He asked me to marry him when he joined the Army. When he got stationed in Hawaii he dumped me and he is now in Iraq, but writes me. Recently wrote that "you gave me a smile..that I didn't have before and haven't had since.." Say's he's gonna come back for me and many other things hintin at the fact he made a mistake. Question is..should i really believe all this and stick around and wait for him or move on like i've been tryin to do until he says things like above?
2006-09-23 08:43:02 · 11 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too.
2006-09-23 08:46:11 · answer #1 · answered by jcmarion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he really so gosh-darn wonderful, fantastic absolutely world-stopping GREAT that you want to be with him and hang around while he goes through this hot-cold-hot-cold game? Or do you think he dumped you so he could go have some great adventures in Hawaii... and now that he's in Iraq, he's just looking for a little home comfort and- hey- you're still available!
I'd probably tell him to look me up when he got home and, if I was still single, we might be able to date again and see if anything's there. Then I'd continue to live my life- and date other guys- and more or less put him on ice until then. I wouldn't "wait" for him at all. Who know how he'll change once he gets home??!!
2006-09-23 08:48:25 · answer #2 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please realize he caused you grief, hurt & pain, probably tears.
Sounds like no one wanted to hold on to him after he dumped you, that is a BIG RED FLAG about who this person is..he lives for the moment. Now he realizes where a nice friend is waiting.
For your own peaceful life down the road---turn him down. Write to him as a friend if you must,(but I personally would not) and do not answer any of his personal questions about taking him back or resuming the relationship.
A life with this man will never be true or fair. He can change, but not at this point-living apart. A relationship cannot be healed or formed without seeing,knowing,watching what is going on around him at this low point in his life.
Always have respect for who you are & don't look back where there once was pain. I learned from a teacher in school when I was young..."when in doubt-DON'T".That has proved true time after time & I taught that to my son's, & now am drilling this in my young grand son's head.
2006-09-23 09:29:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say. It could be that he is being honest with you and is coming back, but you need to look at why he dumped you while stationed in Hawaii. Could it have been he met somone else and that didn't work out so now he figures he can just come back to you.
2006-09-23 08:46:37 · answer #4 · answered by Jason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you're saying that while he was stationed in paradise he didn't want to be with you but now that he's in Iraq he wants a relationship. Personally, I wouldn't turn my back on him now because he does need support. However, I definately wouldn't buy what he's selling as far as a relationship is concerned. I would not invest myself emotionally with someone so "wishy-washy".
2006-09-23 08:49:34 · answer #5 · answered by choc8qiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course now that he's in hell (Iraq), yeah I bet you do make him smile. I think its the fact that he might not make it back now he's having regrets but they might not hold up after he makes out of there a live. I would move on. He dumped you when he had a chance to go to paradise now that he's in hell, he wants to tie you down to him. Move on girl. Be nice to him if that's what you want to but go on and allow yourself to be truly love by someone else.
2006-09-23 08:49:17 · answer #6 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's lost and wanting the comfort of something he knows. He's confused because he's in a stressfull situation and doesn't know how to deal with it.
I would tell him to wait until he gets back and then you two can talk about it. Making any discisions now would be asking for trouble.
2006-09-23 08:46:02 · answer #7 · answered by Kinzel99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girlfriend,#1 sample. .answer he's just not into you.move on its a
blessing that you fine out how much he think of you.just think
if you had marry this guy.and he is not sure about thing now.
where would be.there is someone out there for you that will
treat you better,love and respect you. as my mom always,said
never give people the power over your life.people will treat you
like you allow them to. and that's real. re.re
2006-09-23 09:13:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cud tell him that you want to move on b out agen n with friends n more guys n evryfink but u will still b waitin for him. that if he does ask u to marry him agen then u wud say yes. or even if he asks u out ud say yer. tell him that u will always hav a place in ur heart for him. n also tell him that you would only say yes if he asked u face to face not through letters.
2006-09-23 08:47:07 · answer #9 · answered by sugarpie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone dif. You r'nt hers anymore.
2006-09-23 08:45:27 · answer #10 · answered by steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋