ok i love this guy...and he has a gf....he always asks me if i am happy or not..i have never been happy in my life...but right now i am happy cause he is happy..but on the inside i am killing myself mentally and physically..and the guy i love wants me to be happy...he wants to be with me but he loves his gf...is it wrong for me to only be happy cause he is happy...and still be slowly killing myself like this..or should i give up and just try and make myself happy?
2006-09-23 10:55:33 · 15 answers · asked by Gracee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
but he told me he wanted me to be happy...but all i want is for him to be happy...
i recently got my heart broken
and now i dont think it is coming back but idk
2006-09-23 10:58:40 · update #1
btw he lives three hours from me...
2006-09-23 11:02:57 · update #2
be happy
2006-09-23 10:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult to love someone who does not love you in the same way. Sure he wants you to be happy...he doesn't want to be the cause of your sadness. But, he has made his choice and the best thing you can do is to choose to move on and find someone that can love you like you deserve to be loved. You should not have to share a man's affection and attention with anyone. Don't give him any opportunity to think he has a back up girlfriend. Be strong and let him know you are content with or without him. Don't let him think you need him to be happy. It won't be easy, but it is the best thing you can do for yourself.
2006-09-23 20:32:38 · answer #2 · answered by Grace A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently this guy you love really cares for you because he cares if your happy but if he has a gf and he loves her too he will not break her heart so I would advise you to just keep it cool and look out for someone else who will love you back and will make you happy. You wont be dying inside. I can guarantee tha. All the best!!!!!!
2006-09-23 18:00:49 · answer #3 · answered by angelfish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is with someone else, he does not really love you. You need to quit being wrapped up in this guy. Move on and find happiness for yourself. I know it is hard and hurts right now, but trust me. This guy does NOT love you and will NEVER make you happy. He is making you torture yourself this way, he is the reason you are feeling the way you are. He knows this and continues it anyway. Let him tell you he loves you all he wants; actions speak louder than words. And if you are hurting and he is with her, he does NOT love you. I'm sorry. Move on and be happy.
2006-09-23 17:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give up and just try and make yourself happy.
I mean give up on his gf,, there is no point worrying about her to the point of killing yourself.
If you are happy that he is happy then you are basically normal, you do like him or love him, so just be happy..
It is actually envy inside of you that is killing yourself.
So get rid of it.. Just love him and let him know about it, but do not expect too much so you won't get hurt.
2006-09-23 18:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you ought to give up because he loves his girlfriend. Now, put yourself in his girlfriend's position. Would u feel happy if you found out that your bf is having an affair with another girl? i'm sure u won't. So i suggest u give up. Wait till the right man comes your way.
2006-09-23 18:03:01 · answer #6 · answered by Tim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you possibly be happy with a guy that has another gf? It is apparent that he doesn't love you cause he is still with her. He is just using you. Wake up, sister. He isn't worth your time. Find a guy who will spend his time with you, not with his gf.
2006-09-23 18:01:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl,you have self esteem problems. He is using you,you are bettert than that. Why be with a man who loves someone else. Do you have a family? Becareful, this sounds really .bad . Find you some true friends. I would not want my daughter talking this way.
2006-09-23 18:06:45 · answer #8 · answered by DEBO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have such a nice heart u r realy sweet u need a frnd who can console u r not the only 1 who has witnessed this dont worry just plzz dont hurt your self if u need a frnd then i m there v can talk i will help u feel better
2006-09-23 18:07:13 · answer #9 · answered by Angad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may want you to be happy--but not with him, even if he says so...if he meant with him, why's the gf still in the picture--or he wants her to be happy too...so many questions---what do YOU want out of life?
2006-09-23 18:06:06 · answer #10 · answered by phyllis_neel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋