My brother has a girlfriend that I don't like, because she just uses my brother. She picks him up when ever she wants him. And then drops him when she doesn't. My brother got in trouble when hanging out with her and she didn't talk to him the whole time he had community service! In my opinion thats pretty mess up! Anyways HELP!!
2006-09-23 06:08:13 · 19 answers · asked by Me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can ask him why he likes her, see what he says....
Then you can ask him, "Did you notice that she wasn't around while you were doing your community service?" Or "Do you think she is someone you can count on?'
I only suggest these methods of talking to him to get HIM to see how she treats him without YOU saying negative things about her. If you are negative about her to him he might just get mad and not listen.
If you cannot get him to work this through on his own, there really isn't much else you can do except be there for him when he does realize that she is no good for him.
You're a good sister! Good luck!
2006-09-23 06:18:47 · answer #1 · answered by seaelen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets analyse the situation with an open mind without taking sides and find the solution.
Case#1. Your perception might be wrong and the two of them are more undrsatnding towards eachother. So let the things go smooth without hurting yourself. You might come to the conclusion after some time that you were wrong in perceiving their relationship.
Case#2. Your percetion is right. If this is the case even then let them go free and you will see that the relationship will not last for long and your brother will learn soon through the hard way. It is very necessary for him to learn the hard way because thats how he will learn to survive in the world. After all for how long you can spoon feed him. He has to generate in himself the sense of discriminating the right from wrong. So that he never makes the mistakes ever again.
But that does not mean that you should not guide him. You must advise him at least once and then set him free to learn how to fly and with whom.
I hope you got my point.
2006-09-23 13:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds liek she is given your brother more then attitude. he is either getting some from her or he enjoys the BAD GIRL image.
Also sounds like your borther needs to THING with his BIG head and NOT do stupidcrap that gets him int oareas where he HAS ot Do Community Service , that normally means Arrested and charged with a crome and found guilty.
So tell your brother to GROW UP and realize a piece of tush is not worth throwing his whole life dow nthe toliet.
This feamel doesn ot have anything else that any other female does not have. So he needs to stop and think about HIMSELF cuz sounds like she does not think much about him.
2006-09-23 13:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by Glenn T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious to see that you care about your brother, but you can't choose who he has as a partner. All you can do now, is be there for him and hope he comes to realize what she's doing to him on his own.
Try to stay out of his business, it you push too much he'll start pulling away from you, and it seems like he needs you to kinda keep him grounded with reality.
Good Luck.
2006-09-23 13:13:45 · answer #4 · answered by makeitclap23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but this is your brother's problem. Respect his girlfriend. You don't have to like her but if you are nasty to her, you will only push your brother away.
Tell your brother your concerns (if you haven't already) and let him know that you are there for him.
It's entirely up to your brother when he decides not to be used as a toilet any more.
2006-09-23 13:15:07 · answer #5 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't pick his girl friend but you can tell him what you see happening. And you can guide him, but bye telling him what to do you will drive him away. You need to respectable to both of them and yes even nice to her unless she does something directly to you that you find offensive. She does sound messed up and in need of some help but it is his choice and he will find out what she is all about. Give him time!!
~Best of luck to all~
2006-09-24 11:22:12 · answer #6 · answered by vtlovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to your brother about how you see his girlfriend, explain everything. If he doesn't believe you and says that she loves him the way he loves her, then let him be. You can't really force him.
2006-09-23 13:17:07 · answer #7 · answered by Hayla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do about this. If your brother is too blind to see what kind of person he's going out with, you cant show him. He has to learn on his own. If you interfere, he'll become hostile towards you.
2006-09-23 13:10:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
ther's not much u can do. u don't say if ur bro is older or younger not that it really matters. the more u protest the more he's gonna want to be with her . leave it alone and he will eventually wake up and realize what's what.
2006-09-23 13:24:05 · answer #9 · answered by Nora G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as your brother lets this girl use him there is nothing you can do about it. i would back off a little bit and see if he wises up on his own.
2006-09-23 13:19:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋