2006-09-23 10:06:15 · 13 answers · asked by robb_carrie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
im14 and i used to do my mom like that but she started to get me to stop by whooping my but that's what she did with me
2006-09-24 10:46:04 · answer #1 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't find a punishment that works, then it would seem that he's acting out to get attention. You have to analyze how you go about disciplining him. And you also have to analyze other aspects. Such as: Has there been a traumatic event that has happened? Has there been a change in his routine? Are you spending enough quality time with him? What's causing him to mis-behave. At 10, he knows the difference from right and wrong. And if punishment isn't working you have to change something else. Parenting is by trial and error. Also try disciplining instead of punishment.
2006-09-23 17:36:07 · answer #2 · answered by Heart of Plat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consequences. If he does something you tell him not to, there will be consequences. Let him face the consequences. Explain to him why you're saying no, and what the consequences could be if he doesn't listen. Then (without the "I told you so!" attitude) explain to him after that you aren't trying to be mean when you say no, but you were trying to make it so he wouldn't have to face these consequences. If he does something that doesn't have natural repercussions, find things that will bother him when he looses them. Sweets, TV, video games, friends over, etc. Be creative. Did he lie to you? Lie to him. When he realizes that he can't go to that party becuse you lied. He'll realize just how bad lying can be. Did he make a mess? He has to clean the mess, his room, and another room in the house. Get him to realize how bad what he did is. Most of the time kids just don't understand how bad their actions can hurt themselvs or others. Just remember that no matter what you say you have to follow through. It'll only take a few times before he'll realize how serious you are when you tell him something, and he won't test you anymore. Being consistant and following though on your word are key. Hope that helps!
2006-09-23 19:18:32 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa, That's me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking away privleges seems to work in our house. If I take something away, it's taken away. I don't give it back for at least 2-3 weeks. I take away TV time, the video game machines are still in my closet from 2 months ago, I've taken away dessert after dinner for a week (I'm a jerk, I make sure to have some sort of dessert that week too), I've taken away time at grandma's house, I've taken away weekend trips that were planned, I took everything but the bed, dresser and bookcase out of my youngest son's room and he had to earn his belongings back. If my kids don't want to act right, then I'll give them some act right by taking away things they want to do or stuff they like.
If those don't help maybe try to find a family counselor. We had to do this with my youngest son, he had a hard time accepting my fiance, and started acting out and not listening. We all went, we all talked, and we worked through our problems. Now he's fine and listens to his step-dad. Good luck honey, I know it's hard, but stick with it. Don't give up on him. =)
2006-09-23 17:20:41 · answer #4 · answered by jenpeden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I had listening problems when I was a 10 year old boy but a couple of hearty sessions with the wooden spoon cured that alright. That was back in the olden days though - circa 1980-81.
2006-09-23 21:41:54 · answer #5 · answered by O'Shea 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him have friends over or go outside and play with his friends, no video games, TV, computer. A friend of mine had a problem with her son when he was 12 and she took EVERYTHING out of his room except the bed and his dresser. Everything was locked up in the garage. He had to earn his things back with good behavior and if he started to act up again she took back stuff that he had earned back. It didn't take him long to learn. He is now 25 and a college graduate and has a baby girl of his own now, and is a great dad.
2006-09-23 17:16:57 · answer #6 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My oldest son was the same way. I later found out he is severely adhd. No punishment worked; and I tried EVERYTHING! You may want to look into having him tested. My thoughts are with you.
2006-09-23 18:57:19 · answer #7 · answered by Maggie Mae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take away the things he enjoys, TV, Video games, fav toy whatever. It's useless if you give it back before the inteded time tho.
2006-09-23 17:11:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good old fashioned spanking never hurt anyone. 10 is NOT to old for a spanking!!!
Good Luck
2006-09-24 12:37:29 · answer #9 · answered by outdoor man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at that age you should be able to take away privaliges,,things he wants around him and likes,,ban him from certain things in the house ,ground him if he plays out,,give him house chores,give him homework, if he has a computer ban him from it ,you could remove a favorite item from his room say,,there are lots you can do,, you need ot put your foot down ..
2006-09-23 17:56:45 · answer #10 · answered by mam26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strip his room of all his things he really likes and make him earn them back with good behavior.
2006-09-23 17:22:26 · answer #11 · answered by CJBig 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋