Being older & still a virgin has allowed me to learn the ins and outs on sexuality extensively. Thank you scarletteen.com & ivillage.com (my favorite sources).
My question is...
Once, I am not a virgin. What changes within myself should I expect?
Will my sex drive to go through the roof?
All words of wisdom stemming from experience welcome.
2006-09-23 13:15:55 · 19 answers · asked by ßella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was like you...I was 24 when I lost my virginity. I was sad when I finally did it because I really wanted to wait til I was married, but alas, sex being what it is, and I was just too damn curious, I lost it to some a hole I knew nothing about. I cried for a few days, and got on with my life, and a month later, I met my husband. Sex with him is rockin.
Anyway, physically, no you won't notice any changes. About your sex drive? Well, if you loved sex, then you'll probably want more of it. But maybe if your first time is a big let down or it was uncomfortable or you banged a loser, than maybe sex won't interest you at this paticular junction in your life. But honestly, your sex drive has nothing to do with if you're a virgin or not. Its about feeling sexy, and loving who you are, and feeling good about yourself and the man you're with. (and hormones)
You know, it all depends on circumstance and timing and the guy. If you're wating for marriage, than hold on to that virginity for dear life, cause then you'll regret your decision if you do it before you feel ready. But if you feel ready now, than that's fine too. Sex is an adult pleasure and you're an adult now, so whenever you're ready, don't feel guilty or bad about it. Just use a condom and get used to the idea of many types fluids flowing around. Anyway, sex gets better over time with the same person, so if your first time is kind of boring, or kind of over really quick, that's ok too. It will get better...if not, you're with the wrong guy anyway.
Good luck to you!!!
2006-09-23 13:32:07 · answer #1 · answered by nellie_3000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, when you choose to lose your virginity make sure your partner wears a condom. The old boys' saying "You can't get pregnant on your first time" is a myth.
The major physical change is your hymen will be broken during sex, and you will be uncomfortable and bleed a bit. After that you'll just feel normal.
Sex drive is determined by your emotions and hormones, not by the fact that you're not a virgin any more.
2006-09-23 13:20:07 · answer #2 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you really change. If so you become more self conscience. (Not everyone does :) I really think you should wait, you'll feel better about it in the end. After my first time I thought sex was overrated. I still think that. In the long run you'll be happy you waited.
2006-09-23 13:19:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to me, here's the real deal; it's not that big of a deal. I'm telling you, once it's over you are going to be laying there thinking "That's it? That's what the fuss was about?" Your first time probably won't be that great, it usually isn't.
But don't worry..it gets better, I promise!
2006-09-23 13:19:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
being a virgin so long you might go men crazy after that! well! that's assuming that the first one is a good lover, and not just thinking about himself! any way don't forget to use protection! can't trust anyone now a days...Good luck!
2006-09-23 13:22:30 · answer #5 · answered by spanishqueen39 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why r u worried if u still virgin...
all u need to do prepare urself when the right time comes..now,just wait and stay a virgin....
its better to wait than make a big mistake
2006-09-23 13:20:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 15:46:21 · answer #7 · answered by alsobrook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing. you dont see fireworks, the world wont move and yes you will be TOTALLY bafiled why its such a big deal. You should buy a dildo and practice what you like, so you can be a little in controle so you can atleast get off. I didnt have a clue what to do. and it wasnt special, it was grosse and all i wanted to do was go to the bathroom and wash the goowie mees off me.
2006-09-23 13:20:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can expect that everything will be the same except your hymen will not be intact. Make sure it's someone you know well and actually have feelings for. And USE PROTECTION!!!
2006-09-23 13:28:07 · answer #9 · answered by arianah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless he is extremely good, no I dont think so. I dont think it really changes anything, you are just no longer a virgin.
2006-09-23 13:23:00 · answer #10 · answered by lisapj 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋