:33:05 · 12 answers · asked by Striker 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I live 3200 miles away from my boyfriend, and wherein we both hate the distance, the love we share keeps us going. The thing you really need to do is follow what your heart tells you. I know that may sound corny, but it's true.
Go here: http://www.theunauthorizeddictionary.blogspot.com
Read the entries on Boyfriend and Love. They should be very helpful to you if you still need more advice.
Till next time,
Raven
2006-09-23 13:40:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably are seeking male companionship, which is ok, and since the new guy friend knows you are in a relationship he'll probably be cool about it. But watch out, most guys want to take it to the next level, so be prepared. It will only go as far as you want it to.
And on the other hand, if you have only been dating the bf for 3 months and he's in another state, maybe you should give this guy a chance, he might be the right one for you and you don't even know it.
2006-09-23 20:40:40 · answer #2 · answered by rkd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You decided already: you are going out with this new guy, right? And appearantly you like this one a lot---so you did make the decision that having a b/f nearby was better than waiting---meanwhile keep in mind that you do not know what your b/f in San Diego is doing---so go on with that new guy without confessing to the San Diego guy, have some fun, and wait and see where this is going. I do not think that anything is wrong with what you do---as long as you don't have sex with both of them---so the final decision really will be made when you have to deal with seeing b/f nr. 1...Good Luck
2006-09-23 20:40:15 · answer #3 · answered by MARIANNE G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well is he staying in San Diego permanently or is he just away temporarily. If he lives out of state, I'd say move on, long distance relationships will not work. Especially if you have someone knocking on your door right now. Otherwise, if it is only temporary, I'd leave this newer guy alone and don't answer his calls. That is if you are serious about the guy in San Diego.
2006-09-23 20:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by Aubrey's mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you even set yourself up for this is the first place? If you cant be committed to someone completely then you shouldnt date people in a serious way, you should begin the relationship with full communication that you intend to see other people, though maybe not romantically, you still might fall for them. It leads people on and isnt fair to them if youre not honest about that in yourself.
When you date a guy you dont spend your time with other guys. Its really simple, its not thoughtful to the guy youre with.
When you spend time with people, especially people of the opposite sex, you get to know them on an intimate emotional level. The more time you spend and the closer you are the easier it is to see them and desire them as a lover. You avoid other men on any kind of emotional level when you're dating out of respect for the love that your boyfriend gives to you, and trusts you with.
you set yourself up for this. You should sort it out on your own.
2006-09-23 20:39:13 · answer #5 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the real world. You are going to have to make a decision. If you really love your boyfriend in San Diego you will wait for him. What you need to do is take a break from your male friend for a moment and take the time to sort through your feelings. It won't be fair to your male friend if you are only with him seeking comfort. Trust me. I was once in a relationship with a woman who pretended to love me only to find out that she was still secretly in love with her ex. If this is the case, not only would it not be fair to your friend, but you will be cheating yourself as well. I don't know your circumstances with your long distance boyfriend, but I do feel you need to have a heart to heart talk with him and discuss your future. I will be praying for you. Peace and God bless.
2006-09-23 20:40:47 · answer #6 · answered by cave man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are hard. You have to really be dedicated. Decide if you bf is worth waiting for.
2006-09-23 20:38:18 · answer #7 · answered by diva22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just look deep in ur heart and it should tell you who to pick.. i know its hard but it would hurt the both of them if u didn't pick.. if you love one of them.. then you should pick the one you love
Brittney
2006-09-23 20:35:49 · answer #8 · answered by angelbaby775509 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to tell you that yes you will have to chose. But the good news is that you can chose that they are both just friends.
2006-09-23 20:36:37 · answer #9 · answered by weldergooroo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant get physical comfort 2 states apart.
2006-09-23 20:40:11 · answer #10 · answered by ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋