I like this guy alot. Ive known him 2 months and I just feel like I am in love. He says he feels it too. Im in college and I hope that when I am done we can get married and have children etc. The only thing is I am a carribean lady and he is middle eastern. Our cultures are SO different. He hangs out with alot of carribean people but its not the same. I just think this makes us slightly incompatible for the long run. Is it possible for 2 people from 2 totally different worlds to be togther?
2006-09-23 07:59:39 · 29 answers · asked by Tian 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Of course! It may not be quite as smooth as it would be if you were both from the same culture, but it's far from impossible and if you love each other enough you should be able to make it work out.
2006-09-23 08:01:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can make it work if you wanna make it work, but there has to be a lot of compromise. Trust me i've been there. Then you have to deal with both families. Some families can be really judgemental about marrying someone with a different culture. Especially older people set in their ways (stubborn.) If you guys love each other sit and talk about it. Decide what problems you may encounter and how you plan to overcome them together.
2006-09-23 08:04:00 · answer #2 · answered by summer love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about respect for tradition and culture. Your only alienated if you allow that to happen and if you choose to be reclusive from his gatherings or social activities with people of his culture. Be as enthusiastic about his culture and open minded and welcoming and I promise he will do the same to yours. Above all there shouldn't be a problem when in the end it's only about the two of you.
Not the genetics or racial make-up. What you two share in your house in person is sacred but culture and traditions should never be overlooked
2006-09-23 08:05:09 · answer #3 · answered by Truth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, it's possible for you 2 to be together, but you've got to give it time. 2 months isn't hardly long enough for you and he to learn to understand to respect one another's differences such as religions, holidays, family values, etc. Are you able to conform to his idea of marriage, and is he able to conform to yours. You're in college, so concentrate on your studies first, for you'll have plenty of time to prepare yourself for the responsibilities of a serious relationship with someone. Your education will help you gain a better understanding of different people from different cultures, and prepare you to make sound decisions. First, you've got to fully understand who you are and where you're coming from before you begin attempting to learn who the next person is and where they're coming from. Life is far less complicated if you don't try and rush it, for it's impossible to rush it. Slow down, lady, and let life catch up to you. It shall, and when it does you're certain to find it much more enjoyable.
2006-09-23 08:16:58 · answer #4 · answered by tyrone n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love doesn't last. It is a hormone reaction between two people to get them to talk to each other, and to reproduce. Long relationships are not necessarily related to love, but to compatible goals and ideas. Marriage is a contract to work together in order to complete your goals in life. It isn't magic. It's work. Just like starting a company together. If you can see the two of you agreeing on a mission in life, then you can probably work it out. If all you think about is spending time with him and the fantasy of who you think he is going to become, then you are not ready to get married. You fall in love with a fantasy, you marry reality.
Good luck.
2006-09-23 08:05:34 · answer #5 · answered by auntiegrav 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is if you're serious and commit to it. Being from vastly different cultures, there will be snags and problems. If you all really love each other, however, there isn't much you can't overcome.
The key would be understanding and communication. Learn about his culture and have him learn about yours. Be open minded and communicate any feelings you have between the two of you.
Good luck!
2006-09-23 08:02:21 · answer #6 · answered by Kinzel99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my hubby is from Trinidad and i am white and we have been married for 12 years and have two kids and we are very different but we love each other very much and that is what helps us with are differences i love Caribbean music and he likes the music i like to so u learn to accept thing and grow together to make each other happy good luck and yes i no things could work for u
2006-09-23 08:12:16 · answer #7 · answered by janet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure as long as you guys are in love. relationships are hard enough and the only way they will ever work is if both are in love with the other. just because you guys are different doesnt mean it wont work...but you both do have to be in love
2006-09-23 08:06:47 · answer #8 · answered by J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!!!! Its just a matter of do u Love him and does he Love u. If u both do, if will be fine in the long run.
2006-09-23 08:05:02 · answer #9 · answered by Eric MD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I am Italian and my boyfriend is El Salvadorian. My entire dating life I have dated outside of my race even with my family giving me grief. I ignore what they have to say and do what makes me happy. If you are happy with this guy, go with it. Race does not matter when it comes to love.
2006-09-23 08:04:43 · answer #10 · answered by italiana2683 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋