ok.. so i have a boyfriend, he lives in the uk. i live in the usa. i know people have there lil opions about online dating but. we are very serious. hes planning to come here in december and stay for a while. i love him, he loves me. im his other half. hes my other half. blah blah blah we are in love. i would take a bullet for him. lately he hasnt been acting himself and im lil worried. he has been lieing to me. im confused. do u peeps think i should just try and forget about my current boyfriend and try in date this guy im going to homecoming wit? even though this 2nd guy is not extremly attractive , calls me a loser, and is mean to me too.??? i dont know what to do. nobody loves me!!! advice please.
2006-09-23 12:29:39 · 25 answers · asked by Skye 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stick with your boyfriend. I met a gal on the net 9 years ago, she came to visit, now we've been married 8 years with 2 great kids. When we met people found it FREAKY that someone could fall in love over the net, but it happens in a simple way that you are not falling in love through simple physical attraction. You are getting to know how the person thinks and responds before meeting. It is fun and exciting. As for him teeling you lies at the moment, you have to judge for yourself how serious they are. Sometimes people just get sick of watching the screen for a while, or want to get out and do stuff with mates. Don't forget your distance in countries does not stop you from being b/f & g/f, though it might make him think a bit more lightly of it while he is in UK, though when he comes to the USA and holds you in his arms, he will change his ideals to 'full time'
I occasionally took for granted that I could do what I wanted, go on a raving ordrinking binge for days on end with my mates and all I had to do was say the computer crashed or something along the lines. But when I first held my girl at the airport, everything else seemed to vanish. We forgot about the net, it was as if though we had been together for ever and she had been on holidays for a year.
As for this other loser you mention at the bottom of the screen, If he is the one you are going to homecoming with it sounds like you are in for one pityful night with him, you are meant to enjoy it so try find someone else, even if it means going alone it would be better. (OK people will look at you and say to each other, look at her she couldn't get a date, but they can get ****** you don't need to think of what they think, you will probably never see them again after graduation). Think of this also - if this bloke treats you like, he thinks very little of you so don't forget what he is going to expect from you at the end of the night. And from a jerk like that I can guarantee you if he gets his way, it WON'T be romantic.
Hope this helps you, and if you have any other questions about internet relationships you can always email me on my yahoo address.
Have fun.
2006-09-23 12:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love your online boyfriend a lot. But if he has changed there is nothing you can do except to get over it like most people did. And it will take a little time to ease your pain, clear your confusion, correct your mood and so on. As such, dating another guy so soon is certainly not wise. What is more, this 2nd guy you said is mean and calling you names instead of being nice and comforting, forget him also and take a good break.
2006-09-23 21:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by Cool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not hold the mental capacity to form proper sentences, let alone sustain a relationship. If you have a guy who lives close enough to go to your homecoming with you, and he is willing to put up with your idiocy, by God, you should stick with what you have. Be happy. There's no shame in settling, especially for someone who obviously knows you quite well, judging by his demeanor toward you. Who cares if he's not attractive? Go to homecoming, get knocked up, and pollute the world with even more retards.
The guy from the United Kingdom has probably grown weary of your weak intellect and has found a hottie with a delicious British accent, with whom he can play Cricket or Snooker.
Any further questions, try seeing a shrink.
2006-09-23 19:40:22 · answer #3 · answered by Rich_Nice raped my mom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to the guy in the uk and try to find out what is wrong with him.
if u like the guy in the uk than dont go with the as* u are going to home coming with. no guy should treat a girl like that and he will prouble dump u in a few days or weeks anyway. if the guy from the uk tells u what the problem is and still comes to the us for u than u should go with him and see how it works out. i hope this help u.
good luck.
2006-09-23 19:36:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow... first off, you shouldnt refer to anything thats dealing with your other half as "blah blah blah" doesnt sound like the love of your life. and online dating is one thing, but why the hell would you do it with someone in another country, much less continent? And the other doesnt sound like a winner either. I wouldnt even go to homecoming with him being a jerk like that
2006-09-23 19:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by unplannednudity39624 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your current boyfriend why hes lieing. be honest. i he has a good reason for it then still date him bbut be careful. If hes saying hes not lieing and you know hes lieing then don't date him. Or if he has a bad reason, then dump him. It may be really hard to do but, its just life, believe me i was in a simular promplem. And the other guy, don't date him if hes mean! Just wait, your'll find the right guy, don't worry.
2006-09-23 19:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by gub gub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay... i think the 2nd guy is just a loser becasue why would you want to go out someone that's going to be rude to you!! your boyfriend that lives in UK.. i am sorry but i don''t know what to tell becasue it's whatever you feel inside your heart.. i can't tell you to forget about him or not! cause it's this thing called LOVE<33 if you truly love him from the inside out yeah talk to him and figure things out between him but if your heart is still deciding.. wait and and see what happens..
2006-09-23 19:39:50 · answer #7 · answered by smoothie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good lord by the sounds of it you should dump them both. One is a loser who dont respect you or appreciate you. The other is from another country and probably is seeing someone on the side other wise why would he lie?
2006-09-23 19:37:58 · answer #8 · answered by lisapj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let get this straight.....you're "in Love" with some guy you've never met and the "current BF" calls you a loser!!! Id that about right?
Girl.....you don't have a clue and your just asking for problems.
Good luck (your gonna need it)
2006-09-23 19:35:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both guys are not sound too good. The one you don't see is never to trust unless you see him in person. He may have reason for his behavior. But them guys can lie. The one you see got personality problem. Keep him arms length. There are someone is waiting for you. Just be patient.
2006-09-23 19:36:04 · answer #10 · answered by shiningstar2808 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋