I need some advice. My boyfried and I had a talk about our relationship and I guess I pushed him for an answer if he sees me in his future and to make a decision if I am the girl for him. He told me that I put a lot of pressure on him and he needs time alone to think. After 2 weeks I sent him a message asking him about his holidays and he responded back but he seemed to be distant? The conversation was very simple, just asking each other how we are doing but nothing about our relationship. Have I made a mistake by sending it as he had asked for time alone and he may think I don't respect him? What should I do now?
2006-09-23 11:02:07 · 21 answers · asked by violet b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would say try to give him space every couple of weeks to send a msg or want to talk to him is not too much to ask for out of him. I will say if he is not wanting to talk to you, that probably means there is someone else or he doesn't want to be tied down to someone, How long you have been together has a lot to do with it and the age of both of you. Just be patient, but don't wait around for him. Good Luck
2006-09-23 11:06:25 · answer #1 · answered by Samantha M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you did no made a mistake, not even with the talked you your relationship that you think you pushed him for an answer. It is but just natural to ask anybody about your future, his or yours specially that you have a relationlship..
You did not made a mistake by sending him a message asking about his holidays.. You were just concerned. That is normal.
If he did not liked your conversation and do not like to think about the future with you,, then that means he is not likely up for a lifetime relationship with you.
For the meantime, try to forget him or ignore him.. Don't sent back any message and wait for his actions.
Find other friends and enjoy life with them.. Don't always look forward,,, you can look back and sideways,,, there are so many good guys out there just waiting to be found.
If he is for you,,, he will come back to you.
Good luck
2006-09-23 18:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you have pushed him over the edge and that little do you no but that he has ended the relationship! You need to just come out and ask him now does he want to be with you or not but make sure to tell him that there is no pressure and that your sorry if he thought that you were coming off to strong before about it! If you don't do something now then he's going to keep adding distance from you, guys do not like commitment and the ones that are committed have made that decision all on there own! You have scared him away!
2006-09-23 18:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by Ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been my experience that when someone tells you they need space, it's because they want to break up with the person but, aren't able to do it. So, they hope in time you will forget about them. I don't think you have made a mistake by asking him how he felt about you. You had a right to know where your relationship stood. But, since he hasn't contacted you and when you contacted him he acted distant, I think he has decided he doesn't want to be in a relationship right now. It's good that you found out now rather than later, how he felt. He could have told you and have been honest. Instead of being a chicken and taking the easy way out. I think you should move on and start dating other people. You deserve someone who will feel the same way about you that you feel about them. Good luck!
2006-09-23 18:26:44 · answer #4 · answered by cee cee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all make mistakes at some point in our life.I'm not saying you made a mistake. But as for now if I was you I would give him the space that he wishes to have. Just be patient he will come around. I have been married for 5 1/2 years and I have a lil brother I have found trough the both of them that they don't like looking ahead to the future what ever happens happends.Maybe your boyfriend is the same way (likes to take things as they come his way) as hard as it may be for you just leave him be .If it's meant to be it will be. Good luck girl!
2006-09-23 18:11:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmmmm now that depends on how long have you be dating, weeks, months years? To start any relationship you have to build a solid friendship.. you can't just build a relationship out of sex only. You need to sit down and look out the window of your own relationship with your b/f is it a true relationship? Do you know him? Life is too short. either you are on the same page in life, or your on the wrong road.
You have a choice is this as well as he does.. You have to know what you want in it.. if he is not ready you can't make me decide.. he has to know in his heart that he loves you to the depths of his soul as well as you do.
Yes you can ask him where do you stand.so you can move on or stay rooted. Relationships are not easy there is where the true friendship comes in you should be able to share your pain, joy and love and still smile the next day
2006-09-23 18:12:30 · answer #6 · answered by M M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are both only young, then by pushing your boyfriend to commit to something he wasnt ready to say, you made him feel cornered. I would suggest that this is the reason he has backed off. Maybe you should talk to him again and reassure him that you would like to think you have a future, but are very happy with what you have now and wont push him any further. It is possible otherwise that you may lose him.
2006-09-23 18:06:12 · answer #7 · answered by auburn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him like you never asked the question. If you are both still very young then maybe your mind was advancing to a level he hasn't felt yet or desired to look into at this time in his life. It's OK that you asked and if you want to let him know that you were just curious & thinking out loud but that it's fine that he doesn't think about that stuff yet. Tell him that you aren't ready for all of that yet either but were just curious. Tell him you like things just the way they are.
2006-09-23 18:10:04 · answer #8 · answered by paintressa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well most times guys get a little weird about what we say to them and I think u asking him that question made him act weird so maybe it wasn't the right time in the relationship to ask that question because sometimes people don't end up together forever so I think it was exactly how u said it becuz u could have beatin around the bush
2006-09-23 18:13:31 · answer #9 · answered by Kam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just wait but not to long do not call him or send messages sounds like he wants out give it a few days no calls then move on i know better said then done but your happiness is more to you
2006-09-23 18:05:23 · answer #10 · answered by candel_lite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋