i didn't mean that, well i kind of did , but i know i am wrong
i said i have her character and i hate that....
i am very wrong, what can i do ?
i think i am very wrong and she probably won't talkt to me anymore
2006-09-23 12:55:16 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
stick to your story
2006-09-23 12:56:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Apologise to your mum. Tell her that it was said in the heat of the moment out of frustration. Sit down and talk things out with her in a calm manner and explain the things that trouble you and why you feel the way you do. Hearing her side of the story may bring closure to some of your issues or at best let you understand things a little from her point of view as to why she made the decisions she did etc. We are all human after all and make mistakes. There is no parenting handbook parents can only do the best they think they can. Good Luck
2006-09-23 20:02:03 · answer #2 · answered by gypsywife2b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mothers are very understanding and a simple hug and a "I"M sorry" would melt most mothers. I am a mother so I know that my children know it's safe to take their frustrations out on me because I will never turn my back on them. Oh sure, it hurts at times but when the hug and the "I'm sorry" comes it makes it better. So go to your Mom and tell her how you feel. My husband tells me all the time that I made one of my daughter's just like me and I don't think it was a compliment...oh well. Now he has told me that I've created a monster with my 6 yr old granddaughter. Baloney...I just teach them to stand up strong and not to allow anyone to push them around.
2006-09-23 20:03:19 · answer #3 · answered by winter715 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did that when i was 13. I feel bad about it now. I know my mom was doing what she could with the tools she had. Just wait, till the heats down then explain it in a not so nasty way. Mabey it wont make it better but atleast you made the atempt right????? good luck with that.
2006-09-23 19:58:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you were probably upset when you said it, right?
first, you need to sincerely apologize.
If you can rationally explain what you were trying to say, do so. It helps me to write down what I want to say in these situations, so I can get it right.
Point out the good things you got from her.
Ask her for help in fixing your life, If you really think she can help.
After all, she is your Mom, and moms usually forgive us anything.
2006-09-23 20:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by bttrswt1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's a good mother (and it sounds like she is) she will tell you that she knew from the first time she held you that you would be a loser and failure and that you would blame her for it. Just know mom's know everything.
2006-09-23 20:35:19 · answer #6 · answered by donronsen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ouch! that hurt. Your mum knows that you didn't mean it but it will just be a bit painful for her to understand at the moment.
I do not know what caused this outburst but I reccomend lots of mum spoiling therapy, not yet though as she may still be raw and angry. I am sure things will be alright... after all, we are human!
2006-09-23 19:59:01 · answer #7 · answered by essex_saxon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to apologize and tell her that you know you have the ability to make your own choices and you have......you are responsible for your life.....many people have tough childhoods but there comes a time when they need to take control and change the things that they can and make their own life what they want it to be.....just explain to her that you know you were wrong.
2006-09-23 19:57:56 · answer #8 · answered by beccam1962 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i told my mother that i don't believe i would be able to type that question out as good as you did but if i was you i would just tell her you are sorry. She is your mother and she isn't going to not be mad at you and it's not all your mothers fault you have to share in that blame also.
2006-09-23 20:01:01 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that.
Tell her you're sorry, and that you didn't really mean it, you were just feeling frustrated and ineffective, and needed someone to blame. Then ask her to help you figure out how to address the things about your life that you are not happy with.
Good luck
2006-09-23 19:59:28 · answer #10 · answered by Dave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she loves you, she should forgive you if you ask her to. Just tell her that you didn't mean it, and appologize. That may not "fix" everything, but it is a good place to start. Taking responsiblity for your own mistakes will also help.
2006-09-23 19:58:14 · answer #11 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋