There is a guy that I have been texting a lot, we get on quite well and the texts have become quite flirty. We've never met. He has a disability, which kinda puts me off just a little... He wont tell me what it is as he said 'weirds people out' but insists that he didn't go to a special school and doesn't need medication. We haven't met or anything, and I know that it might not go any further than flirty friends... but is it wrong that it matters?
2006-09-23 10:44:01 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know what he looks like - he's gorgeous. I just know what I like and what I don't...
2006-09-23 10:48:18 · update #1
he says that he 'looks and acts normal.' he was in a car crash a while back, so I thought that it had something to do with that. He can't work because of it and he said his friends used to take advantage of it... makes me really wonder what it is! If he's going to be the love of my life, then obviously it wont matter.But... right now, I hardly know him... so it kind of matters! It's hard to explain.
2006-09-23 11:10:35 · update #2
it's not as wrong as you might think. you are human and it's ok to feel a little discomfort around people with disability. but it's wrong if you totally dis the guy for his disability. i think that if you actually like the guy... meet him... and once you get to really know him and once he becomes something more, i'm sure you won't even notice it... no matter how bad it is. it might make you sad sometimes to think about it but no discomfort. =) think bout wat he really means to you...
2006-09-23 10:47:26 · answer #1 · answered by ju5sm3h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have rarely found online contacts very exciting when I met them (and I have met quite a few!). So I suspect that any small disability is not going to matter. On the whole I am beginning to feel that online friends are best kept online. Isa pity.
Try it but be prepared for disappointment. You're not shallow just cautious.
2006-09-23 17:54:52 · answer #2 · answered by Richard T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not exactly. Cause looks does play a major part in relationships which goes beyond frendship. (Most people dont admit this in public but the really do).
But once you see this guy you might actually like him.
But ;
Its important to make a quick decision cause more you guys flirt , more you'll get close and when you finally meet him and you didn't like him, it'll cause lot of pain for both of you.
Same kinda thing happened to me. I was texting this girl for a while and when I finally met her I thought that she is a big turn off. So I stop texting / repling her texts and ignored her calls. It was painful. And i felt like a complete jerk.
2006-09-23 18:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by Clash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am another 'no you are not shallow'. It shows thought and concern about the future. However, suppose he doesn't have a disability? Suppose that he may be testing you to see if you are shallow?
Anyway, take a chance, what do you have to lose? Some time? You might even get an education out of it.
2006-09-23 17:56:25 · answer #4 · answered by deepndswamps 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did he get your number if you have never met? Are you sure someone isn't playing a joke on you?
Your not shallow. It is normal to be more attracted to people who you consider "normal." If he is a real person and you like his personality, maybe you will be able to look past his disability once you meet him.
2006-09-23 17:50:44 · answer #5 · answered by Heidi L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, no it shouldn't matter, but I would feel like he is hiding something. If you are interested in this guy and he is interested with you, he should be honest and tell you what it is. You have a right to know his special circumstance if you want to continue with him.
2006-09-23 17:47:54 · answer #6 · answered by ky_school_teacher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omigod! I need to know what his disability is and why it 'weirds people out' Does that make me shallow to?
2006-09-23 17:57:40 · answer #7 · answered by floss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, texting can't mean everything in a relationship. Everyone knows what they do and don't like.
2006-09-23 17:46:16 · answer #8 · answered by Omar D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for being so honest. You're not shallow, I would feel the same. Give him a chance, though.
2006-09-23 17:49:03 · answer #9 · answered by Hello Dave 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not if it matters to you.
you shouldn't feel quilty if you don't think it's something you can deal with.
i would wait until you have found out what it is before making your mind up.
2006-09-23 17:47:04 · answer #10 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋