if you are or were a teen mother how was it?

Question

Ok like you know I am doing a 5 page essay paper on teen pregnancy but know I want to hear from the teen mothers them self. How was it did you receive support from some one did you receive support from the dad? And stuff like that thank you hopefully im not bothering anybody.

Answer 1

I HAD MY SON WHEN I WAS 17 AND IT WAS HARD I WAS IN MY SENIOR YEAR OF HIGH SCHOOL.I MADE A BIG MISTAKE I MARRIED MY SONS FATHER BECAUSE I THOUGHT IT WAS THE RIGHT THING TO DO. HE WAS HORRIBLE AND WENT TO JAIL WHEN MY SON WAS 3 MONTHS OLD . BUT DURING MY PREGNANCY HE WAS HORRIBLE TO ME MEAN WOULD NOT KEEP A JOB I HAD TO WORK AND GO TO SCHOOL AND IT GOT TO HARD SO I QUIT SCHOOL AND WORKED FULL TIME HE WORKED ON AND OFF. THEN MY SON WAS BORN AND HE WAS THERE FOR THE BIRTH BUT THEN LEFT TO DO DRUGS HE DIDN'T EVEN GIVE ME A RIDE HOME FROM THE HOSPITAL MY PARENTS DID . MY PARENTS HAVE BEEN GREAT AND I THINK GOD FOR THEM. BUT I HAVE LEARNED DON'T GET MARRIED BECAUSE YOU ARE PREGNANT! I GOT AN APPARTMENT WHEN MY SON WAS 3 MONTHS OLD TO GET AWAY FROM MY HUSBAND BUT HE WENT TO JAIL FOR DRUGS. I GOT A VOUCHER FOR DAYCARE WHILE I WORKED I WASN'T ON FOOD STAMPS OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT. I WENT TO NIGHT SCHOOL AND GOT MY GED. THEN WENT TO WORK AT A NURSING HOME. WHEN MY SON WAS 9 MONTHS OLD MY EX-HUSBAND GOT OUT AND I TRIED IT ONE MORE TIME BUT IT FAILED. HE WENT TO JAIL AGAIN FOR DRUGS AND THIS TIME HE GOT SENTENCED 25 YEARS. I LATER DIVORCED HIM AND I WORKED 3-11 AND WENT TO COLLEGE DURING THE DAY.I GOT A DAYCARE VOUCHER THAT PAID FOR MY SONS DAYCARE AND GOT FINANCIAL AID FOR COLLEGE. IT WAS HARD I DIDN'T GET ANY OTHER HELP LIKE FOOD STAMPS , AFDC. I ALSO FEEL LIKE I DIDN'T GET TO SEE MY SON A LOT BECAUSE MY PARENTS WATCHED HIM WHEN I WORKED 3-11 SHIFT. THEN I ENDED UP WITH AFTERNOON CLASSES SO I WENT TO 11-7 SHIFT SO MY PARENTS WATCHED HIM AT NIGHT. IT WAS HARD BECAUSE I MISSED HIM SO MUCH. SO I TELL ALL TEENAGE GIRLS AND GUYS MAKE SURE YOU DON'T GET PREGNANT OR GET HER PREGNANT BECAUSE IT ISN'T EASY AND SOME GRANDPARENTS DON'T HELP OUT LIKE MY MOM AND DAD DID. MY EX-HUSBAND ONLY DID 7 YEARS AND HE GOT OUT LAST YEAR AND HAS NOT TRIED TO CONTACT US. THAT IS FINE WITH ME IT HAS ONLY BEEN ME AND MY SON FOREVER BUT I GOT MARRIED TO A GREAT GUY LAST YEAR WHO IS TRYING TO ADOPT MY SON , NOT EVERYBODY IS AS LUCKY AS ME. BIRTHCONTROL TWO FORMS OF IT BECAUSE I WAS ON THE PILL FOR 4 YEARS AND NEVER MISSED A PILL AND STILL GOT PREGNANT. THANK YOU FOR LETTING ME TELL MY STORY! SORRY, IT WAS SO LONG! GOOD LUCK!

Answer 2

I graduated high school 6 months pregnant. It was the biggest mistake of my life, and the most wonderful thing that ever happened to me at the same time. It was very embarrassing being whispered about in the hallways, and when I'd take my son to the park, to the doctor, pretty much anywhere the "moms who are old enough to be moms" would give me either disgusted or pitiful stares. My childhood ended WAY too soon, I never got to experience college like a normal kid. I couldnt go out, I had to stay home and study and take care of a child at the same time. I dont recommend having a baby as a teen to anyone, but I wouldnt give my son up for the world. He taught me alot about me, and about being unselfish, and the amazing love that you can't even begin to imagine exists until you look into your childs eyes. I'm now working on baby number 2 and our whole famiy is soooooo excited! We can't wait for our little girl to get here! My son says he's going to be the best big brother ever, and my husband is planning on loading the shotgun .. hehe.. Basicly, being a teen mom is a gigantic undertaking, but eventually you get through the hard part and get to enjoy being a parent and not a "teen mom". Hope this helps!

Answer 3

I was 15 when I got pregnant with my 1st child, 16 when I had her and it was the hardest thing I ever had to do. Being a single teen mom, (unless your parents raise your child) you basically have to drop out of school to get a job so that all your money can pay for child care.And I am not talking about a good job at that.Then most of the time single teen moms have to get food stamps just so that their child can eat, and maybe work 2 jobs so that you can have extra money to buy diapers....it wasn't and still isn't something that teenagers should have to do.

Answer 4

i had my son at 18 my cousin had her daughter at 16 its rough its hard but as long as you stay in school have family help so you can get a job an so the best you can it does get easier at first its rough our kids are now 4 an both are fine i moved out an started my own life when he was 1 she finished school went tocollege now has her own place an became an LPN as long as you have support from friends an family it makes the rough rode ahead easier shes engaged an plans to marry next year an i have now been married almost 3 years everything worked out fine as for the father no there was no help support or anything let the court handle that.

Answer 5

I was a single Mom at 17 living on welfare in 1980.
Do not try it.
It was very very hard.
There was no one to help, just me and my baby for the first year of his life. Then I got back together with the baby's Dad we both got jobs and within a few years life was ok but it was never what it would have been had I finished school and gotten an education.

Answer 6

I like being a teen mom. I wouldnt reccommend trying to get pregnant as a teenager. But it defiently opens your eyes up to not being a little kid anymore. You have a lot of responsiblity to yourself and to your child. At first my mom kicked me out but my dad let me move in with him. My daughters dad was a scum ball for a long time and swore up and down she was black even tho she had blonde hair and blue eyes. Now that i finally have my own place and I'm getting married in a couple months he's finally decided to pay child support. not much just 49 a week which a kid cost soooooooo much more..but somes better then none. If you have anymore ?'s email me and ill try to help you out goodluck

Answer 7

i imagine women's rights have come far, and at the same time as a sensible human being sees an adolescent mom they assume she has wrecked her destiny. they could also assume she is unwed and could no longer proceed her education, even per chance "suck off the welfare gadget". This, like various assumptions, is infrequently ever the case. there are a approach of youthful moms who proceed their education, even per chance pursue it more advantageous ambitiously because they understand they have a baby to financially help. Unwed? per chance. yet can we truly desire kids marrying the daddy of their new child? no longer truly. that's a damned in case you do, and damned in case you don"t difficulty. we may criticize a smooth married mom for dashing right into a wedding ceremony merely as we may criticize an unwed mom for being 'promiscuous'. As for the financials, maximum teen moms are supported by making use of their prompt kinfolk no longer the authorities. They stay at domicile which will proceed college and get carry of childcare from relatives. per chance some human beings merely sense that teen moms are unequipped to address a baby emotionally. In all honesty, i do not imagine you could practice your self for motherhood and in case you wait to have toddlers till it truly is the "proper time" you should finally end up on the different aspect of the spectrum and be 40 years previous on infertility remedies praying that it truly is not any longer too late. We shouldn't choose human beings for figuring out at the same time as to commence their households, too youthful or too previous.

Answer 8

got pregnant with son at 17 and his father does everything for him we are still together 5 years later and now have another baby boy.