I know him for over 4 years and it was my idea to go somewhere together. He told me that he cares for me and that's is. He's not reacting on my messages. Is it possible that it's because I never sad I care for him???? What should I do now? Leave things their own way?
2006-09-23 07:48:33 · 14 answers · asked by prahmedio 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi hun... how long after the date has it been??
Maybe he is just thinking things through or genuinely not sure what he wants. Give him a bit of space, you dont want him thinking that you are some Bugaboo type girlfriend and scare him away completly. Give him a bit of space babe, He clearly likes something about you to be your friend for over 4 years.. but maybe just maybe thats all he wants.. You just have to decide if thats enough for you and respect him for being honest.. Hope it all works out.
2006-09-23 08:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by Baby Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, i feel for you. Let him ring you - he will if he is interested. If not then let him go - better not to let yourself get any deeper with him and maybe get hurt.
Sometimes, I think when men say they care - they don't mean it in the same way as us ladies (maybe there are alternative motives). I don't think it's got anything to do with you din't express your feelings. Men still remind of the primitive cavemen they came from - if they see something they really want they will be nothing that stops them from getting it.
I read this book called 'The Rules' a long time ago (happily married now) and found it a brilliant book. I laughed when I first read it but a lot of it is based on psychology. Maybe you should give it a go.
2006-09-23 18:50:46 · answer #2 · answered by pet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you are saying .... it has been a 4 year friendship. If he is not calling you back after 7 days .. I would say he probably wants to keep it at the same level the relationship is at now. OR .. he may be very shy .. only you know which. If he is shy, then just tell him straight out that you would like to get to know him better .. and that you have feelings that go deeper than a friendship only. He'll let you know one way or the other. Sometimes you just have to force yourself to be direct. Good Luck ! :)
2006-09-23 14:52:55 · answer #3 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By asking him out you proved that you cared for him. He obviously just wants to keep it at friendship level. Go back to being his friend, if you can. That isn't always possible when you've crossed a line. Hopefully, it will be in this case. Good luck!
2006-09-23 14:53:39 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel Maria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait a bit if he doesnt ring after 4/7 days then phone him if you like him!! you dont have to say you care for him me and my boyfriend were friends for 5 years before we got together and we just went shopping as a first date!! no feelings were shared!!
2006-09-23 14:53:19 · answer #5 · answered by aimzinch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it means he's not interested and sometimes it means that he wants to give you some space then he'll call. If I were you I'd wait a few days and set up another date!!
2006-09-23 14:50:27 · answer #6 · answered by Mimi Kitty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you may need to give him a call and ask him the question, " Do you love me?" If he hesitates, he may not be worth it, or else he's with another woman (not necessarily 'physically', just seeing someone else) in which case, go with your instincts.
On the other hand, he may reply with the same question, in which case he's putting the ball in your court.
2006-09-23 14:55:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's a mate of yours, he should be responding in some way. Give him time to react, but keep your options open regarding other men/dates.
2006-09-23 14:50:47 · answer #8 · answered by gerbiltamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make a ph call, if he picks the ph up, talk about how u enjoyed the outing n stuffs...
if u leave a msg, see if he calls u w/i a week, if he doesnt, move on.
if u go meet him, try to meet when he is with his frens.. n see his reaction...
u will surely be 100% sure of what he thinks.
2006-09-23 15:04:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go. If he's interested he'll call. Otherwise the answer is obvious.
2006-09-23 14:51:04 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋