how much does what your friends think affect you? what if they disagree with you, or think you are being stupid with someone who doesnt care? i dont want to listen to them but i should.
2006-09-23 07:30:34 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you want "don't listen to your friends, listen to your heart" answers, then you already have plenty of them. The very fact that you are asking this question means there is some hope that you still have an open mind and that you are not just looking for answers with which you agree.
Listen to your friends with an open mind. I don't mean acquaintances, I mean true friends - ones whom you have known and trusted for years - people that have your best interest at heart. Listen to their arguments, both pro and con.
If there is a majority of friends that think this partner is a bad choice, then examine their arguments against this partner. Are they similar arguments or do they vary? This could be a good guide to tell you whether to listen or not. If the arguments against are similar in nature then many people are seeing something you are not. This lends credence to their case.
Review your friends. Do these friends always tear down any partner you pick or are you hearing bad things about your partner from friends who are usually quiet and non-judgemental? If you are hearing from the latter group, that's another sign that maybe you should be listening to your friends.
There is an old saying: Love is Blind. In some cases this is a good thing, in other cases it's a bad thing. When you think you are in love, you tend to see a person's good qualities and gloss over their bad ones. Sometimes friends (who have your best interests at heart) see things you overlook.
It's funny that we listen to our friends and value their opinion over things like "should I buy this piece of clothes?" or "should I buy this car?" or "what do you recommend eating at this restaurant?". But when it comes to listening to our friends and respecting their opinions about potential partners, it seems that all of a sudden most of us go deaf.
My wife and I worked together to answer your question. Please save yourself some grief and listen to your friends.
2006-09-23 08:02:24 · answer #1 · answered by Spiritual but not religious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me personally , I don't give a rats @$$ if my friends like my b/f or not. I am probably much older than you so I know from experience , when you listen to friends its either because they are jealous of you and want your man , they don't want to see you happy , or maybe they are right about him , but its up to you to see for yourself. Some of my friends and fam don't like my b/f now , and they don't even know him. They only go by what I tell them when I am upset and think he's so wrong for me. So what I did is stopped telling ppl my business that way they cannot think of him in anyway. I know my b/f loves and cares about me and the kids so that's why I do not listen to ppl and there negative thoughts. Now if he doesn't care for you and you know this then I say don't waste your time at all leave him alone. But if you know he cares don't listen to anyone but your self . ONLY YOU CAN MAKE YOU HAPPY .
2006-09-23 08:02:23 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Army Wife ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What matters is what you think.
Being a Man I have noticed something about Women and their female friends.
Your Single friends will become jealous that you have found someone and give you BAD advice.
Friends that already have a partner may get jealous if your bloke is better looking than theirs.
In short.
Trust only your feelings. It's your life and screw what anyone else thinks. You are going to be with the guy. Not them. Give him a chance!!!
2006-09-23 07:35:05 · answer #3 · answered by Fantom Doughnut Eater 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friends and family mean alot to me so I take their judgements/observations to heart.
However, I do make my own decisions and rely on my gut feeling when choosing partners.
Always listen to your inner voice and you will be guided in the best direction. Love has a funny way of making a person ignore friends' advice. But your gut feeling can't be swayed or ignored.
2006-09-23 07:38:01 · answer #4 · answered by Kamikazeâ?ºKid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do the choosing without anyones help if you meet a man and i take it you are a lady writing this you will know if there is any kind of reaction to anything you say or do and if you meet again and again and you feel he is the man you would like to share your life with then to hell with anyones advice good or bad just do what you both want to do if you feel you love each other If this relates to you then Good Luck
2006-09-23 07:43:54 · answer #5 · answered by srracvuee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simply by fact being married is so lots greater suitable than merely intercourse. intercourse is a factor of being married, and loving one yet another, confident. authentic love thinks approximately alluring the different spouse- not purely themselves. Lust says please ME! good intercourse comes all for the duration of a good LOVING marriage, even whilst the bodies substitute from baby-bearing and age! And have faith me NONE human beings think of- oh i gets fat and dishevelled! LOL yet no one dodges that bullet. no one. the merely right intercourse comes once you fairly love and guard one greater, in view which you could enable your guard down. And with one yet another consistently finding out for the different- how are you able to lose? besides, there is so lots greater to marriage than intercourse. The intercourse isn't as important as authentic love and cherishing. merely think of- what in case you have been injured in some way, or your husband had some ailment and would desire to not have intercourse anymore? could you leave them? Is that love?
2016-12-15 13:00:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the end of the day it's not up to them !!! They aren't the ones going out with the person.........only you can make that decision even though the interference from your friends may make you doubt
2006-09-23 07:33:41 · answer #7 · answered by tinkerbell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started out listening to my friends on who I should be with, that got me a lot of heartache.
Choose someone who it makes you feel good to be around, but more importantly........someone who makes you feel good about yourself when you are with them.
Accept nothing less.
2006-09-23 07:34:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont listen to people,follow ur heart,In relationships/in life we ol have ups n downs.U dont wanna listen then simply dont!
2006-09-23 07:36:51 · answer #9 · answered by soft heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very careful about listening to "friends". Everyone has an opinion and their opinion can be wrong. you need to follow your heart and head.
2006-09-23 07:33:19 · answer #10 · answered by united9198 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋