my ex-boyfriend is about to have a baby and it's making me feel very jealous because i was the one planning to have a baby with him just not now we are both 20 yrs but he wanted to have it a.s.a.p. so he left me and found himself anohter girl or should i say his prior girlfriend before me to inpreganate and now the baby is only weeks away. he is now in a realtionship with her becuse of the baby. i never planned to have a baby this young so i asked him to wait for me to finish college and start my career ( i plan to be a police officer) but he didn't now i feel like maybe i made a mistake and am missing out. it really has hurt my self-esteem becuse now i have that feeling of wanting a baby and becoming a mom. i just want to know what people out there think about this?
2006-09-23 11:09:24 · 7 answers · asked by alizenena 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
you shouldn't feel like you made a mistake or are missing out on anything . . . you should feel relieved that this happened . . because if he couldn't wait until you were ready to have a baby, how much did he really care about your feelings?? . . it seems like to me, he only cares about himself and the things that are important to him . . . I know that this is hard for you, but go ahead and finish school and start your career . . take care of you first . . . and then when the time is right, God will send you that perfect man into your life and you will forget all about this situation . . . I can understand wanting to be a mother . . but only do it when you know you are ready for it . . . never do it just to make someone else happy . . .
2006-09-23 13:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by ♥LoisLane♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you made the right choice!! If your ex boyfriend cared about you and your feelings he would have respected your choice and agreed to compromise. He apparently wanted a baby more than he wanted you and what kind of relationship would that have been for you? I have 2 kids and love them dearly but had my first at 20 before I was able to have my career and so now that I am nearing 40 I really regret the fact that I did not finish college and get the career I wanted.
I think you are feeling bad becouse you lost your boyfriend but you made the right choice and saved yourself a lot of heart ache. You'll find a guy who will respect your choices and eventually have the family you want and the career you want so follow your dream! You go Girl!
2006-09-23 19:12:04 · answer #2 · answered by buffybot67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should have not taken him back if he dumped you just to get another girl pregnant. if he loved you and I mean really loved you then he would have waited. I say finish your schooling start your career and get rid of him. I am a mom of three with only a high school diploma and never got to go to college. When you have that first baby all your dreams seem to have to go away. Because its not about you anymore....its about that baby
2006-09-23 20:16:41 · answer #3 · answered by April B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not missing out on anything. First, a child deserves to have two married parents and a stable home. One where there is sufficient money to care for them. If this ex-boyfriend really loved you or his child, he would have provided this for them. Don't be jealous, get your life in order. Date nice stable men who know the way things should be done. Children will come, don't worry. It's always best when done right, don't cheat yourself out of the best!
2006-09-23 18:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by toomeymimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being baby crazy right now has nothing to do with you actually wanting a baby, beleive me. give it a few weeks and you'll see, mostly its from being jealous. which is ok, you're upset. same thing happens to me whenever someone in the family has a baby.
you'll meet someone soon, and they'll be willing to wait for you to be ready. you don't want to have kids before you are ready just because your boyfriend wants one now.
2006-09-23 18:14:40 · answer #5 · answered by whosaidthat? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its his lost. i really think you should wait. i had my baby when i was 19. All of my time goes to her. I barely have any freetime. you want to make sure you have a job first because then you are going to need others to support you with diapers and milk.
2006-09-23 18:51:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart-----------also, don't ever think about or see, if possible, this loser
2006-09-24 19:00:35 · answer #7 · answered by CHEROKEEMAN2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋