My husband and I got married less than a year a go.I did not know he was once married to this girl. While we were dating he told me that she was his ex( I never met her than). Shortly after we got married he told they were married for 2months. When I got pregnant 4motns a go she just showed up in our door and interduced me to her self asking to speak with him, he talked to her and he told the-reason she came was to ask him question about some cable bel which was under her name if he paid.I told him I donot want him to contact her ever he promised me.less than a week later they call each I do not know who called who first but one time she called and I answered she asked to speak to him he wasn't hom so i told her he is not her. He came home we had big argument he said is about the cable bell and I didn't want tell you 'cause you would be worried and he called her and told her not to call him&to send him the bill he promised he won''t speak to her, Ifound-out they still email eachother.
2006-09-23 12:52:19 · 10 answers · asked by Leyla 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Embassies & Consulates
Well I was not trying to check his email his email was open and it was accident. She is not good person she cheated on him more than once and stole money from his bank account in past. So there is no way I want be friend with someone like that. They do not have any kids together. She is with a guy and they expecting together.
2006-09-23 15:44:59 · update #1
Talk to your husband. Relationships need to be honest and make sure he knows that. Maybe they're just good friends!!
Its a hard cure, but if your husband truely and generally loves you he will talk into your eyes and tell you. Have no fears, you're worth a lot, make sure you remember that.
2006-09-23 23:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by x_Super_Social_Superstar_x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your overreaction is what has driven them closer. If you keep arguing with him, he might just go back to her. Leave the poor man alone, he's just trying to be nice and help her figure out if a bill was paid. I've known guys that have called their ex-wife for 30 and 40 years after a divorce. I think you need to loosen up a little and try to get along with her. Why don't you invite her over for supper and drinks? You could get to know her better and might even become best friends.
2006-09-25 03:27:14 · answer #2 · answered by MorgantonNC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Snooping in his computer were you? (c'mon, admit it, it's how you found out they were e-mailing)
Honestly, I don't think you have anything to worry about, sounds as if you are in hypersensative pregnancy hormone mode.
If there was anything seriously wrong going on, she wouldn't be showing up at your door wanting to talk to him about a cable bill.
The worst thing you can do as a newlywed, and mother to be, is start making ultimatums and demands of him. If you want to drive him away, that is the sure fire way to do it. You have already got him putting up a wall and afraid to tell you he still wishes to be her friend.
So what if they were married...she could very well be a nice person and could become a good friend to you as well. Invite her over to dinner, see where the friendship goes...stop being hostile about it and you willl find a much better outcome.
2006-09-23 20:12:34 · answer #3 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Bad news all the way around. The first successful trait to a relationship is TRUST !
He has broken it again. You should have a talk with him if you think it would change something.....or maybe considering letting him go.
I am sorry to hear that your are having to deal with something like that. I hope it all works out for you.
~ Take Care ~
Laurie
2006-09-23 20:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by mystery46122003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless there are kids, he is way too attached to her. Think "apron strings".
Make sure you can stand on your own so that when people like your husband make you uncomfortable, you're doing much better than they are. Don't put yourself in the position of relying on him for too long. Be clear that this is never acceptable.
2006-09-24 21:14:23 · answer #5 · answered by Reba K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow , that would cause WW3 in my house if that happened. Confront him straight up and tell him he married to you now and that goes against your vows when you got married. They have no reason to communicate and if they are find out the reason behind it. Do they have a kid together? I hope everything works out for you both.
2006-09-23 20:02:52 · answer #6 · answered by roxane 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not good! He's still got something going with her. Time for counseling, or else think about ending the marriage. He's being sneaky by emailing her.
2006-09-23 20:00:47 · answer #7 · answered by Just Ducky 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hes living a lie,throw the bum out
2006-09-24 19:22:52 · answer #8 · answered by john doe 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like your husband has some unfinished feelings with this women and it also sound like you need to leave him if he is going to argue with you about seeing his ex wife...................and thats final
2006-09-23 20:10:11 · answer #9 · answered by AlOnEiNtHeRaIn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What a weasel.........I dunno why guys do crap like this!
Honesty and trust.......without them you have NOTHING.
I'm sorry he's lying to you like this......stop it now or you'll waste your life with a liar and cheater.
Good luck.
2006-09-23 20:21:00 · answer #10 · answered by Joey Bagadonuts 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋