I was thinking about this a while ago. Its like whats the point in dating all those other people, if you weren't planning on getting hitched in the end. I say this after seeing my friends breaking up with boyfriends, and it seems like more misery than joy. By the way I've been single all my life...
so maybe I'm missing something.
2006-09-23 12:26:00 · 18 answers · asked by Steph :-) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no hon every boyfriend its not a potential husband people date so they can find the one.most of the time we confuse like with love so people may stay with someone for a long while ,but they eventually they break up.when you get with some one you start exploring who you want as a husband and then you decide .sometimes people that are meant to be break up and latter get it together.some just know but others confuse like and love just go out and you're find that special one.
2006-09-23 12:37:31 · answer #1 · answered by horsnetnet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a matter of what you want in a relationship. Not everyone wants the same thing and not everyone dates for the same reason.
To know whether you are missing something you should ask yourself why you choose to stay single? Are you happy being single?
Maybe that's not what you meant by maybe your missing something.
I think most people take on a bf/gf to see if they would make a good potential spouse, then as we get to know someone better we decide maybe they aren't what we want then we let them go, or they let us go. Hence...so many break ups.
Would you rather have arranged marriages? Let your parents pick your spouse and out of respect for God and Parents you honor the decision. I met a woman from a country where they do this, she was very happy with her husband. Death took him from her and she will not remarry anyone else. She won't even date anyone else.
2006-09-23 12:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I havent thought of every boy friend as a future husband. You go out with them and see how it goes, you'll quickly find out if you could consider being with them forever.
I suppose you date these other people in preparation for your future husband, you have fun while it lasted and learn from the mistakes. Dont get me wrong it was pain ful along the way but i now know what i want out of a man, i feel i know more about myself and i had company along the way.
Its nice to have the attention, to spend sometime with someone and you never know you may get married out of it, gain a friend or get some war wounds.
I suppose you can almost think of it as the warm up act for the main attraction.
Or the training course for your main career.
If i hadn't gone out with one guy and split up with him, i wouldnt have started dating his friend a year later and am now engaged to that friend. Ive been with my fiance for 5 years now.
2006-09-23 12:35:32 · answer #3 · answered by CHIMP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger I would date 2 types of men. Fun guys that I would never want to marry and guys that I thought might be the one to be husband and father of my future kids.
When I was 26 and on my 2nd marriage I got the big "C" and kids became just a dream.
Now I only date fun guys. Why marry?
2006-09-23 12:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by Tedi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grief - no. Dating is a great way to work out what you do and don't like in a person though and will give you experience with men - besides it's a lot of fun - it's not all about the heartache
2006-09-23 12:28:53 · answer #5 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating is taking " friendship " 1 step further.
If U dont date than it seems to me that every male friend is a potential future husband.
And U know what ? That sounds ALOT healthier than dating !
2006-09-23 12:50:48 · answer #6 · answered by mr.e_mess79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not every boyfriend should be looked at as a future husband. i think it makes it harder to deal with when you arent together any more. I really try not to look at any boyfriend as a future husband anymore!
2006-09-23 12:30:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well um no you're looking at it all wrong. People don't just date for hopes of getting married. They do it for love, company, companianship, sex.... many things. I've also never dated, but it's common sence.
2006-09-23 12:29:14 · answer #8 · answered by Game Guy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when you REALLY like someone, you can start imagining and daydreaming of you and him in the future. But, I don't really start deep thinking, how many kids are we going to have? where are we going to go on our honeymoon? But, just daydreaming silly is perfectly normal.
2006-09-23 12:27:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So do you date to have flings? Or do you hope to someday get married? Cause we don't do the whole matchmaking thing much anymore. Know what I mean?
2006-09-23 12:28:21 · answer #10 · answered by Mister 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋