I'm 24 and I lost mine 5 yrs ago when he moved very far away, but we stayed in contact this whole time. He is in a serious relationship right now that he has to be in for reasons I do not wanna disclose. But all we want to do is be with eachother. We are the love of eachother's lives, the only man I can picture myself marrying, and having kids with. I can see my whole future in him. But due to the circumstances cant be together. Its a heartbreaking story. There's a chance in the future we might, but when? I dunno. Do I give up? I feel stupid for letting this get me so down, but if I end up with him in the end, I believe this pain will be worth it. I just dunno IF we'll end up together. What should I do?
2006-09-23 10:42:22 · 15 answers · asked by melanie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i`m sure as heck No One will ever compare to my one true love,my princess,my angel. And i`m sure Nobody on this earth will love her as much as i love her,but if anyone loves her half as much as i do,it will be enough for her to be happy for eternity.
My true love loves me,but same as you,for some reason we can`t be together,so i try to make every second we`re together count.
Trying to forget someone you loved is like trying to remember someone you never knew
you never really stop loving someone. you just learn to try to live without them.
True Love waits,remember that,so don`t ever give up,like you say,at the end the pain will be worth it. If there is the slightest chance you can end up together,then it means there is still hope.A heart in love never loses hope.
Have you seen the movie The Notebook? whenever i feel like there is no hope for my one true love and me,i watch that movie and it reminds me how strong true love can be.
And hey,if you end up together,you will have one heck of a story to tell to ur children and grandchildren. So smile,there is still hope. ♥ ♥ ♥ :)
I wish you the very best of luck,i really hope you end up together.
Remember,True Love waits!!
2006-09-23 10:59:06 · answer #1 · answered by Your best friend 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you truly "can't" be together right now and he is with someone else, yes, you should move on and try to find happiness for yourself.
It sounds like you have never moved on from this guy, so of course you are going to believe that "no one will compare." Go make yourself happy. Find and pursue a career you love, make great friends, enjoy life and your family. Eventually you will likely also meet another man and fall in love. Then you can truly step back and evaluate your feelings for this first love and know if it is the real thing, or if you were just hanging on too tightly all this time.
Things will get better. Good luck. You deserve to be happy and it sounds like you are not happy now worrying about this.
2006-09-23 17:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lost the love of my life a long time ago and I have never met another to compare. It was love at first sight. From the moment he said Hello to me I knew he was different, we were very happy for a few years until tragedy struck. I still dream about him. I have tried to get over him and find another, but even when I was with him I knew it was a once in a lifetime thing.
So to answer your question, don't give up, at least you are still talking. Keep in touch and in the mean time you could stumble on another love or someday you could get back together.
Just don't let it get you down, at least you are still in contact. My ex and I have not spoken in years and I just hear about him sometimes from relatives. Focus on living and learning and enjoying your life. I know having love makes things nicer, but I wasted many years focusing on looking for love and never found it. I think I might have if I had focused on myself. Now I am a 39yr old single mom going to school and broke. You are young enjoy it, I wish I could be your age again, I would have done allot differently.
Good luck to you.
2006-09-23 17:52:45 · answer #3 · answered by crct2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to move on. You said he is in a serious relationship that is simple enough to move on with your life.
If this relationship was serious from both sides (I mean his side), his serious relationship should be with you and not someone else. You are so old enough to be together, so I see no reason that if he was really serious about you there should be some compromise so that you two should be together.
"First love" is difficult to get over, but not impossible. You just have to try, but rule number one is to stop staying in contact with him. This will only bring you pain and stop you from going forward with your life. If he is really serious he will find a way to be with you.
Don't give up your life and dreams for anyone who is not willing to do the same. What I mean by this is actions and not words.
Good luck, dear.
2006-09-23 17:58:59 · answer #4 · answered by nevine99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I waited for my first love for 18 yrs I have married and divorced and always thought of him, he would show up every few yrs and totaly ruin my life and I would allow it. I finally had to give up and I broke my own heart when I finally did it. You need to move on before you have waited 20 yrs. I have met the man of my dreams now and you will not live happy with anyother person untill you let go. Just a little at a time.
2006-09-23 17:58:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first you need to consider your pro's and con's, Ok so here they are- 1. Are the both of you completey compatible, emotionally, phsicaly, intelligentally on the same level? 2. Are you really in love with him, or do you just love him? 3.Does he have simular feeling? and finally 4. Are either one of you willing to uproot for each other? If you can't answer yes to everyone of one of these questions then No it's not worth it, but if you can answer yes to all of these questions, and you know deep down in your soul that he is it for you then you need to do something about it, I mean you are 24, a grown women who is able to make decisions for your self, so get on it before it's too late.
2006-09-23 18:02:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will share my answer but I bet you will be mad. What ever these mysterious circumstances are, you all are either going to have to make a commitment to one another and act on it, or, move on with your lives. Living in limbo is not healthy emotionally. You can't be in suspended animation forever. You are 24, that's old enough to know that after five years its time to take control back over your life. Sorry to be blunt, but I wouldn't be honest if I didn't care.
2006-09-23 17:48:29 · answer #7 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one ever compares to your first love because there is all this new stuff that happens. You love for the FIRST time, you discover new things, you feel new feelings, you go through a lot when you have your fist love with a lot of extremem feelings that you are feeling for the first time. NOTHING EVER compares to those feelings, not even a reconciliation or a second time
2006-09-23 17:46:13 · answer #8 · answered by trombonegirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He does not have to be in a relationship with anyone for any reason. Even if the girl is pregnant, he doesn't have to stay. He CHOOSES. Everyone has free will. That's the sucky part about it. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink. Sorry you feel so sad, I myself am in a situation. It sucks. Good Luck to you & me!!!
2006-09-23 17:46:10 · answer #9 · answered by SweetD 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't hold on to something that may possibly be in the far future but can't now because of reasons you won't disclose (I assume maybe he's in jail or in another relationship because of kids).
2006-09-23 17:45:27 · answer #10 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋