im 19 and i am a social phobic.Can i date ?

Question

i really need a person who can care about me.Im alone

Answer 1

i used to be until i decided the type of career i wanted and then i had to move away to join a course. I started to get to know one or two people and luckily i meet a wonderful guy in the house we shared and three years later we're still together.

Just start small and never force your self to go out if you don't want to, you'll only end up hating it even more.

If you want to talk more e-mail me.

Hope this helps.

Answer 2

What do social anxiety, depression, and social phobia have in common?
They are all terms for 'being too self-absorbed', and terms people are more comfortable admitting to having.

But they really mean they you have a tendency to make everything ALL ABOUT YOU, all the time.
You worry what people think of you, how you appear to others, things happening to you, about you, for you, and because of you.

See? It's you, you, you, you, you, you......

If 2 out of 5 people have some kind of social anxiety, (and they are only concerned with themselves) then how could everything possible be all about you?

SA is simply a negative self-talk "filter" that you perceive the world through. The way to get rid of this filter, is to force yourself to make it 'all about others'.

You take the first steps by smiling at everyone (they'll think you won a car). You take the next steps by making eye contact with every other peoson you encounter.

You take the next steps by complimenting people and making positive observations. People dress certain ways, have certain things, and go certain places just to be noticed. So let them know you noticed their effort with a friendly remark.

The next steps include asking questions. Compliments and questions start to build rapport. Volunteer little about yourself, and make it all about them. Push their "I want to feel important" buttons. Listen to them.

Make someone's day, every day. You have so much power within yourself to do that. It will make you feel good to do. Do this unselfishly and generously. It comes back to you.....

Give to others what you want from them for yourself. Seek to understand before expecting to be understood. Be a giver and you will receive.

Answer 3

19 stop waisting your time isolating practice becomes easy when you practice , when you go out tomorrow look at cloths on a person notice something you like and tell them that a nice ? why you like it where did you buy it how nice it looks on the person and youl be helping someone else while helping youself that person may need aperson with that personality you never no at the same time, you will learn communacating with people while possibly helping that person .remember one monkey dosnt stop the show continue with opening up no matter how you go about it its your life your talking about thats very important, find a subject a the conversation willtake off on its on unless you get stuck with a dud of aperson one monkey dont stop the shoe espcially when your lifes on the line pull y our self out of hell and others will join. nothing to lose and a life you will gain . Stop fulling with this phobic and attack head on there no way you will lose if you take my advise it loses its strenght when you openup , it lives and laugh while you phobic? attack and you will defeat your opponit.theres no more time to be waisted go after this illness find a target and digin nice shoes where did you buy them at if the person wants aconversation thell feed the issue if not someone just like you needs someone just like you and will talk to you with flying colors .Screen your targets and go in for the theapy thats gonna save your life ?one day you may turn out to be a therapist or even a Disc Jockey . good luck stop feeding this phobic life snatch your therapy for free at the bus stop grocery where ever there people . you life depends on it
Kenny

Answer 4

Well yeah but if you want a healthy relationship you should really work out your phobia first. See a counselor and ease into this with small gatherings of people.

When you meet a great guy you want to be ready for it and happy.

Answer 5

You can but it would be hard. Do you have a friend or relative who could introduce you to others who could explain your situation? Maybe you could see a counselor who could lessen the effects of the phobia. Good Luck, and God Bless.

Answer 6

Download or buy the audio series "overcoming social anxiety" by Thomas Richard.
It helped me a lot.

Answer 7

Yes you can date.But you have to deal with your social anxiety first,because you might get really nervous/anxious and and get dizzy.Often people say yes and go do it,but you have to question your feeling's.Will you be able to handle it?and which way's can approve your relationship's.You need to think positive thought's.

Answer 8

omg im 19 too! and i couldnt find any guys around my school were nice/not just out for sex. so i went on a dating website and i meet 3 guys who seem cool, and talked to them on the phone. we might meet soon!

Answer 9

U r not social phobic but u more like quiet environment.

U r like me. I'm 19 too, but i prefer to spend my time in my room or watching TV... i more like quiet environment but that is not mean i never chill out. but i prefer to chill out with my friends on the nite. nite is the very quiet time...

why u need someone care about u?
i'm single too, but for me... i do not need all that
i can care myself!

hehehe... maybe next time i will change my mind... i dunno... but so far, i feel great with my lonely life bcos for me, i no need gf so far... i prefer to be their friend than their special bf

Answer 10

Yes, if u like, u can email me at: [e-mail] . Just always keep meeting people and trust u will find the right one that fits what u desire.