2006-09-23 12:24:10 · 28 answers · asked by samantha B 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I'm the wife of an Army BCT Drill Sergeant. The answer to your question is, no. He can't just quit. He'll have to talk to his Drill. They'll then refer him to specialists that will determine if he's capable of fulfilling his contract. Usually, by the time this process is complete, they're ready to graduate from BCT anyways.
Now, as I wife of a soldier, I have to ask you, can you life with him if he quits?? Have you done anything to encourage him to quit?? You 2 really should have discussed this before he left. I'm sure he was told what it was going to be like. Nothing comes easy. He's going to have to work for everything and earn it. If he quits this, do you think he can make it anyplace?? I know for a fact, BCT is nothing like it was when my hubby went through. There's no reason why he can't make it.
You need to find out why he wants to quit and figure out if you have a part in him wanting to quit. Quitting now will have repercussions all through life.
Good luck!!
2006-09-23 12:55:28 · answer #1 · answered by HEartstrinGs 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
He has a few options:
But before I tell you these options I want to tell you something very very important.
1. Basic Training is the hardest part about being in the army. The army gets much better after basic training, and a lot of options will be open after basic training. So if he can complete the basic training he will find it totally different afterwards. The waking up at stupid hours, the stupid drills, the being yelled out and ask to do stupid things is not part of normal army life, really it is a normal 9 to 5 job with weekends off and holidays like any other job. Basic training is designed to break people from civilian life- once it is over the soldier will have some of the best friends on earth and a steady reliable job with normal hours. Now that said here are some options.
option one: Fail all fitness tests- this is a long process where he will be continually held back while the other men in his group move forward- so he will not have many friends but eventually the army will get rid of him. He will have to becareful about this option because if the sargent suspects that he is doing this on purpose they will make life hell for him before they get rid of him.
option two: go mental- and the army will get rid of him, but will give him a pychological discharge that is not a nice to thing to have on your record: however most employees are usually understanding when the applicant explains they just hated the army- however he would never be able to get a job in the police force or law inforcement or some other government or civil servant positions.
Option 3: Have him go and talk to his training sargent, some are extremely helpful and some are complete jerks- If he can speak to him on a personal level he might beable to help him get out. However he will never know if he has the internal foritude to carry through with a decision and grow as a person in completing the training.
Option 4: Decide to stay through the basic training and make the decision to leave after basic training is over- often the sargents are more open to soldiers leaving after basic training is over.
Good luck to both of you
2006-09-23 12:45:09 · answer #2 · answered by newrabbit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Except he can prove that being in the army is critically affecting his mental wellbeing in a bad approach, sorry to say, however he's stuck. It cant simply be that "OMG I made a horrible mistake". Like ninety percent of all new recruits consider that, your husband is not any exceptional. It needs to be to a factor the place he's actually going insane on the grounds that of this surprising new (transitority...9 weeks...I mean really) subculture. And particularly? He's most effective at reception. It can be no longer a significant deal. Normal coaching shouldn't be a significant deal either. It's no longer the top of the arena, army existence is genuinely pretty lucrative. The pleasant you can do is contact the crimson pass and notice what they may be able to do. After I was once in general, there used to be one designated man that was convinced he made the worst selection one could ever make in life ever. He was no longer having it. Crying every night time, refusing to follow orders, and many others. He toughened up, grew some difficult epidermis, bit his tongue, and approved reality. He ended up being the companys honor soldier, and i still keep in touch with him, he loves the navy. He's embarrased that he acted the way he did. He wasnt brainwashed or anything. He simply grew a pair.
2016-08-09 15:01:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the best time for him to quit if he wants out. Once you get through basic training it is harder to get out. I think he can claim hardship and get out. Which means that he can't handle the pressure that the army will put on him and that being away from his family has generated a negative impact on his well being. In all actuallity, your husband is not in the army yet, and he won't be in the army unless he passes basic. The military is not for everyone and I understand the position he has put himself and you into. It will be hard to get out right now and it may take longer than graduating boot camp, but he won't have any ties with the military after it is all said and done with. Make sure he doesn't do anything stupid in order to get out, because that will effect his life more negatively than if he had just stayed in. I hope this helps a little.
2006-09-23 12:32:05 · answer #4 · answered by K_S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there are ways out of the military. I just want to say, did he think he was joining the Girl scouts???? The Army is a tough life yes this is true and is not for everyone. Tell him to SUCK IT UP AND DRIVE ON!!!!!! Once he is done with basic it will get a little better he is just not liking some one telling him what to do and how to do it 24 hours a day. This phase is critical as it teaches the basic(hence the name Basic training) Soldier skills needed to keep his silly can alive in combat. If he is afraid of being deployed to Iraq or Afghanistan tell him to join the club. We were all scared to go. He made his choice. What you need to do is be a supportive wife and be there for him. Do not whine and cry all the time about how tough you have it all alone at home. That only makes it harder on him. Depending on what he signed up for he only has a few years that he is obligated to serve then he can leave if he wants to. But if he is such a cry baby punk that he can't be a man of his word then he is spitting on all those who have laid down thier lives to allow him to make the choice to be a little girl !!!!!! No offense meant to those of you women out there like my wife who serve you all have bigger (you know whats) than this guy it seems.
2006-09-23 13:41:41 · answer #5 · answered by lizard lover 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He can't literally "quit". But there are ways to get out. Medical problems, such as undiagnosed asthma, clinical depression, etc will get a BCT inductee sent home. The asthma cause was particularly common when I went through basic and advanced training. The joke became that folks went to the T.M.C. (troop medical center) for a stubbed toe, and came back with asthma. My basic/advanced unit lost around 30% of soldiers for various reasons.
Just bear in mind that the details of his discharge can cause problems for him for the rest of his life. A -General discharge for unsuitability- won't cause legal problems, but looks REALLY bad to prospective employers. Particularly civil service, or other government jobs, and some can disqualify him for student loans, federal aid, and so on. I'd ask your husband to think hard about whether he wants to stay or not. Basic and advanced training are in some ways the toughest part of military training. It's then that a person transitions from a civilian to a military mindset. It's a major adjustment, but is'nt the way it's going to be for the rest of his career.
2006-09-24 08:21:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he can get out. Over 15% of recruits never complete Basic. Easiest way is to just fail every test, physical or mental. The real question, though, is why does he want out. Does he just want out of Basic or out of the Army. If he just has issues with Basic, tell him it's only a couple of months, anybody can put up with crap for that long, he's just depressed. If he wants out of the Army, that's a different story. Then he should get out. No soldier wants to have to depend on a guy who doesn't want to be in the Army and won't do his part.
2006-09-23 16:49:05 · answer #7 · answered by rolandmcduk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be able to quit (not quite) should he prove there exists a true hardship for his family. Yet he signed up voluntarily. Did he think that the Army was nothing but sharp, dressed soldiers in spit-shined boots looking good for the girls all the time?
The Army can be a proving ground for men and women if they have the guts to stick with it. Let us hope your husband has a lot of civilian business savvy and can make a lot of money. Otherwise, he's in for a rude awakening as a quitter.
2006-09-23 12:43:17 · answer #8 · answered by Guitarpicker 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No he cant quit. And why would he want to? There is nothing in Basic Training worth quitting over anymore. Recruits are treated fine now. Besides, once all phases of training are over, then the military is a great life. That is, if you are truly devoted.
But if he really wants to be pathetic, and throw everything away....then he can get an (or feign) injury.
Of course keep this in mind....if he is past week three of training, then he will receive a DD 214 (Discharge Paperwork), and it will not be favorable, and therefore prejudicial towards employment/training for the rest of his life.
2006-09-23 12:34:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes he can get out. He can't just say "I quit" there are ways around it. I knew a couple guys that got out when I was in Basic that claimed they weren't right in the head. Failing all fitness tests does not guarantee an out. sometimes they will just recycle him and make him pass.
Best bet is to stick it out. I wanted out when I was in Basic as well, but after I got in the real Army, it was a blast. 9-5 job, get some exercise in the morning. Trust me, he'll be happier staying in. If he did get out he'll regret the decision when he has to join the civilian work force.
2006-09-23 20:28:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋