My daughter, who just turned six in the first grade, is making sure I know we WILL go on vacation together for every day she no longer has school after she graduates. She even specified where. *sigh* No, I did not give her this idea.... Any way I can use her "planning" to my advantage when it comes time to do homework or should I pretend she doesn't say it at all or change the subject? I already listened and said that sounds like fun a couple times.
2006-09-23 09:34:17 · 8 answers · asked by *babydoll* 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I was thinking something along those lines, Lindsey. I remember being five and wanting to be a teacher, a doctor, dreaming up all sorts of things. I guess right now, the vacation thing for her is her way of saying she does not want to think about her homework yet. She usually says teacher, doctor, ballerina, ice skater, etc.
2006-09-23 09:40:00 · update #1
All kids plan what they are going to do when they graduate from school. Kids are natural born dreamers. I would tell my mom everything I'd do after I'd graduate from the time I could talk and understand what school was. It's good for her to have a plan--but it's very likely that it will change through time. Don't ignore her--go along with it. That's the best thing with children, they always think about the future and are excited about everything. Listen to her and join in if you want to, it can be tons of fun!
2006-09-23 09:37:53 · answer #1 · answered by .vato. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My daughter who is now 19 has wanted to go to college and study journalism since she was 5-6... She will be starting college in January to follow her dream of being a journalist...
My son who is 17 at age 6 wanted to be a garbage man (the garbage men in our area ride on the back of the truck and swing off to get the cans yadda yadda yadda, yes I can under stand the fasination for a 6 yr old boy..) At about 9 he decided he wanted to go to college and become an architect so he can design buildings to blend with the enviroment... He is really into Frank Lloyd Wright designs.. He will start college in January of 2008...
My 9 year old daughter wanted to be a fairy princess when she was 5. now she wants to be a multi-tasker a vetranarian/ First girl President of the US (she thinks we should kick all the boys out of the country because they are gross and if she is president she could do that she thinks hehe ...) / and own a farm to care for sick injured animals....
Kids like to plan for thier future when they will be all grown up plans change don't get too excited about a plan until they are at least 14-15 they are still evolving and changing as they grow...
2006-09-23 09:52:08 · answer #2 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like playful fantisizing. Just let her run with it, I promise in 2 weeks she'll be on to some new obsession. As far as her not doing her homework goes, you could tell her that if she doesn't do her homework she'll nevergraduate and never get to go on her vacation. Or you could just not let her watch TV or play or do whatever she likes to do until homework is done. But be careful about being too mean or she'll start hating homework and getting it done will be even harder. Don't use homework as a punishment. Instead, reward her for doing it by giving her something fun like letting her watch her favorite movie. Just don't use food as a reward or she'll get fat. That's what happened to me lol or at least that's my excuse.
2006-09-23 09:45:09 · answer #3 · answered by brainy_ostrich 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 6 and in the 1st grade. She tells me that she wants to live close to me and she wants me to visit her home. She also has it planned that she will have a little girl, or she's hoping her child will be a girl anyway. She says she will be a teacher, a mommy and a hair stylist, but she will only do the hair styling job during the Summer when school is not in session. Just enjoy her conversations on the subject and be happy that she sees you as being close to her as an adult, because when our kids are teenagers they might be planning on moving as far away from us as possible.
2006-09-23 09:42:22 · answer #4 · answered by nimo22 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boys do this all the time. I just say "Oh yeah? Well I hope you're gonna pay for it, because Mommy can't afford to go on vacation all the time." I usually get the "OK!" and that's the end of it. I don't use their fantasies against them to get their homework done. I simply tell them that the sooner they get their work done, the sooner they can go outside and play, or watch TV, or play with toys, etc. Of course I look it over before I let them run amok to make sure it's done and done right.
2006-09-23 09:39:36 · answer #5 · answered by jenpeden 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yeah, nice way to spoil the kid. don't give in to her, simply tell her that you can't afford all those vacations, and she must work at a real job in order to afford them. You have somehow given her the impression that she can have whatever she wants. its time to bring her back into the real world. Ask her where she plans to get the money to pay for all these trips, and start telling her no when you take her to a store and she demands something. Spoiling a kid, and giving in to its demands are the best way to raise a sociopath. just remember YOU are the parent, and get to say what she can do, not her.
2006-09-23 09:41:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a little cousin who is 12 and the only thing he knows is that he doesn't want to go to college. The fact your daughter is thinking of her future that far ahead is amazing, but it might be stemming from some sort of insecurity or control issue. You should reassure her that there is plenty of time to think of the future, but she should concentrate on the present instead.
2006-09-23 09:36:46 · answer #7 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
making a plan is what she sees adults doing so she is role playing and it it harmless...just go along with it gently...she probably just needs confirmation that you are paying attention...just listen and agree
2006-09-23 15:36:18 · answer #8 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋