Im 6'0, 275ish, I know most girls say looks dont matter, but who are we kidding? Im really shy which doesnt help much. How do I get over my shyness and impress a girl(s) without looks?
2006-09-23 13:11:15 · 12 answers · asked by Brian 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You never know it may be that it is your shyness that is the reason for not getting a girl rather than looks. It not that looks dont matter its what they find attractive its different for every woman. You need to get women to notice you.
Dress nice, women like a man who knows how to dress, i.e where things that enhance your qualities. I like shirts on a man, guys always look nice in a shirt.
Smell nice, woman like men to smell nice. When a man smells nice women do turn round and look when he walks past.
Just make an effort in your appearance, accentuate what you have.
Go out with friends, have fun, be confident if your confident the rest will follow. Offer to buy some one a drink but make sure they are on there own. If your like me sometimes people need to speak to you first to begin to see you and like you. Take the opportunity to talk to people, and just remember to smile.
2006-09-23 13:21:38 · answer #1 · answered by CHIMP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean. I was the biggest idiot when it came to dating. My mom sucks at advice and i wasnt going to ask my friends how to wow em all. I know I am a woman, but there isnt much difference in our story. So I actually went to Barnes and Nobles and bought a few relationship books and books on getting over being shy. I worked on it in the mirror and slowly tried out the techniques with people I ran into at work or in the line at the movie theatre. Basically the books taught me to know myself and my strengths and to be myself without fear of rejection. And in being confident and learning to communicate and hang out with guys in a way that displayed I was interested, confident, and totally available, there was an emmidiate response. It came down to one thing: CONFIDENCE UNDER FIRE. My body is not perfect, but I still found the guts to snag the guy I was eyeing at my job. And when we have sex, I always try the techniques I learned from the sex books at Barnes and Noble and he doesnt know but he is equally impressed. I had sex in a maids outfit just because I read that fantasy sex is fun for guys so I tried it. He was floored. So yeah, reading is power.
2006-09-23 20:26:43 · answer #2 · answered by vada 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear that all the time. I would suggest trying to lose a little weight if you can. In the meantime, try being considerate, focus on showing her a good time, compliment her on how she looks, etc. I have met alot of guys that were in great shape but had no dating skills. I have a similiar situation in that it is said that money isn't important but men won't date me because I have a low paying job, so go figure. Good luck to you
2006-09-23 20:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by reallyfedup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes shy is good. Women don't really like a guy who is obnoxious or stuck on himself. Looks are the first thing people notice but not what keeps them interested. Just keep looking for the person who is real and genuine like you are. It will come. Don't be desperate, find out what your personality strengths are and focus on them.
2006-09-23 20:17:17 · answer #4 · answered by angeleyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you're big, it doesn't mean you don't look good. And the only way to get over you shyness is to practice talking to girls. Don't worry so much about imressing girls, just talking to them.
By the way...any possiblity that you live in NY?
2006-09-23 20:17:53 · answer #5 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are talking about. Me too I am VERY shy! But you got make a move and break out of your shell. Go talk to people and automatically they will come to u, including girls. Goodluck!
And be confident, Show your confidence, gurls love boy that are sure of themselves.
2006-09-23 20:14:52 · answer #6 · answered by olde finnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you should do is start talking to girls make friends with them one of my guy friends was really shy around girls and then he started talking to me and he now can talk to practly any girl dont go over your limit like talking to really popular girls cause they can be really mean just act like the girls are one of the guys
2006-09-23 20:16:34 · answer #7 · answered by Alexis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOTHING, AND LOOKS DON'T MAKE A PERSON BECAUSE LOOKS FADE THE INNER LOOKS COUNT MORE TO SOME PEOPLE. SO IF YOU SEE SOMEONE YOU LIKE GO FOR IT.
2006-09-23 20:19:35 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm...you may need to get out and just watch people and see what goes on. Determine what you like and what you do not like
2006-09-23 20:14:06 · answer #9 · answered by proud of it 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confidence, girls love a confident man!!!!
2006-09-23 20:13:47 · answer #10 · answered by angie1412 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋