really rough and hard and i dont like condoms, what should i do?
2006-09-23 08:20:26 · 15 answers · asked by ask 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
This is a joke isn't it? Time waster!
2006-09-23 14:45:52 · answer #1 · answered by xanadu88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off congrats on getting married.
Secondly- do you want kids? If so, you need some form of protections. I also recommend getting a STD test just to make sure that you haven't picked anything up. It is safe and responsible, so don't worry about being judged. If you somehow got HPV from an ex (which you can transmit with condoms), how you you feel if you gave it to your wife and she not only became infertile, but got cancer. Scary thought, so get tested. Then suggest that she go on the pill so you can prevent having babies until you are ready.
Third- I am assuming you have made out before, so if your styles of passion matched there, it is safe to assume you will be compatible in bed. The first time you should take it slow. You guys have waited forever and you don't want it to suck so she will be reluctant to have sex again. Go slow, use lots of foreplay (especially give her oral sex), and use lubrication if she needs it. Then enter her slowly with your finger and swirl it slightly to get her to stretch out a little (it is a bonus for you if she comes then). Then, you can enter her and consummate your relationship. Take it slow and romantic at first and watch her face to gage how fast or slow she wants it.
After the first time women get addicted to the hormones that are released when they orgasm, so if you can get her to orgasm, you are golden. (if she likes/loves/craves chocolate you can be about 90% sure that she will be completely into sex once she orgasms). So on your honeymoon have fun and try different positions and rhythms work best for both of you.
Your wife may think that she needs to be a demure little goddess in bed to be considered holy/a good christian/not a slut, so don't be afraid to encourage her to be rougher and like it (if she does). It is perfectly normal.
Good luck and have a great marriage!
2006-09-23 08:33:47 · answer #2 · answered by emp04 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are going to have to take it easy with her. If you really love her and want her to love sex too, you will be gentle. There will be time for that rough and hard stuff later. Well if you don't want kids, you better learn to like condoms. She can take the pill and use female condoms. You need to talk to her about the situation.
2006-09-23 08:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by mrslang1976 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well let's just say those rough and hard days are over for now. If she is a virgin and you love her you must be gentle with her. Take it slow make love to her don't "have sex"...those are two different things and I thing you know what I mean. She will eventually get to the point where you are but it will take time.
2006-09-23 13:12:51 · answer #4 · answered by winter715 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your gf before you get married. Discuss birth control methods if you don't want children. Marriage is a big step, children are a bigger one. Consider her feelings.
2006-09-23 08:36:33 · answer #5 · answered by fdrsnail 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to continue enjoying it, then take your time and don't hurt her. If you do, sex won't be enjoyable for either of you. When a woman saves herself for the man she loves, the man in return should treat her tenderly and with respect.
2006-09-23 08:26:30 · answer #6 · answered by kayboff 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I guess you have nothing to worry about...she has nothing to compare it too. She will assume that sex that is rough and hard is normal. Oh boy wait till she talks about it with her girlfriends!!!!
2006-09-23 08:29:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please do not marry this poor girl, it does not sound like you have talked to her about your sexual desires and needs. Or you counting on her not knowing the difference, I think either way you need help
2006-09-23 10:46:27 · answer #8 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be patient with her... if u love her you will waituntil shes ready for rough,hard and bare back! good luck...
2006-09-23 09:19:30 · answer #9 · answered by ♥PrEcIoUs♥DaYdReAmEr♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go easy on her the first time and then after she has done it for a while then do it ur way
2006-09-23 09:07:39 · answer #10 · answered by scottygirl1623 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋