2006-09-23 12:23:47 · 35 answers · asked by tmac 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I am sorry I wasn't clear. I meant someone visiting, not living with you.
2006-09-23 12:30:06 · update #1
i need some alone time for awhile
2006-09-23 12:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to be honest with the person. Let them know you really have enjoyed them visiting with you but you now need some time to yourself. Let them know you would like for them to visit again . But right now is not a good time for you. If they are a real friend they will understand and not take offense. People on the most part would like the truth. Instead of you letting your frustration build up and then maybe you would end up offending them. Just be honest you'll feel better and they will know where you stand.
2006-09-23 12:56:54 · answer #2 · answered by purrfectsandcastle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, they can only stay for as long as you allow them to. But...to be on the safe side, if they are really getting to you & you really don't want to be rude & hurt their feelings, go somewhere so you can be alone & recollect yourself. You shouldn't have to leave your own home, but sometimes it's better to so that no one is offended & embarrassed.
You're obviously doing pretty good at leading them to think it's fine with you for them to keep staying. Otherwise they wouldn't feel free to do so.
It's only temporary!!! Sacrificing a little to help someone always ends with reward.
But on the other hand...if they've been there for a month or so...it's time to tell them, "Hey, I've really enjoyed your company lately but I've got some family or friends coming & they need to stay with you. SOMETHING! I'd try to be sutle at first. But sometimes you just have to stand up and be blunt.
Good luck. I feel 4 ya!
2006-09-24 20:36:43 · answer #3 · answered by paigenstuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about something along the lines of:
"Well, it's been nice to spend some time with you. We'll have to do this again sometime."
If the person makes a habit of overstaying their welcome, get one of those cell phone plans where you can have your cell phone ring at a certain time. Answer it, have a mock conversation about something that needs to be done, hang up, and tell the person:
"Looks like I have to go. We'll have to get together again sometime soon."
2006-09-24 07:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by digitalquirk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been having this very problem and I finally told her that I am on a very tight schedule and on top of that I have to study as I have invested in my future by going to college.....so I need all the time alone and quiet that I can get, if she wants to be with me we can meet for coffee once in awhile but we will have to plan it on the spur of the moment.............if they are staying at your home at your expense and not paying rent, or helping in any way, I would simply say I am sorry but I can only take care of myself, Ihave helped you as long as my funds will allow, you will have to seek a new place to stay. You really don't owe anyone support!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-23 12:27:46 · answer #5 · answered by ladynamedjane 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
House guest usually pay for their stay. Maybe just don't cook and see if they leave. If they don't tell them that u can not afford to pay for the bills they should leave quickly then. That's how i get people to leave talk about paying electric bill or phone bill or grocery bill or any kind of bill. People usually leave if they have to pay for what they think is a free.
2006-09-23 12:29:28 · answer #6 · answered by someones sister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say, "Do you know when you'll be leaving?" of course, they will likely ask why you are asking. A perfect time to say you have to get ready for a family that will be visiting shortly. You would have mentioned it sooner, but you weren't aware (current houseguest) was planning to stay so long.
2006-09-23 12:29:42 · answer #7 · answered by north79004487 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't say anything. Just put their suitcases (already packed) outside the door? I guarentee they'll get the hint! Or you could tell them that you are expecting someone else and need their room.
2006-09-24 07:47:02 · answer #8 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say that this has happened to me and I am not good at it. I end up loosing my temper at them or just becoming so aggravated that it shows.
It would be best just to sit them down and say, "although I have enjoyed your company immensely, I feel it is time for you to return home before we become aggravated at each other and it ends up hurting our relationship". Or something to that effect.
2006-09-23 12:34:04 · answer #9 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest with them that you are sorry to cut the visit short but the is something that needs your immediate attention and that maybe we could visit at another time.
2006-09-23 12:34:44 · answer #10 · answered by mr. Bob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to remain with them hints start saying things like what is for dinner or start to yawn and say gee you did not get a good sleep last night and really could do with a nap
2006-09-23 12:32:35 · answer #11 · answered by Mrs Magoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋