she wont listen to me, and i don't understand her
i asked her to change but she said no
i want her to be supportive and not negative of me
2006-09-23 12:44:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
your mom will never change... try to understand her, look, I used to think that my mom was so awful growing up, but now that I have children of my own, I understand why she was like she was.. Moms and Dads do stuff for a reason, you might not think so, but in the end, hopefully you will.. show her respect and she will you to, show her that you will try so she can to, parents don't want to see you hurt, that's why they seem so hard on you.. sit her down and tell her how you feel, and maybe, she'll understand better, it's not that their not listening, it's that sometimes we don't understand.....good luck......
2006-09-23 14:22:39 · answer #1 · answered by miss.d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please remember that you were born in a different generation than your mother. Many of the principles and values that she knows, she learned from her mother! Many of the principles and values that you will subject your own daughter to will come from the way your mother raised you!
When a child complains that a parent just doesn't understand them, it usually has to do with things you are allowed to do and things that you are not allowed to do! As much as you may think things are not fair, you must understand that your mother is very much aware of the horrible things that can happen to young people if they are allowed too much freedom with very little accountability. She wants to keep you safe the only way she knows how. You should not hate her for that. You should be thankful that she she loves you enough to care what you do with your life.
I know parents can be extremely critical, but it is because they have dreams for us and our potential, and maybe sometimes it looks to them as though we are not living up to their expectations. If you are a teenager, some of the things you are feeling are absolutely normal, you are trying to find your own identity while still under her roof. It is a fine balance and a very difficult time. Please realize that this difficult time will pass, and there may come a point in your life when your mother will be your best friend and greatest supporter.
You are learning a valuable lesson in maturity with this experience. You are being given the opportunity to view your mother as an individual. As a mature individual, you come to see and accept people for their differences. And although it doesn't feel like love right now, the things that you do share is that you are family, and family cares and accepts eachother...even if they don't necessarily agree on everything!
Step outside your comfort zone and ease up on your mother. Only then will she let down her "guard" a little bit, because she will see you are changing and growing in your level of understanding. When the two of you stop fighting eachother to be heard, maybe you will actually start listening to eachother. Not just hearing...but listening...once this happens, your friendship with your mother will begin!
And when you hit the times when you feel like things are getting difficult between the two of you again, ask God to help you to grow in your ability to see beyond your needs and desires...when you do these things, you won't feel like you have been sacrificing anything! The very best of everything to you!
2006-09-23 20:46:27 · answer #2 · answered by Linda S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your asking of this question, is a wonderful beginning.
Children do not come with directions. Being a parent is tough and sometimes hurtful.
Every time you and your Mom disagree, stop and hold her. Let her know that you love and respect her.
You should suggest that you are growing up and she should trust you in spurts.
If you show that you are not worthy of this trust , she should pull back. But if you are faithful , in calling and being home on time. You should be given more.
This is a growing , changing relationship.
It's give and take. your mother will not always be with you. She in time could be your best friend, if you allow it.
Good Luck
2006-09-23 19:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you are a teen what you're going through is normal. You need to sit down & have a long talk with her & both of you get your feelings out.
2006-09-23 19:47:28 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not mention your age,,
If you are of age,, then get out of her life.
If you are a minor, you have no choice but to keep on adjusting to her..
No mother would mean any bad or harm to her children..
And where is your father? He could help you with your predicament, unless you do not have one.
2006-09-23 19:48:02 · answer #5 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a common teenage complaint. You say she doesn't listen to you, but do you listen to her? You say she won't change, but are you sure your request is reasonable?
2006-09-23 19:48:57 · answer #6 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first how old r u?
if old enough, just move out.
maybe she has some sort of problem, maybe SHE needs ur support. if no i guess u'll have to deal w/ it. u have ur friends to support after all.
2006-09-23 19:50:29 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to really talk to her tell her how u feel
wat do u want her to sopport u on? if itz something bad than thatz ur problem
2006-09-23 19:48:55 · answer #8 · answered by andrea1muneca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pray and ask god what to do. write her a letter, get a counciler like a minister or something like that
2006-09-23 19:50:28 · answer #9 · answered by burtonstanley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not enough info to answer this question.
Just remember that she is the ADULT and your mother.
2006-09-23 19:48:10 · answer #10 · answered by brock 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋