I have a question -- now here's the catch... you can't write down "both" or "it depends" for this question... I want what you think is the BEST answer:
Is it better to go out looking for love, or is it better that love finds you?
I am only 17, so I know I am too young to really experience "love", but ya know, just for future reference.
It's a tough question to answer... and please tell me why you think so...
I can be a little more specific, too, if you want...
by "looking for love" i dont mean like going crazy asking every single person out, I just mean like you're out there looking for interesting people, meeting them, getting to know them, blahblahblah, having a crush, and most likely going to ask them.
by "love finding you", it means just waiting for somebody to come and ask you out, or if somebody keeps on talking to you for a while and then they ask you out.
it's a hard question if you think about it.
2006-09-23 10:49:12 · 26 answers · asked by sam 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 30 and it is definitely best when love finds you, yet it is hard not to look for sometimes. Everyone gets lonely.
2006-09-23 10:50:35 · answer #1 · answered by SweetD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't a hard question at all...maybe because I am a little older and have experience in the love department. I think the best answer is to wait and let love find you. Sometimes when one pursues love they look too hard and maybe settle for less than their expectations. But when one waits for love it kind of comes unexpected and sweeps you off your feet. Work on yourself, learn more about yourself and when the time is ready that right person will come. But if you feel strongly towards someone and the connection is there, go for it. I hope what I wrote makes sense and good luck my friend =)
2006-09-23 17:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by Sara Lee 23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A male recruiter told me not to look for it, instead, to keep hanging out with the people I enjoy being with; he admitted he was cocky...He was. I think I've been told a few times that the right one would come along...
I probably don't know what I want exactly, so how can I find that guy?
and I guess, it's kind of similar to looking for a job...looking for an opportunity to get involved. I want to do things other than studying and finding a new job...
Or maybe I need to find myself first, before finding or meeting the right guy?
I don't seem to be looking for it now, since I need to find a job, and am studying...though sometimes I contemplate about it...
2006-09-23 18:31:36 · answer #3 · answered by mshealerless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're a lady it's best to let love find you, otherwise if you go on looking for love, there'll be many dissapointments, heartbreaks, and you may look desperate. If you're a guy, either way is fine I guess. That's all I can think of. WIth guys I think it's the same thing when they look for love, even though since the earth was born, guys have been known to make the first move.
2006-09-23 17:51:58 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a hard question at all.
You should be out there meeting people and getting to know them but you should not be out there looking for love. You should let love find you.
If you are looking for love, you are more apt to make a mistake and pick the wrong person. If you wait for love to find you, it usually does when you least expect it. The harder you look for something, the harder it is to find.
When you find that special someone, take your time before making a committment and be sure that they really are special. It's ok to date and have fun but save the sex and committment until you are really sure that this is the person you want to give it up to.
2006-09-23 17:55:40 · answer #5 · answered by nellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love will find you. I went looking for love the first time I was married. It was a bad situation. After it ended I swore I would never hook up with anyone again. A few months later, a guy that I would have never dreamed would even notice me called me and we have been together ever since. That has been 7 yrs now and he is the love of my life.
2006-09-23 17:52:05 · answer #6 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience, I have found it is better to let love find you. When you search out love, you are forcing something that should come naturally. I don't think you should just wait for somebody to come along, you should put yourself in situations where love can find you and where you comfortable with the people who show up.
2006-09-23 18:01:34 · answer #7 · answered by ladylunamina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm pretty question..let me try with my thoughts on it..
I think.. both (sorry to say that word) are not really the way of Love..
we can not look for Love (as you mentioned) it is crazy asking every single person.. that can not be Love.. It just happen and we even may not know.. that moment.. it takes time to realise the right person to whom you are in Love.. yes if you are calling it Crush.. yeh could say.. I am looking for intresting people for getting in crush with you.. but still getting in Love.. it is not so easy i think.. it is a state of mind when two people get to know eachother.. it is not really explanable with my little vocabulary..
hmm it cant also the way we just wait for someone to find you..when u look for something...you may find gliterring things.. but it is hard to find the right person... It does have a time.. when they meet,, when they get to know eachother.. both heart will feel.. they are in love....and it just happen.....
I hope i didnt confused you dear:) anyway...cheers.. Hope someone will give you the right answer too..
in short I think better.. just Live your life and when the Love comes to your life.. without being waiting.. and without being in quest for it.. Just Accept it..
2006-09-23 17:59:51 · answer #8 · answered by bejoys v v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think love will ever find you if your hidden in a box. You have to socialize and get to know people, while at the same time you are letting people get to know you. By making yourself available, love may come to you, but you are already looking for it. I didn't say both, but it is kind of a two way street!
2006-09-23 17:52:43 · answer #9 · answered by cowboys21angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that it's a tough question, and you said not to say both, but you kind of have to. You can set yourself out looking. Once that special person finds you, you just know it. You click. I'm not saying to go out in a bar and wait for someone to find you. On the other hand, staying home and waiting for someone to find you won't help either. You kind of need to do both.
2006-09-23 17:53:25 · answer #10 · answered by Yup! I'm a girl! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to go out looking for love it will find you.
At your age you will find your self falling in love often, it's one of those teenage emotions that are going to happen. In fact people fall in and out of love at any age. So just go you way through life and enjoy what it brings you. Also don't think you love a person for the wrong reasons.
Often people mistake sex for love. Love is more than just sex -
2006-09-23 17:56:17 · answer #11 · answered by Dale 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋