If you have sex before marriage, but than the person you had sex with is the person that you got married to, is it still immoral for you to have sex with that person after you married since you had sex with that person before you got married? What are the views on this?????
2006-09-23 09:49:36 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Depends on IF you married them in your heart and mind BEFORE they got undressed and BEFORE you had sex.
To do otherwise implies you have FREE WILL to change your mind if you don't like their body or they way they perform in bed.
If you ENTER into sex with the idea that you are ALREADY married spiritually and WILL NOT CAST THEM ASIDE NO MATTER WHAT (except for finding them in an adulterous state) then it is probably ok.
The TWO of you, however, must formally agree to that with God as a witness prior to sex.
God doesn't want people marrying "contingent upon" liking them sexually, but becasue they chose them as people.
Tell me, if the girl you have sex with tells you she doesn't really like it and once you get married you'll only be doing it to make babies and she doesn't want babies immediately and only wants a small family. Which means you'll get sex maybe 4 months out of your entire 40 year marriage, would you still marry them or go off and find a girl who likes to have more sex!
2006-09-23 10:05:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am guessing you think that there has always been a thing called marriage? Marriage was invented by people trying to find a way to celebrate their grouping with another person. The Kings did this to show the people they had a new Queen. It was then found to make a lot of money and so they started pushing the market. It is the same with christmas and other holidays. Any thing that makes money is made in to a market.
And being religion is just a myth and just a scam to make money from people for doing nothing it was pushed on to others aswell. There is no heaven nor a hell so why would you be worried to start with?
2006-09-23 16:58:43 · answer #2 · answered by Don K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex should be an intimate thing, mostly because you're talking a big risk of somebody a) getting preggers or B) getting an STD or two. If the relationship isn't solid enough to survive A or B, then it's not worth it. If it is, it may end up in marriage anyways.
(PS, the whole "sex before marriage" thing is a distractor. Focus on whether or not you'd want to raise a child with the person you'd be boning / getting boned by. That's the real proof).
2006-09-23 16:52:39 · answer #3 · answered by godlessinaz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol. i loved the question till you asked if it was immoral to have sex once you are married. Duh, sex is what married couples do. having sex when married is looked upon as LOVE. don't get premarital sex confused. Also who to judge if permarital sex is immoral. I think you should have sex before you marry to see how you both connect with each other. And don't get me wrong. i do suggest you be in a relationship, a true relationship. not just any tom and mary doing it. I was with my boyfriend 2 weeks before we did it. He moved in shortly after. For 7 years we lived together and finally we married. It's been 12 years now. I found my true love!!!
2006-09-23 16:57:41 · answer #4 · answered by Mo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What in the world? I've never heard of what you're asking. You're suggesting that it might be immoral to have sex with your wife, to whom you are legally married, just because the two of you slept together before that marriage?
Maybe the premarital sex was a problem, depending on your religion, but I've never heard of marital sex being an issue.
Just love your wife, and be good to her.
2006-09-23 16:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex before marriage is wrong.
Sex after marriage is great. It does not matter if you had sex with that person before you got married. Hopefully, you confessed that sin before you got married. If not, do so now and go on with married life.
2006-09-23 16:52:14 · answer #6 · answered by Sldgman 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a sin against the body if out of marriage. All other sin is not. Sex is a close spiritual bond between two people...."the Two Shall Become One" It is serious. Repent from your heart and carry on in your walk with Jesus. You will be forgiven and set free!
2006-09-23 16:57:54 · answer #7 · answered by davidchristinelove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's considered still immoral. SEX B4 Marriage, it doesn't matter who it's with it's the act not the person
2006-09-23 16:51:44 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Shortie♥ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is not an issue to which moral principles may properly be applied, since the question of sex or not has no bearing on the success or survival of society. The proper criterion to use is to determine whether it will strengthen the relationship over the long term.
2006-09-23 16:53:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is still immoral because there is no guarentee that that person is the one you will mary. Sex in Christianity is between a husband and his wife.
2006-09-23 16:54:32 · answer #10 · answered by Starlytefairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋